Best friend, birthday

Mojisola

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I guess I feel a bit hurt because I went all out for her birthday, such is life!

CH27 wrote: »

That was your choice.

She probably won't get the same treatment from you next year, will she?

Buzzybee90

Mojisola wrote: »

She probably won't get the same treatment from you next year, will she?

She will still get a card and a present but I probably won't take her out for dinner too. I don't give to receive but I but a lot of effort into organising everything and as I said I only expected a card, no present.

Like I said, such is life.

dandelionclock30

I dont think shes that bothered about you really. If she valued you then she would have done something with you for your birthday(even just coming round) and acknowledged it a bit better. A text is a step up from nothing.
At least you know where you stand with her. From a best friend thats quite bad in my opinion. It would be acceptable for an aquaintance only really.

Buzzybee90

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I dont think shes that bothered about you really. If she valued you then she would have done something with you for your birthday(even just coming round) and acknowledged it a bit better. A text is a step up from nothing.
At least you know where you stand with her. From a best friend thats quite bad in my opinion. It would be acceptable for an aquaintance only really.

About a month ago she asked me if I wanted to go to a local cafe for afternoon tea for my birthday, I of course said yes but it was never mentioned again.

I do, it certainly feels like she doesn't care.

Pollycat

You say you went 'all out' for her birthday.

Maybe she didn't want so much fuss and is just trying to let you know by not making so much of your birthday.

Maybe she is struggling financially and can't afford to buy you a present and felt awkward so didn't pop round but sent a text instead.

Or maybe you have unknowingly offended her somehow.

It could be any number of reasons, but you're not going to find out unless you ask her - or ask friend A if you think she is likely to know and won't blab to friend B.

Personally, I'd just shrug it off and make a mental note to just send a birthday card next year.

PenguinOfDeath

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

About a month ago she asked me if I wanted to go to a local cafe for afternoon tea for my birthday, I of course said yes but it was never mentioned again.

I do, it certainly feels like she doesn't care.

Ah yes, I have one of those. Frustrating isn't it?

go_cat

I think today with modern technology ..mobiles, facebook etc there is less use for cards for people to know you are thinking of them, there are so many 'free' ways of doing it ! Add onto a card the cost of a stamp etc. to me a text message is just as good ...:)

Buzzybee90

go_cat wrote: »

I think today with modern technology ..mobiles, facebook etc there is less use for cards for people to know you are thinking of them, there are so many 'free' ways of doing it ! Add onto a card the cost of a stamp etc. to me a text message is just as good ...:)

Maybe you're right and I love getting birthday texts from my lovely friends but she is my best friend who lives in the same city so no need for a stamp I do appreciate she thought of me though x

Buzzybee90

Pollycat wrote: »

You say you went 'all out' for her birthday.

Maybe she didn't want so much fuss and is just trying to let you know by not making so much of your birthday.

Maybe she is struggling financially and can't afford to buy you a present and felt awkward so didn't pop round but sent a text instead.

Or maybe you have unknowingly offended her somehow.

It could be any number of reasons, but you're not going to find out unless you ask her - or ask friend A if you think she is likely to know and won't blab to friend B.

Personally, I'd just shrug it off and make a mental note to just send a birthday card next year.

She asked for the meal so I don't think that's it. Mental note made!

dandelionclock30

Only you know if shes a decent friend or not. If she was decent in other ways like being supportive when needed, thoughtfull and not being a me me me person then I might let it go.
If she was a taker all the time and then I got the text message then I would be inclinded to think the friendship had run its course. Sometimes little things are just part of the bigger picture.