talk me down please

mellymoo74

There's been a heck of a lot of support that's been turned down Meri so if she wants home we will manage.

SIL and Aunt are very close seem very similar to me. Odd that he's had no call to say he can visit isn't it? Luckily I am perfectly capable of checking that MIL is still at the hospital.

OH says that MIL was crying because no ones visiting......yes because they weren't letting them!

meritaten

I was just wondering that melly - when MIL and FIL were in the last stages of cancer, their house was constantly full of visitors. we never denied anyone the chance to see them - but did sometimes have to politely turf them out - otherwise MIL or FIL would never had a wash, or eaten anything or clean bedding etc. I did wonder whether it was just your OH or were her friends denied access too?

mellymoo74

No one is allowed in. Only people always allowed in are SIL, Niece and nephews.

No friends no brothers (to be fair she doesn't have many friends because she's like she is)

Still no call......I'm calling hospital tomorrow morning will briefly explain situation and try and get OH access in the morning.

meritaten

Ive seen this before melly - its a 'Control' thing I think. and malicious too. Aunty is a bully, and MILs illness gives her complete control. She is taking a perverse pleasure in isolating MIL from the friends/family who may be sympathetic to her. Simply because she can.
Makes me wonder just how dominant this woman has been all your MILs life? and your SIL sounds just like her.

mellymoo74

meritaten wrote: »

Ive seen this before melly - its a 'Control' thing I think. and malicious too. Aunty is a bully, and MILs illness gives her complete control. She is taking a perverse pleasure in isolating MIL from the friends/family who may be sympathetic to her. Simply because she can.
Makes me wonder just how dominant this woman has been all your MILs life? and your SIL sounds just like her.

I reckon hospital will have seen this type of thing before so a brief explanation and hopefully get OH in in the morning.

What worries me is I don't think they will tell him if she dies and obviously he isn't NOK.....

She's the younger sister, always been the family nursemaid/martyr. They spend alot of time together always have.

meritaten

There is nothing stopping you ringing now after visiting. ask that MIL be given a message to say her son couldn't come in tonight but would see her tomorrow. and if ward sister is available a quick chat please? It is important that MIL knows your OH is there for her.

meritaten

sorry - I am not clear if MIL is the younger or older sister? not that it makes much difference because its 'personality' that seems to come into play here.

mellymoo74

MIL is the elder.

They've brought her home! Couldn't stop myself calling won't let me speak to her.
Raised safeguarding again

meritaten

Who has brought her home? its rather strange if no care has been arranged? melly - I really think safeguarding team is needed here. although without knowing if MIL signed herself out or the hospital let her go its difficult to know exactly what is happening here.

mellymoo74

SIL and Aunt brought her home.

Don't know if discharged or just removed.

I need OH to agree, cannot do it myself