Pregnant 16 year old - benefits

northerntwo1

pipkin71 wrote: »

Thanks.

I will pass it on

She will be a priority for careful assessment so the midwife will ensure services and advice are given. It's not unusual for a SW referral and this isn't a bad thing.

As far as I know lone parents are exempt from being forced to stay in education until 18.

northerntwo1

A 16 year old who thinks they know it all having that option is scary. It's got to be something the grandma considers as the "my house my rules" can be met with - I'm off! I'm moving in with xxx and you cannot stop me.

As I said it's why I'd be reluctant to allow the 16 year old to claim the child benefits as it opens up a whole other world.

schrodie

pipkin71 wrote: »

The father is also 16 so is not in employment. His mother is now aware that her son is going to be a dad as my friend told her last week.

Will his parents be contributing to the financial welfare of their grandchild seeing as their son is still a 16 year old schoolboy?

pipkin71

schrodie wrote: »

Will his parents be contributing to the financial welfare of their grandchild seeing as their son is still a 16 year old schoolboy?

I don't know.

When my friend discussed abortion with her daughter, she then went back to the boyfriend and he told her that he wanted her to keep the baby.

They didn't tell his mum though so my friend went to see her, to let her know. This is second hand as I can only say what my friend told me but she said the mum didn't appear to care. [His mum is also a single parent so no idea about the father. I don't know if the boyfriend is in contact with him.]

It could be that she was shocked and reacted badly but I wasn't there when the conversation took place so I really don't know.

C_Mababejive

pipkin71 wrote: »

I don't know.

When my friend discussed abortion with her daughter, she then went back to the boyfriend and he told her that he wanted her to keep the baby.

They didn't tell his mum though so my friend went to see her, to let her know. This is second hand as I can only say what my friend told me but she said the mum didn't appear to care. [His mum is also a single parent so no idea about the father. I don't know if the boyfriend is in contact with him.]

It could be that she was shocked and reacted badly but I wasn't there when the conversation took place so I really don't know.

I think it is time for some very frank,open ,honest and perhaps painful discussion. These parents need to meet with or without the children to look at all the options. Truth is that this young girls' future is at stake here and she may find it very difficult to further her education and career and get a useful job/career. Meanwhile some young lad,simply acting on gut instinct and lust has knocked her up and his mouth is saying all the right things but in the near or mid future, he will think,,,sod this,,i need a life and he may well abandon her to the her parents and the state.

Whilst the state is ready and well used to this,are her parents? Dont they have lives to lead too?

whodathunkit

Flugelhorn wrote: »

she has to stay in education now until she is 17 or the end of year 12 or whaever - has recently changed. My DD is in year 12 and is the first year who have to either be at school, college or in an apprenticeship.

Or a job with a substantial training element.

Ettenna

My eldest had her baby just before sitting her GCSE's and claimed CTC & CB straightaway and IS and Care to Learn from the time she was in college. I still claim the CTC & CB for my youngest and she gets the CB and Care to Learn for her boy. The circumstances surrounding the two situation were totally different. For the first I was married, had a mortgaged home and could "afford" for her to claim because I got money from my now ex. For the second I was divorced, renting and needing the dependants allowances in order for us to survive. The youngest "could" claim but she would be paying me all the money straight over to make up the money I would lose in LHA, NHS bursary, CTC, etc. I would love for her to be able to get everything for her boy but it is just not possible at least until I finish university.

pipkin71

Ettenna wrote: »

My eldest had her baby just before sitting her GCSE's and claimed CTC & CB straightaway and IS and Care to Learn from the time she was in college. I still claim the CTC & CB for my youngest and she gets the CB and Care to Learn for her boy. The circumstances surrounding the two situation were totally different. For the first I was married, had a mortgaged home and could "afford" for her to claim because I got money from my now ex. For the second I was divorced, renting and needing the dependants allowances in order for us to survive. The youngest "could" claim but she would be paying me all the money straight over to make up the money I would lose in LHA, NHS bursary, CTC, etc. I would love for her to be able to get everything for her boy but it is just not possible at least until I finish university.

How has the situation worked out with your youngest now, if you don't mind me asking?

I think my friend does have some financial concerns - if her daughter claims the benefits, will she hand over money to her mum, to cover a portion of bills? On the other hand, if my friend claims for her daughter, she may be affected by the benefit cap.

I have just spoken to her and they have been at loggerheads again, with her daughter walking out. She is in tears, never wanted this for her daughter

dandelionclock30

One of my mothers work friends daughter had a baby at 15, and looked after her properly and went to college and has now got a decent job.
Its not all doom and gloom and the girls future is not over if she keeps the baby. She will have options for continuing her studies if she wishes, lots of colleges have creches etc. These things happen and its not the end of the world although its not ideal.
Britain has the highest teenage preganancy rate in Europe and I think more work needs to be done on an educational level with young people about this.Also on confidence building etc. Places like Sweden which is much more liberal than Britain have a much lower teenage preganancy rate.

FBaby

I would love for her to be able to get everything for her boy but it is just not possible at least until I finish university.

Words fail me....so her boy has to do with less so that YOU can continue your education?