What age is inappropriate for a child to see a parent naked

tyllwyd

Neither my OH or I have ever wandered around naked, even before we had kids - it's just not something that either of us would naturally do. I think I'd be OK with being naked around a baby, but I think I would feel a bit uncomfortable after about 18 months or so when they are toddlers.

Could you and your wife set a few ground rules - boxer shorts during the day, but naked is OK once the children are in bed, or upstairs only - a compromise you can both live with?

HPoirot

If I went to stay at my parents' tomorrow and got up in the night, I might still encounter my dad in his briefs going down for a glass of water or something. I am 37. Never seen him naked though, unlike my mum who gets dressed while having a chat with us.

Interestingly I have turned out to be a bit of a prude, I hate people getting dressed in front of me and would only walk around naked in front of my OH.

On the other hand, my cousins (both girls) used to have baths with their dad until they were around 10. As teens and adults though they wouldn't be unclothed in front of others.

For some children, it is par for the course, for others it awakens the prude in them.

savingmummy

I don`t think I`ve ever seen my parents naked.
My parents were older parents, and maybe old fashioned in their ways.

My children (DS 6yrs) and (DD 8yrs) haven't see me naked for a while - in underwear yes!
I bath when kids are in bed, I get washed and dressed while the children have breakfast so its just a routine I`ve stuck too.
I don`t like to see my own body so I`m sure they wouldn't:rotfl:

My DD would run a mile if dad was naked. DS is intrigued:rotfl:

Your child will react to let you know if its ok or not, children are honest and say it as it is.

sassyblue

OrkneyStar wrote: »

DS is nearly 7. He still sees us entering shower etc. I no longer use the loo in front of him, but daddy does obviously when we are out and about. The boundaries seem to be gradually being set in our house and no-one seems unhappy, that said most nakedness in our house is in the bathroom or bedroom, not generally!

^^^ this.

My parents were very prudish and l wasn't going to be like that with my family. Things evolve naturally, your kids see you getting dressed, showering and going to the loo - nothing is private when they're small. . But eventually they'll tell you they want some privacy when they use the loo, rather than my DS who used to ask me to sit with him.

Take the lead from your kids. I'm not sure l should still bathe with my 7yo but he strips off and gets in the bath with me so if he's ok with it l will be.

Mojisola

anon123456 wrote: »

In modern society when would it become innapropriate to be nude in front of my daughter?

This is a difficult one. What people do at home because they think it's normal and natural may not be seen as appropriate by outside agencies - particularly if a little girl mentions seeing Daddy with no clothes on.

InsideInsurance

Dont recall ever seeing my mother nude, thankfully, though I am sure in reality I did (adopted, so technically not necessarily true)

My father I saw nude my whole life, not in any form of exhibitionist sort of way but simple practicalities of going to the swimming baths with him so seeing him and lots of other guys naked in the changing rooms etc or when I walked in in the morning without knocking and he was coming out the shower or such. My mother on the other hand always locked the door.

For same sex I dont really see the need for a prudish approach, if nothing else it gives a counter balance to !!!!!! of what a normal person looks like naked - obv exhibitionism is a different matter. For the opposite sex then there is more of an argument for covering up but the kid will certainly tell you if you do that too late.

System

I've always thought when a child starts to cover his/her own naked body, is the best time to cover up.

However, saying that. My 18 year old son often walks to the bathroom in his underpants and he often catches me in my bra and pants. That's as open as we get though.

flea72

I think until you or your child feel uncomfortable with it, then its ok to walk around naked

My kids are 20, 12 and 6. Neither OH or myself cover up, when kids are around. OH might be a bit more discreet than me, as jn he will 'cup' it, but thats only because the youngest is at the stage of finding willies hilarious, so starts making comments

However, the kids have all started to cover up, once they reached puberty. But none of them have a problem with me and OH being nude, as its normal for them to see it.

I suppose me and OH come from backgrounds were nudity isnt such a big deal. We both play sports and communal showers/changing rooms are commonplace, so you dont tend to be shy about stripping off in front of others. When we go stay with our parents, its also no big deal to wander around in underwear and when out shopping with my mum i dont get bashful when she whipping off her bra to try on something

Really, your wife has said you cant be naked around a baby?

BitterAndTwisted

The issue here isn't what other people think is normal and healthy. The issue is that the OP wanders about his home naked or half-dressed most of the time and his wife doesn't think it's appropriate now they have a child. In the OP's position I'd be respecting her wishes. I suspect the baby is being used as a handy excuse for raising it.

victory

I don't have a problem either way but if your wife is bringing it up does she approve of nakedness in the house? Does she also go naked? Were you both brought up in different ways ( with regards nakedness in the home?)