Anyone else on a diet and struggling?

ab.da54

I agree here with Izadora, BunnieJ. Do not be beating yourself up over this. You have to think forward and look at how much benefit you can gain by sticking to your weight-loss plan.

It is not easy and there may be a few blips along the way but a blip does not have to be the signal to end your attempts.

Think about why it is you want this - to lose weight - and put the blip to bed, move forward, refocus your mind.

The weight did not go on overnight and it will not disappear overnight but determination to succeed will help you get where it is you need to be.

Good luck.

ab.da54

Tink2, why are you not posting on your thread any more?

I have been willing for you to be successful here and not make this another failed diet as I can see how your issues with your weight are leading to low self-esteem.

Please start posting here again so that you can get some support off other posters. I say the same as I said in my post to BunnieJ, above: 'The weight did not go on overnight and it will not disappear overnight but determination to succeed will help you get where it is you need to be.'

Losing weight is very difficult, especially when you have lost your motivation to be doing so but you have done so well, in the first couple of months and perhaps you are needing a good hard look at why it is you wish to lose weigh then out the last few days behind you and start afresh.

I know you would rather this thread be in the arms section of moneysavingexpert but it is still here and some people have found it to be very helpful so come back to it. You may have to work a bit hard at your losing weight but you can do it if you put your mind to it.

Do not let this be another failed attempt because in a short while you will be looking to start again with another thread and will go through all the same sort of responses when what you need is the support which is available here and now.

I am hoping that you come back to this and that you will be successful as this will also help with your health issues and you will be feeling so much better. Find a way to get back on track, for yourself, not for anyone else.

Tink2

I'm just off it for a little while, got some !!!! to deal with, will e back soon

ab.da54

Tink2 wrote: »

I'm just off it for a little while, got some !!!! to deal with, will e back soon

I hope that you will be, Tink2.

There will always be problems in life but you have to be prioritising what it is that is important for you and I get the feeling that losing weight is up there in your list of priorities so whatever problems you are dealing with, perhaps putting weight to one side and ignoring it isn't necessarily the right route to go down.

It is for you alone to make these decisions but please do think about this. You had such positivity to begin with, on this journey and you need that positivity back, without allowing barriers in the way. Let this be the time that, yes, you do succeed. It is of importance to you and maybe you are needing to be selfish and putting the other problems to the side as this is your priority.

nickyhutch

You can't jump off it and back on it. It's a lifestyle change, not a bus. It doesn't work like that. By the time you get back "on it" you'll have put half a stone of what you've lost back on, and that's more !!!! you'll have to deal with.

Tink2

I have no positivity for anything atm, I will get back on track I know I will but right now I'm in a dark place

ETA: I'm not over eating so I won't gain, I'm just not counting calories

ab.da54

Tink2 wrote: »

I have no positivity for anything atm, I will get back on track I know I will but right now I'm in a dark place

ETA: I'm not over eating so I won't gain, I'm just not counting calories

This, I am sorry to hear. Do you have someone close with whom you can talk to about the darkness that is enveloping you right now?

Please do not undo all the good work you have done. nickyhutch is correct in that this is not a bus ride but something you need to be sticking to, in order to be successful.

I do not know if you are religious but I saw this prayer for losing weight and thought it amusing ...

A Prayer to Resist the Cravings

Today I pray to You to grant me the strength to stay away from anything that is unhealthy.

I pray that this will help me lose the weight I have gained. Help me stay focused on being healthy and fit, dear God. I believe that I can do all things through Christ, your Son, who truly strengthens me.

May this enable me to steer away from all the unhealthy choices that I face each day. I pray that this strength will keep me focused on disciplining my body and do my workouts religiously. I pray that anything I do, eat or drink only be for Your greater glory.

I pray for a support group to push me towards the finish line. I ask for all these in this prayer, O Lord. In Jesus' name, I pray.

Amen.

The last bit of the prayer, I find an interesting concept. Through reading your postings, I am aware that you do not venture outside very often and so your support group is perhaps somewhat limited so why not use this thread as your support group? Talk. Lean on others to help you through your darkness so that your mind can refocus on losing the weight you wish to lose.

Tink2

No, I have no one to talk to

Nice prayer

ab.da54

Tink2 wrote: »

No, I have no one to talk to

Nice prayer

Then, dear girl, you need to find someone to talk to. Having negativity build up will indeed scupper your chances of losing weight as hurdles become bigger and harder to overcome.

I know you have your partner but unfortunately, men do not always understand what women go through and your partner may not have the words of encouragement for you to deal with the issues you are facing.

I had never thought about people praying for weight-loss before now but I thought it was apt for this thread and for your frame of mind at this moment in time. I am glad you like it.

WantToBeSE

Tink, you DO have people to talk to, you have us.


I know its not the same as a RL person, but this is YOUR thread and we can help support you.
Weight loss is an emotional journey too, and can be affected by your emotions. So we could help you if you wanted to talk to us about it?