Anyone else on a diet and struggling?

paulineb_2

Tink2 wrote: »

676, waste of time

He only really eats them cause I do, he prefers nuts most of the time, he can take or leave crisps

It really boils down to whether your motivation to lose weight is greater than your motivation to eat junk food.

That sounds a lot easier than it actually is. But a year ago my BMI was horrendous. I felt terrible about myself. Having been much fitter in the past I knew what the difference was between being fit and being that unfit.

I can get trousers on that I couldnt get over my thighs a year and a half ago and Ive not had a massive loss of weight.

My portion sizes were too big. I ate too many snacks. I drank too much wine. Ive had a lot of support along the way, but I had to have the motivation to do it.

Its easy just to convince yourself, Im meant to be big, I dont have willpower. Been there, done that. I do have willpower but I had to want to change my lifestyle. For good. No quick fixes, no crash diets.

Tink2

paulineb wrote: »

It really boils down to whether your motivation to lose weight is greater than your motivation to eat junk food.

That sounds a lot easier than it actually is. But a year ago my BMI was horrendous. I felt terrible about myself. Having been much fitter in the past I knew what the difference was between being fit and being that unfit.

I can get trousers on that I couldnt get over my thighs a year and a half ago and Ive not had a massive loss of weight.

My portion sizes were too big. I ate too many snacks. I drank too much wine. Ive had a lot of support along the way, but I had to have the motivation to do it.

Its easy just to convince yourself, Im meant to be big, I dont have willpower. Been there, done that. I do have willpower but I had to want to change my lifestyle. For good. No quick fixes, no crash diets.

I can't remember what it's like not to be fat, there was a time I was 9-9 and a half stone but I can't even remember what I looked like, I only knew I was that small because my dad told me I was

paulineb_2

Tink2 wrote: »

I can't remember what it's like not to be fat, there was a time I was 9-9 and a half stone but I can't even remember what I looked like, I only knew I was that small because my dad told me I was

But you do have the power to lose weight and keep it off. Thats what matters. My weight has been yo-yoing up and down since I was about 23. Im now 45. I got to a weight I was very happy with and fitness levels I was happy with when I was about 38. I then broke my wrist, put on weight, lost confidence, stopped exercising. Lost a lot of it and maintained it, then got injured again.

But last time I decided to get weight off, I knew as soon as I did it I was not going to go into it half hearted. Like not exercising a lot and then eating junk. Or eating well all day and washing it down with wine at night. I had to do it right and I had to do it for me.

I know lots of people who are in fantastic shape. They work hard for it, but they also eat right. They dont eat junk food and then train, they'll save the treats for once a week or a fortnight.

We can put so many obstacles in our own way. If you want to get the weight off, find what works for you, clean up your diet if you need to. If you cheat, the only person you are cheating is yourself. I spent so long unhappy with my weight and size and got so low all I did was make crap food choices.

And find ways of eating foods that you wouldnt normally like. I dont like nuts, I only like the dry roasted, billions of calories ones. But Ive started eating almonds that have a flavour as opposed to raw, so I eat them.

I dont like coconut water, but again, Ive found one with a flavour, so I drink it.

Tink2

paulineb wrote: »

But you do have the power to lose weight and keep it off. Thats what matters. My weight has been yo-yoing up and down since I was about 23. Im now 45. I got to a weight I was very happy with and fitness levels I was happy with when I was about 38. I then broke my wrist, put on weight, lost confidence, stopped exercising. Lost a lot of it and maintained it, then got injured again.

But last time I decided to get weight off, I knew as soon as I did it I was not going to go into it half hearted. Like not exercising a lot and then eating junk. Or eating well all day and washing it down with wine at night. I had to do it right and I had to do it for me.

I know lots of people who are in fantastic shape. They work hard for it, but they also eat right. They dont eat junk food and then train, they'll save the treats for once a week or a fortnight.

We can put so many obstacles in our own way. If you want to get the weight off, find what works for you, clean up your diet if you need to. If you cheat, the only person you are cheating is yourself. I spent so long unhappy with my weight and size and got so low all I did was make crap food choices.

And find ways of eating foods that you wouldnt normally like. I dont like nuts, I only like the dry roasted, billions of calories ones. But Ive started eating almonds that have a flavour as opposed to raw, so I eat them.

I dont like coconut water, but again, Ive found one with a flavour, so I drink it.

