talk me down please

mellymoo74

She never brought the keys
Tenancies need to start on a Monday and can't start on a bank holiday.
She does want to see here again which means a weekend push.

That is a sultry pic of my Kevin.

He needs to trust the person working with him, MIND woman lied so he stopped engaging. He engaged with the CBT therapist and then her funding was cut just after he had unloaded the deep stuff.

Your right though I am exhausted and thoroughly fed up

mellymoo74

Pol

Tomcat, trinket, trink
Pickle, Princess, pick, piccalilli, picky loo
Tiger, tigerbabies, ty ty, tigermonkey
Kevin, kev kev.

Laurson, boo boo, boo, laursys
Freya, Froo, froogle, princess

mellymoo74

I can't do it
Its one thing to expect regular meltdowns it's another to deal with it. Sorting through stuff, dogs, cats and seeing if you still have a job

mellymoo74

Decision made
I'm speaking to a nice housing officer tomorrow about getting the keys
I cannot work, sort out animals, move stuff to friends, sort out OH.
I am asking for the key so I'm moving stuff to there.

OH manages one day then needs two days off so moving is going to be hard enough xxx

pollyanna_26

Melly I've been away for a few days so missed your posts following my comments on the the Mog picture .


I'm so sorry things are so tough for you . It's a wise move to get the keys and get on with the move.


Completely understand why your husband has lost trust in support services .Dd had many counsellors , therapist etc and none of them helped . Some were pretty hopeless but others really tried . One really engaged with her and did help in minor ways as she introduced some DBT among the CBT she was supposed to be using .
That was an NHS referral from our Dr to a service not being operated by our totally inept adult MH service . However the service was sold off to VirginCare and things were back to square one .


It's such a tough and frightening thing to really "Spill your guts" to be understood as your oh and my dd finally had the courage to do.
To look the demons from the past in the eye and try to move forward is the only way but cuts and selling off services leave all those things out in the open and no help forthcoming .


Think you need to get on with the move . At some stage when things are a bit more settled speak to your GP about the possibility of finding someone best suited to helping your husband .
My dd had ptsd , off the scale anxiety , agoraphobia and while not psychotic had thoughts and triggers relating to the past that skewed her thinking and blocked her hopes of moving forward . She knew the things that happened in her past were because of the fallout from the wrong diagnosis 20 yrs earlier but that didn't stop her self judgement and everything that triggered the bad coping mechanisms .
There will be someone out there who'll help OH it's just finding them and hoping cuts don't affect them .


I don't understand the wondering if I still have a job comment. Is your job under threat or are you feeling work and everything else are too much ?


Thanks for the mog names and pet names . No wonder I got confused over the years . Kevin seems to be the one easiest to remember!
pollyx

charlie3090

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Pol

Tomcat, trinket, trink
Pickle, Princess, pick, piccalilli, picky loo
Tiger, tigerbabies, ty ty, tigermonkey
Kevin, kev kev.

Laurson, boo boo, boo, laursys
Freya, Froo, froogle, princess

This helped me too,I thought pickle and princess were 2 different cats lol,

I hope your day is going ok Melly, you can and you will get through all this,I am in awe of how you manage to juggle everything x

mellymoo74

Really not managing have sort of dropped the work ball
Have had silly migraine attacks in and off all week whilst trying to sort out home.
Also realised as I heard him shouting in his sleep that the anniversary of the op is this weekend

pollyanna_26

Melly with the hot weather ,the stress and other problems at the moment it wouldn't be a surprise to have migraines . If I remember rightly you've had TIA events in the past . Not intended to worry you but bear it in mind if they continue .
Have you asked work if you can take some leave at least until the move is over?
pollyx

mellymoo74

A couple of left side weakness attacks already Pol.
I have been avoiding dealing with work cos I will cave and go back and I really can't at the moment

Wish me luck with tomorrow when I beg for keys
Also going to get gp to sign me off

Savvy_Sue

it always used to be possible to get overlap of payment of HB for up to two weeks when moving, so do bear that in mind if you're getting that.