Best friend, birthday

Buzzybee90

My birthday was over a week ago. I have two best friends (one life long (A), the other I have known about since I was 11 (B).

A came round a few days before and bought me a lovely card and present. B said happy birthday to me (via text) on my birthday but no card... Do I have any right to be upset? I wasn't expecting a present or anything (never do!) but she knows how much I value a card. I have left it a week or so because I thought it might just be late, but no mention of it. I haven't seen them since but I have spoken via text.

Would you be a bit upset?

Btw there is no aversion to sending cards or anything - I'm often sent photos of cards to give my opinion on them!

19lottie82

I think you're over reacting. they sent you a birthday text, id be happy enough with that.

double_mummy

what is it with everyone and cards at the moment?

Georgiegirl256

Does she usually send you a card then?

She remembered, she acknowledged your birthday via text, so I would say that you are overreacting a little bit.

PasturesNew

I'd be happy somebody remembered and said "Happy Birthday".

thorsoak

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

My birthday was over a week ago. I have two best friends (one life long (A), the other I have known about since I was 11 (B).

A came round a few days before and bought me a lovely card and present. B said happy birthday to me (via text) on my birthday but no card... Do I have any right to be upset? I wasn't expecting a present or anything (never do!) but she knows how much I value a card. I have left it a week or so because I thought it might just be late, but no mention of it. I haven't seen them since but I have spoken via text.

Would you be a bit upset?

Btw there is no aversion to sending cards or anything - I'm often sent photos of cards to give my opinion on them!

No, I wouldn't be upset - she'd said happy birthday, after all! It is always possible that she has sent a card, and it has been lost/delayed in the post - such things DO happen after all.

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill - would you really want to lose a friend over a picture on a piece of cardboard? I certainly wouldn't. I'd value the friendship far more.

Buzzybee90

thorsoak wrote: »

No, I wouldn't be upset - she'd said happy birthday, after all! It is always possible that she has sent a card, and it has been lost/delayed in the post - such things DO happen after all.

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill - would you really want to lose a friend over a picture on a piece of cardboard? I certainly wouldn't. I'd value the friendship far more.

Of course, I'm not going to mention it either but she only lives a few streets away so wouldn't have had to send it.

I guess I feel a bit hurt because I went all out for her birthday, such is life!

Yes she does normally give me a card to the person who asked.

Buzzybee90

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Does she usually send you a card then?

She remembered, she acknowledged your birthday via text, so I would say that you are overreacting a little bit.

Yes she does.

This is why I've not mentioned it to her, or anyone else in RL.

FBaby

I did worse than that, I forgot all together the birthday of someone who extremely dear to me and has been a great support for years. It took more than a month after I realised and felt so utterly ashamed. I apologised, sent flowers and the rest, but nothing could make up the fact that I forgot for so long. What made it worse is that they even provided help during the month I forgot and showed no resentment at all. I would have been utterly gutted if they had as I would have felt 10 times worse than I already did.

Thankfully, a year has gone since and another birthday and gosh did I make sure I didn't forget this time. Thankfully, they saw the funny side of it and tease me about time. It would have been such a pity to ruin the friendship over something that shouldn't have happened, but did by a huge mistake on my part.

Buzzybee90

FBaby wrote: »

I did worse than that, I forgot all together the birthday of someone who extremely dear to me and has been a great support for years. It took more than a month after I realised and felt so utterly ashamed. I apologised, sent flowers and the rest, but nothing could make up the fact that I forgot for so long. What made it worse is that they even provided help during the month I forgot and showed no resentment at all. I would have been utterly gutted if they had as I would have felt 10 times worse than I already did.

Thankfully, a year has gone since and another birthday and gosh did I make sure I didn't forget this time. Thankfully, they saw the funny side of it and tease me about time. It would have been such a pity to ruin the friendship over something that shouldn't have happened, but did by a huge mistake on my part.

Oh dear, at least you remembered though. Sure they understood!

CH27

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Of course, I'm not going to mention it either but she only lives a few streets away so wouldn't have had to send it.

I guess I feel a bit hurt because I went all out for her birthday, such is life!

Yes she does normally give me a card to the person who asked.

That was your choice.
She did acknowledged your birthday so I wouldn't be bothered by the lack of card.