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Pregnant 16 year old - benefits
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Although my daughters are only 15 and nearly 12, i've already told them if they get pregnant, there is no way on earth i would ever look after their child. Been there, done it with my own. Never again.0
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The grandmother says that her younger daughter is not claiming benefits for her grandson. She herself receives a student bursary and presumably any benefits that she receives for her own daughter are being used to pay for the daughter and her grandson. If daughter/grandson moved out, grandmother would lose CTC/CB for one child, but would have two less mouths to feed (not to mention the cost of nappies, milk and all of the other things that a baby needs). I suspect that her daughter is not only finncially better off, but benefits from the additional help and support from remaining in the family home.
She wrote that if the daughter claimed benefits in her own rights she would have to give her mum ALL OF IT to make up the difference and allow her to continue to go to Uni hence the baby not able to get as much. I took this to say that if the daughter claimed for herself and paid for everything for herself and child she wouldn't be able to afford to go to Uni.0 -
Words fail me....so her boy has to do with less so that YOU can continue your education?
My grandson goes without nothing! He probably gets more than he would if my daughter had the money.This may sound harsh, but why not? Or to put it another way, why should the grandmother sacrifice her own plans because her daughter/and boyfriend were irresponsible? If daughter was living independently with her child, the boy would probably have a lot less than he does now. The sad fact is that when a child has a child, it is often the maternal family who end up shouldering the responsibility e.g. childcare, finances etc. I for one don't blame Etenna for continuing with her own plans - she has herself and other dependent children to consider.
My daughter was 14 when she had him so could not get any benefits in her own right anyway. I stayed at home looking after my children for years (yes I was very lucky to be able to do that) and put everything on hold for myself. I started Uni then my marriage broke up.flashnazia wrote: »That's assuming the boy will get the money spent on him in the first place. Far better to give the money to the grandparent than have it spent on hairdos and iPhones.
When my eldest had her baby she used to spend quite a bit on clothes for herself and I still had to buy bits for her boy. It works out quite well with the youngest. We are both quite happy. I am now starting to give her a food budget to support her and her boy as I am out quite a bit currently.
She would find it very difficult to move out. 1 - she doesn't want to and 2 - social housing and private rents are very short supply. She plans to go to Uni herself in a couple of years.
We are happy with the arrangement. No one goes without. Things will change in a short time anyway when I finish Uni.0 -
Ok just reacted to what you wrote. My DD is 14yo and hasn't even kissed a boy yet can't imagine her having see let alone falling pregnant bur I assume that's what you thought of your own daughters too.0
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whodathunkit wrote: »Surely the last thing you want is for every pregant 16 year old to be given social housing?
No, not particularly, because I think very few, if any, 16 year olds could cope, unsupported, with a child.
In a difficult situation, I think most very young mums will do best if supported, in various ways, by their own mums (although that will obviously depend on how good their own mothers are).
I was just responding to a suggestion that the girl could get her own place and get on with it - and making the point that social housing is increasingly difficult to obtain, even with priority need, which a baby counts as.
The best she would be able to hope for is a probably grotty private let, funded by HB.
On that basis, if possible, she will be better at home with her mum, hopefully continuing with education, so that she and the baby have more to look forward to than a life on benefits, in sub standard housing.
Lin
You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands..........for instance, if they are placed around your throat, she's probably slightly upset.
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It's the easiest way to get their own place.whodathunkit wrote: »Surely the last thing you want is for every pregant 16 year old to be given social housing?0 -
Which is wrong.
Meaning they can't and haven't been able to for more than a few years, with the housing shortage.
Whatever the Daily Mail says lol
Lin You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands..........for instance, if they are placed around your throat, she's probably slightly upset.0 -
Will his parents be contributing to the financial welfare of their grandchild seeing as their son is still a 16 year old schoolboy?I don't know.
When my friend discussed abortion with her daughter, she then went back to the boyfriend and he told her that he wanted her to keep the baby.
Let's hope the schoolboy accepts his responsibility along with his parents and doesn't leave everything to the taxpayer.0
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