Depression Support Thread

Horasio

I am not getting at you but it can't be helping if your children aren't happy and reacting this way. Your stress levels must be sky high. They need sorting for everyone's sake.

I am trying to help here and fully understand when a child isn't happy at school and how they behave.

I have a load on my plate and some huge decisions to make, so don't need any bad situations going on on here on top.

Stephb1986_2

hi shaz hunni i know your not a bad parent!

i was a right little cow at school i kicked !!!! out of every single kid i could it wasnt my mums fault and i didnt realise how bad i made it for her having to come out of work nearly every day because of me. i had a harsh childhood so i thought it was right i dont have adhd or anything they did think i had learning difficulties but then they realised i was a little cow. theres nothing you can do about it they will grow out of it.

my mum wasnt a bad parent at all she is the worlds best mum she could of sent me to a boarding school but she didnt she put up with me.

it will all come good! try not to worry too much its just a phase.

Hugs and kisses hunni

Steph xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

welcome to Whitevanwoman to the thread,post as little or as much as you like I enjoyed the iceshow last night in fact I enjoyed it so much I brought the dvd for £10 so I can see it again and again :rotfl: the cash machine I used charged me £1.75 for withdrawing £10,Dad offered to loan me the money but I said no as I wanted to get it myself being the independant person that I am and got the charge slapped on,nm its worth it for the dvd the music was fantastic and so were the costumes,they played Barbie girl too :rotfl:

Have a lovely day everyone

*hugs* to all


love and light,

Katie xxx

weegie.geek

Morning folks.

I've got to go out today.

I'm generally a bit of a hermit. Don't leave the house unless I absolutely have to, and today I have to. I'm always feeling run down, and going farther than the corner shop knackers me. It's my mum's birthday tomorrow, so I'm gonna venture out and get her a bunch of flowers or something, but there are no flower shops near where I stay, so I'll have to go into town.

I've been up half the night as well, I always have trouble sleeping, so it's shaping up to be a !!!!!! day. Grrr.

week

Hi Weegie
Heres what I try and do if I dont want to do something, like go out!
Try and plan this trip and the shops you need to go to, write them down. Look up bus times or whatever re getting there. Go just after lunch when it shouldnt be so busy. Only go to the shops you need to go into.
Do you have an ipod or mp3 thing? Listen to your fav songs and only talk if you want to.
Get a nice card and flowers or chocolates for your mum. Buy yourself something small to make yourself feel happy.
I hope this doesnt all sound like common sense but sometimes I have to see it in simple terms when I feel very low in order to do what I need, otherwise nothing gets done!
K.

geminilady

shazrobo wrote: »

both sons have severe adhd, and other learning and mental health problems. josh has been arrested in past, but no amount of talking is going to make too much difference to a child who cant take in what is being said. both sons are on high dose medication, and when they got back to the pychiatrist, in march, maybe he will higher their dose again as they have grown so much since last time their meds have been reviewed.
i am not a bad parent, they are not bad kids, both are very polite most of time, but bullying from other kids cos they are different and wont actually fight other kids make them a target.unfortunatly they bottle up there anger til they explode, and usually take it out on an adult, this time their teacher.
both kids have councelling, we have a fairly happy home, i do my best for themj, feeling like a failure now, and getting upset, so i'm going to log off
shaz x

Shaz (((((hug))))))) Do NOT feel like a failure because of what one person said.You ARE a great mum.I think Cstar jumped in without understanding your situation or how severe their illness is.We know they are ill not just unruly teenagers.I really feel for you and what you have to cope with with NO support so don't you dare let anyone make you feel bad.I have not posted for a while but felt i had to jump in here.

week

geminilady wrote: »

Shaz (((((hug))))))) Do NOT feel like a failure because of what one person said.You ARE a great mum.I think Cstar jumped in without understanding your situation or how severe their illness is.We know they are ill not just unruly teenagers.I really feel for you and what you have to cope with with NO support so don't you dare let anyone make you feel bad.I have not posted for a while but felt i had to jump in here.

Hi Gemini lady
I presume you are a Gemini? I often put my "condition"(not pregnancy of course!!!!!) down to being Gemini. IE 2 different people in one. The high,the low etc. Bipolar seems to go along with this idea. Whats you opinion on this as I dont know many Geminis, and my best friend is one and she is like a tame version of me.
It is hailstones here and I feel all tingly!
K

weegie.geek

week wrote: »

Hi Weegie
Heres what I try and do if I dont want to do something, like go out!
Try and plan this trip and the shops you need to go to, write them down. Look up bus times or whatever re getting there. Go just after lunch when it shouldnt be so busy. Only go to the shops you need to go into.
Do you have an ipod or mp3 thing? Listen to your fav songs and only talk if you want to.
Get a nice card and flowers or chocolates for your mum. Buy yourself something small to make yourself feel happy.
I hope this doesnt all sound like common sense but sometimes I have to see it in simple terms when I feel very low in order to do what I need, otherwise nothing gets done!
K.

Yeah, I'll be in my own little bubble listening to my music, taking the earphones out only to buy my bus ticket and buy the flowers.

I'll probably just go bus, flowers, bus, home. Don't think there's anything I need, and I don't think there's anything I particularly want either. Things are bad when I can't even think of rubbish to spend money on!

I've been trying to work up to going out since I posted that post. :rolleyes:

week

Right,
When are you going out? Tell me a time and then start to work towards it. Re buying yourself something here is my list of the kind of things I buy!!!
Chocolate
Something from the £1 shop(anything really)
A soft toy(they look so cute and I can love them)
A cake
A nail varnish
Cheap earrings
A dvd/vcr to watch
A paper or magazine
A music cd
A wander around a charity shop lets me buy something cheap on my list and I am helping a charity if I buy something!
So lets try and get you going!!!!!
K.

weegie.geek

A time? I dunno If I can commit to something like that.

It's !!!!ing down anyway just now. I'm soooooooo tempted to just go back to bed, especially after the lack of sleep last night.

I was considering ditching today's outing and going out tomorrow for the flowers and that, but it'll be busy tomorrow, and I don't like busy.

The cake suggestion's got me thinking though. Mmm, cakes.