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What age is inappropriate for a child to see a parent naked

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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,571 Forumite
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    The issue here isn't what other people think is normal and healthy. The issue is that the OP wanders about his home naked or half-dressed most of the time and his wife doesn't think it's appropriate now they have a child. In the OP's position I'd be respecting her wishes. I suspect the baby is being used as a handy excuse for raising it.

    This may be the answer. I know people who don't have any problem with nudity but wince at the idea of naked bottoms on the furniture for hygiene reasons.
  • FBaby
    FBaby Posts: 18,374 Forumite
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    I don't go around the house little clothes, but I stopped being naked in front of my kids the moment I noticed they avoided looking at me when I was. I knew then they were not totally comfortable with it.
  • thorsoak
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    And the other side of the coin is .....when do you tell your adolescent children (boys) that the sight of their "morning glory" is not something to share with the whole family?

    Having three sons who were prone to wander around in their pants (briefs at that time), it was somewhat disconcerting when it happened the first few times! - in the end, we got round the problem by adopting the rule "dressing gowns over pants downstairs - or put a pair of shorts on!"
  • mrcow
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    I couldn't care less about nudity in my family. The kids walk in on me in the bath/toilet etc all the time, just getting on with our lives.

    My son, however, is 12 and has his own personal boundaries as to what he wants to see/others to see. I just respect them. If he wants to talk to me when I'm in the bath, he just puts his hands over his face.

    Basically, if you don't want to see it, don't look.
    If you don't want others to see it, don't flash it about.

    I expect my kids to be mature about it. And pretty much, they are.
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • marie-20
    marie-20 Posts: 505 Forumite
    Neither of us sit around in the house naked however our 3 children do see us naked because they are nosey bug*ers lol.

    In all seriousness our kids are 11, 9 & 3 and whilst the 3 yo still bathes with me occasionally it is very rare that she will with her dad and that is because he feels uncomfortable with it.

    Both of us sleep naked so inevitably they see us naked getting dressed or running to the bathroom occasionally and they all seem to wander into the bathroom when we're having a bath. DH covers up his penis when the girls go in and I attempt to cover my bits to a degree when our eldest comes in but unfortunately as I am heavily pregnant and baby moves a lot when I'm in the bath he wants to feel my tummy etc when I'm in the bath which I find un-nnerving but obviously he doesn't however that said it is still quite infrequent for DS to come into the bathroom when I'm in there but he has no issues when it's his dad.

    I think that it is all down to personal choice - everyone is different as to what they think is acceptable.
  • Icey77
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    Funnily enough it's DH that's had the about turn on this issue, before our daughter was born he said he wouldn't want her to see him naked. But now he wanders about quite happily upstairs with no clothes on in the morning or when about to get in or out of the shower or bath.

    Our daughter is now 2 and loves bath time with Daddy, she thinks it's very funny that Daddy has a willy and will have a good look while she there. I don't like baths, only showers so if she wants to join me in the shower at any time she'll be welcome. She does see me naked too when I'm in the shower as I keep the door open to keep a bit of an eye on her if DH has already gone to work.

    We also sleep naked so it's only in the winter when it's cold do I put on a dressing gown if she needs me in the night.

    I'm due to have #2 shortly and if it's a boy we'll take the same approach as it seems to have worked ok with our daughter :)
    Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re probably right ~ Henry Ford
  • I can only say my parents never walked round in the noody. I never saw my dad naked, though I think when I was very young I must have seen mum in the bath.

    Do whatever you feel comfortable with, OP, it's your house.
  • anon123456
    anon123456 Posts: 134 Forumite
    edited 15 April 2014 at 2:14PM
    thanks for feedback everyone. I must admit i expected more prudish responses so quite pleased.

    However i need to defend my wife here. She is normally just as undressed as i am. Has never complained about this (far from it as we are still "happily" married as it were)
    and wasnt telling me to cover up etc at all. i think if she thought no one else would have a problem with it then she wouldnt even have mentioned it at all
    I think i must have not said that part right.

    thank you all

    PS: I think her opinion is a cross gender thing as she never mentioned having to cover herself up
  • elly68
    elly68 Posts: 2,556 Forumite
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    You will decide your course of action when as ours did she will announce in a restaurant whether u have a big one or a little one ,our two 11 &13 boy and girl have started telling us to stop sitting about naked so i do try however we caravan so small enclosed space they shut the middle door but appear to fail to notice that they are then getting naked in front of each other lol
    So finally debt free and it feels amazing however continuing here to stay debt free.Next declutter house and body and finally swim under that waterfall x
  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    My DD is almost 16 and she walks in on me in the shower and will chat away to me, she'll come in the bedroom when I'm getting changed etc.

    If she is in the bath Iw ould knock and then go in and talk to her but I have also walked in on her getting changed in her room and we both don't think anything of it.

    We also use the same changing room when swimming/clothes shopping etc.
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