New Relationship advice

marisco_2

Ozzuk wrote: »

I'll try and talk to her tonight, get a sense of what she feels/wants.

A relationship should be a two way street. Definitely initiate an open and honest chat. I hope that after being with you for 3 months, this lady would also want to get a sense of what you are feeling and needing too. Talking with someone you are dating, over fundamentally important areas of a relationship, shouldn't make them feel under pressure if handled sensitively. If it does then that would suggest you are not that compatible.

19lottie82

cornista wrote: »

i have been in a relationship from past few days with a girl named seema. i like her very much and i think that i am in love with her, but don't know how to express my love. friends plz help me.

buy her a SPAM bouquet!

peachyprice

OP, this would worry me too, if she doesn't want much sex at this stage in your relationship it's only going to get worse, image how it would be be in 5 years time if it's this infrequent already?

And I don't buy this 'oh but she's got a 3yo, she must be too tired' line either, people are quite able to have a healthy sex life as well as children. I had 18 month old twins when I met my OH, I still couldn't get enough of him, that's how it usually is in the early stages of a relationship, all passion and snatching every minute. You work around the children to make it happen, because you want to, need to.

TBH, if she's not into sex now she either has an incredibly low sex drive, can you live with that, forever? Or she has issues she's not telling you about, do you have the patience to work through that? Or, and most likely, she's just not that in to you but likes having a man around.

dandelionclock30

I think that as well, basically shes not that bothered for you as she doesnt fancy you. But she likes you as a friend and enjoys spending time with you.
Actions speak louder than words really and shes obviously not interested in that way.

notanewuser

Perhaps the OP isn't the stud muffin he thinks he is.

19lottie82

Ozzuk wrote: »

This. My friends are saying move on, hence me hoping for less biased advice. She says she really likes me, and says its obvious because she wouldn't let me near her kids otherwise. And yes we do have 'make out' sessions. So, I can't just walk away because I want to see if it can progress.

Maybe she does like you but is just scared to commit...... She could have been let down in the past, hence why she is holding back.

But again, this is all speculation, you need really need to speak to her and find out the truth.

duchy

Sounds to me like she does like you but is genuinely taking it slowly as she is very newly out of a marriage.
I think you could push things now and blow it -or you could finish it and walk away....or you could see how things develop.

Ozzuk

Thank you everyone for the really good advice, I think many of you could be correct but the only way I'll know is by talking to her. I feel a little bit straighter in my mind though. I don't want to push anything but we need to be able to communicate and I don't want to just drift apart if it is just a case of going slow/tired/issues/other rather than I'm just bad in bed .

Again, thanks, its appreciated.

justme111

You said you would talked to her last.night !
You have not givel us enough detail to be able to answer , fbaby posted with questions which you have.not replied.
I am surprised nobody mentioned an obvious possible reason - you are not doing it for her in bed. If you did she would be all over you like a rush.

dandelionclock30

justme111 wrote: »

You said you would talked to her last.night !
You have not givel us enough detail to be able to answer , fbaby posted with questions which you have.not replied.
I am surprised nobody mentioned an obvious possible reason - you are not doing it for her in bed. If you did she would be all over you like a rush.

:rotfl: Its rash.