It's not that I just don't like nuts, I can't actually eat them as the hurt my teeth/jaw, I can get away with walnuts though

I am trying to get my body used to eating fruit and it's slowly working

My once a week pizza will become a treat

Indie_Kid

paulineb wrote: »

I dont like coconut water, but again, Ive found one with a flavour, so I drink it.

Have you tried coconut water (I don't like it either. Only got it because my running friends were raging about how lovely it was) with pineapple?

I do tend to sick to water mostly, sometimes have milkshake / protein shake or may have a fizzy drink once or twice a month.

BakerBoy

I also believe that taking the long-term view makes it easier - I took the mindset that I was making changes that would a. affect the rest of my life and b. that I wouldn't try and meet my weight loss goal in two weeks (as much as I wanted it) but in 18 months. That meant that a 1lb or 2lb loss most weeks (some weeks nothing, some weeks a gain) was a little victory. The gains have been much easier to deal with as I just re-evaluate what I did and try again.

Throughout 2013 I had a monthly wardrobe session. Every month I tried on ALL of my clothes, and every month I took a bag of them to the charity shop. Boy that is an enjoyable moment, and a moment that anyone trying to lose weight can enjoy.

WantToBeSE

To be honest, I am hearing a lot of "'I don't like X food" at almost every suggestion that being made for you.

The thing is, you have to train yourself to like them, like you are doing with fruit at the moment. Before I had my children, I would not even entertain the idea of eating any veg apart from carrots. I wouldn't even have them cooked in my house, let alone put on my plate! I swore that I hated every veg apart from carrots.

But, after having my 1st child and wanting to lose about 3st (which I did), I realised I had to start eating healthier, which meant veggies other than carrots.
Bit by bit, building up from TINY amounts ( I started off with 3 or 4 peas on my plate and literally built it up from that amount) I now eat most veggies- Broccoli, green beans, peppers, mangetout, sweetcorn, spinach, kale etc.

The point is that your taste buds will change if YOU change you eating habits.

Tink2

BakerBoy wrote: »

I also believe that taking the long-term view makes it easier - I took the mindset that I was making changes that would a. affect the rest of my life and b. that I wouldn't try and meet my weight loss goal in two weeks (as much as I wanted it) but in 18 months. That meant that a 1lb or 2lb loss most weeks (some weeks nothing, some weeks a gain) was a little victory. The gains have been much easier to deal with as I just re-evaluate what I did and try again.

Throughout 2013 I had a monthly wardrobe session. Every month I tried on ALL of my clothes, and every month I took a bag of them to the charity shop. Boy that is an enjoyable moment, and a moment that anyone trying to lose weight can enjoy.

Bet you spent a fortune on new clothes :eek:

I'm lucky I like mine baggy so even when I lose I can still wear them yay lol

WantToBeSE wrote: »

To be honest, I am hearing a lot of "'I don't like X food" at almost every suggestion that being made for you.

The thing is, you have to train yourself to like them, like you are doing with fruit at the moment. Before I had my children, I would not even entertain the idea of eating any veg apart from carrots. I wouldn't even have them cooked in my house, let alone put on my plate! I swore that I hated every veg apart from carrots.

But, after having my 1st child and wanting to lose about 3st (which I did), I realised I had to start eating healthier, which meant veggies other than carrots.
Bit by bit, building up from TINY amounts ( I started off with 3 or 4 peas on my plate and literally built it up from that amount) I now eat most veggies- Broccoli, green beans, peppers, mangetout, sweetcorn, spinach, kale etc.

The point is that your taste buds will change if YOU change you eating habits.

I did that with peppers, still don't like the red ones but love the green ones

I'm eating a lot of things I didn't eat before, quorn, salad, sweet peppers, green peppers, sushi, trout, seabass, sole, spinach, stir fry etc so it's not like I'm not trying

And it's not about the taste for some things, it's the fact that they make me ill or it hurts to eat them, should I put up with the pain just to eat nuts, should I put up with a bad stomach and excess gas/constipation to have more eggs

I am willing to eat new foods but I'm not willing to make myself ill or cause myself more pain to eat those things when I can lose weight without them

BakerBoy

Ha ha money well spent Think2!!!

I was actually thinking of keeping all those clothes in case I get to 20st again. My wife said do the deed, get rid. She was right, it is a really rewarding part of the process.

BakerBoy

Tink2. Sorry.