"i dont know why they pay you"

tir21

had a few issues with a colleague at work (she previously asked if i was gay)

recently after leaving work i had to pop back in after forgeting to do something. She was in the corredor walking to some other department. she looked me up and down with a look of disgust on her face as if i were a piece of dirt

I asked her what she was going on about - and she replied that she didn't know why they pay me

i said i could say the same thing to her - and this strange little conversation ended

is this unacceptable behaviour from her? should i tell my supervisor that im confused as to why she would say something like that

thanks

specialboy

Just ignore it, you sound like a couple of school kids and she will probably get her mate to ask you out next.

Prothet_of_Doom

Do not engage this person in conversation, unless about work.
Make a note of the time and date of any other comments, but DON'T invite them, and don't retaliate.

Then post them on facebook.

Poppie68

You asked her what she was going on about?....but according to you she was just looking you up and down and hadn't actually said anything.
Sounds like it maybe six of one and half a dozen of the other. Either stay out of eachothers way or try and arrange mediation through your line manager and get your differences sorted.

Southend1

Don't ask for mediation, this implies your behaviour is a contributing factor. Just ignore it and note down the date, time, location and brief details of any encounter in case you need to raise a grievance in future. Do not under any circumstances engage with this person on any topic except work. Do not respond to any comments or behaviours you perceive as unwelcome unless it's to say that you don't welcome inappropriate behaviours and you want the person concerned to stop doing something.

tir21

Poppie68 wrote: »

You asked her what she was going on about?....but according to you she was just looking you up and down and hadn't actually said anything.
Sounds like it maybe six of one and half a dozen of the other. Either stay out of eachothers way or try and arrange mediation through your line manager and get your differences sorted.

I had to enquire as to what I had done to deserve being looked at in that way. She looked me up and down shaking her head as she did so. I dont think is a nice way to treat anyone

Im not sure about sorting out our differences because I dont have any problems with her unless she does things like this

Poppie68

I have to disagree with Southend1...mediation could be a positive thing, there is obviously an issue with you and this other person and sometimes issues when left alone can escalate. I wouldn't of thought a request of mediation would lead to an admission of guilt on either parties part just a need to sort out some differences and get to the bottom of the hostility.
It could be a third party has had a hand in stirring this particular pot and is sat back enoying the fun..(just a thought!)

tir21

Poppie68 wrote: »

You asked her what she was going on about?....but according to you she was just looking you up and down and hadn't actually said anything.
Sounds like it maybe six of one and half a dozen of the other. Either stay out of eachothers way or try and arrange mediation through your line manager and get your differences sorted.

Forgot to say she was shaking her head as she looked me up and down.

27col

It must be terrible to have someone look at you and shake their head.:(
But hey!. Two can play that game. Move on.

Poppie68

tir21 wrote: »

I had to enquire as to what I had done to deserve being looked at in that way. She looked me up and down shaking her head as she did so. I dont think is a nice way to treat anyone

Im not sure about sorting out our differences because I dont have any problems with her unless she does things like this

It's certainly not a nice way to treat anyone and it is something that needs dealing with. There are differences and problems between both of you as otherwise these things wouldn't be happening...it could just be down to a childish jealously issue on her behalf or just blatant bullying, either way it needs dealing with.
Maybe keep a diary and go to your line manager after gathering evidence, but that has a danger of 'she said I said'..and/or take the opportunity to put her in her place while sat with a third party and watch her crumble. The thing with bullies is they are so big until they are confronted but it needs doing in a controlled enviroment.
Of course the above is something i would do and you may not feel comfortable dealing with it the same way, it's just another option. Do what you feel comfortable with even if that is just ignoring her...remember though bullies are simple, little troll like creatures that have no meaning in life and find picking on and trying to degrade others is the ony way they can deal with their own worthlessness...Good luck.:)

Bantex_2

tir21 wrote: »

Forgot to say she was shaking her head as she looked me up and down.

And?....................