We'd like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum... Read More »
We're aware that some users are experiencing technical issues which the team are working to resolve. See the Community Noticeboard for more info. Thank you for your patience.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
What age is inappropriate for a child to see a parent naked
Options
Comments
-
My DD is almost 16 and she walks in on me in the shower and will chat away to me, she'll come in the bedroom when I'm getting changed etc.
If she is in the bath Iw ould knock and then go in and talk to her but I have also walked in on her getting changed in her room and we both don't think anything of it.
We also use the same changing room when swimming/clothes shopping etc.
Do you think you would both be as comfortable if she was your son/you were her dad? I think the different gender thing was what the OP was more getting at.0 -
Our children see us naked if they come into our bedroom or bathroom or if OH comes in from running or on his bike he sometimes strips off downstairs if he is covered in mud.
Interestingly I am making a conscious effort to make DD age 9 realise that bodies are OK to show. She has suddenly got very body aware and getting changed for swimming can be a nightmare as she carefully moves her towel so nobody gets to see any bits she wants to keep covered.0 -
Interestingly I am making a conscious effort to make DD age 9 realise that bodies are OK to show. She has suddenly got very body aware and getting changed for swimming can be a nightmare as she carefully moves her towel so nobody gets to see any bits she wants to keep covered.
I think different individuals feels differently about nakedness, it doesn't forcibly mean they have issues with their body, just that they are more privy to it.0 -
This is a difficult one. What people do at home because they think it's normal and natural may not be seen as appropriate by outside agencies - particularly if a little girl mentions seeing Daddy with no clothes on.
I can't think of any agency that would be concerned by a child seeing daddy naked. It's touching and other inappropriate acts that are wrong.
Happy moneysaving all.0 -
Another issue that might come up when the kids are primary school age and older is what happens when friends come to call for them - if they walk past the window and notice that their friend's daddy is wandering around the house stark naked, that might come as a bit of a surprise. Unless the house is very private, it might be inevitable that the OP finds he needs to be a bit more covered up during the day by that time.0
-
DD and I don't bat an eyelid at each other's nudey bits, DS and OH ditto. But opposite sex parents? DS wanted me to start covering up once he was five or six, DD was probably the same age re her father. Interestingly DD (now 12) is very particular about keeping covered up in front of her dad and brother but her 18 yr old brother still does the streak from bedroom to bathroom on occasion, to a chorus of indignant screeches from her and comments of "FGS put it AWAY, son!" from dad and myself on her behalf. Basically in this house if someone starts feeling conscious of another's nudity then it's time to cover up.Val.0
-
I can't think of any agency that would be concerned by a child seeing daddy naked. It's touching and other inappropriate acts that are wrong.
But how would they know that it was only seeing unless they made further enquiries?
I think it's a shame that the only naked/semi-naked bodies most children see are the air-brushed pictures of models and celebrities in the press, on television and advertisements.
However, it only needs one child to say to another that she saw Daddy's willy for alarm bells to start ringing with other parents and teachers. It's the sad position we are in now that many cases of abuse are missed because the offenders are manipulative enough to make sure their victims don't talk while innocent parents can get investigated through something as innocent as seeing a parent in the bath.0 -
There isn't an inappropriate age, its just a body, it isn't a dirty thing we have to keep hidden.0
-
Mojisola
you have made a couple of posts in this topic which are exactly what i was worrying about when she grows up.
I don't want people to think i am being perverted or worse when i am only being natural (or natural as i see it)0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply

Categories
- All Categories
- 350.8K Banking & Borrowing
- 253K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 453.5K Spending & Discounts
- 243.8K Work, Benefits & Business
- 598.6K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 176.8K Life & Family
- 257K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16.1K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.6K Read-Only Boards