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Depression Support Thread

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  • Sazbo
    Sazbo Posts: 4,617 Forumite
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    Thanks steph and shaz, think i'll need it!

    Sx
    4 May 2010 <3
  • dawnylou
    dawnylou Posts: 3,135 Forumite
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    Stephb1986 wrote: »
    good luck sazzy :D its nice to be romantic sometimes aint it :)

    im tryin to think of somethin nice for my OH for valentines day but cant think of anything right now :(

    Stephb xx

    Fiance and I have agreed not to spend any money on presents for Valentines Day.
    Instead we are putting some money together and spending a night in a hotel :)

    But I have a heart shaped ice cube tray and some choccie in the cupboard and will make him some chocs as a surprise :)
    Dream of being mortgage free....
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  • EthelBloggs
    EthelBloggs Posts: 2,740 Forumite
    Sazbo wrote: »
    Well I do admire you keeping up with your studies... it can't be easy. But make sure you pass with flying colours coz I'm expecting you to keep me in the style to which I'm accustomed;):D



    err... I'm washing my hair tonight! _pale_:D

    Sx

    well.. I'm getting good marks so far *crosses everything* :eek:

    and thanks.. u really know how to make a girl feel wanted :p
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  • rose07
    rose07 Posts: 2,442 Forumite
    BigMummaF wrote: »
    Morning! Can't stop on here...lots to catch up on & a few appointments to get organised for....


    Hope you have a better day at work Rose....do you get the floods & stuff in your neck of the woods?


    To those who are on the darker side at the moment, I hope today brings the beginning of a break-through for you:o IMHO, if I didn't laugh.....I would have turned up me toes years ago. I hope I haven't offended anyone in my quest to bring a smile to your lips...

    Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

    Hi mumma

    how r u? ur bil, ur offspring and that pup of urs?

    I took my baby for a walk today, boy did i choose the wrong time for that, soon as i got outside wind was howling, started pouring it down, but my baby wasnt phased by that so we went for a walk anyway :rotfl:, least to say i was very wet when i got home :rotfl:

    Do we get floods? now thats a good question...

    DSCF1016.jpg

    thats the garden :rotfl:

    hope your well

    huggles
    xxxxxx
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  • rose07
    rose07 Posts: 2,442 Forumite
    Hi Miss tbc
    Miss_tbc wrote: »
    i have spoken and we have agreed to go for councelling but i am realistic and think its going to be a long journey i think your right i maybe did know it deep down i thought he was my only rock and he led me to believe that after having a difficult and unloving childhood and a relationship with someone who promised to be there for me when my family would allow me to because they felt he was not right for me and stopped the relationship he met someone else while waiting for me and went on to have a very successful life i feel so many male figures in my life have let me down and have had many years of frustration asking for my husbands support with my depression his response has always been im not an emotional person and i cause my own problems because i think to much about issues

    I think its a good idea for the councelling, we all need support sometimes and there is nothing wrong in getting it. I have a habit of thinking too much, and over thinking can be bad for us, but try and do some simple mind exercises soo that you bring your mind away from those such issues

    After speaking to a professional in this field i have begun to realise i am living in a controlling relationship that has robbed me of all my self confidence and now know i am facing some big issues in my life.

    Thanks for your comment about bad things happening to good people hopefully i will find other good people in my life at the moment i am destraught and having been given antidepressants to help me through this time unfortunately they can affect your weight and this is also one of my husbands issues although he denys it if i ask him he can also make comments about my weight by the way i am a size 12 and 5ft 7 not what i would consider an issue.

    I understand your point about being on meds, that put on the weight as it were, i used to be a size 10, which i was very happy about, but then I was put on some very strong meds that made me put on weight, i am still on them now, I was gutted, now im a size 12, depending where i shop lol. Some people have said its good to see some weight on me, some just say narcky comments. But i am going to the gym and eating kinda well. I havent had any cakes, sweets, biscuits, chocolate, crisps in 2 and a bit months, part from one week at christmas :rotfl:So i am trying lol

    We met fairly young and have both had many issues in our life i woke up to the fact his family had been bullying me for a long time and have not stopped him from seeing them but am not prepared to accept this behaviour from them his comments are "you look at it the wrong way its only a laugh you take it to serious" my view yes a laugh at my expense and your prepared to let that happen i have been unwell for a few years now and getting stronger i have suffered a nervous breakdown and dont want to go back there he has to realise this or there is no future.

    I think your right, your in a relationship, where its having worse effects than it should do, and this in turn is bringen you down. Im sure you know we all need to take steps in making sure we are ok, and making sure we have a safe support in place.

    Thanks for your reply i think i am going to be needing all the support i can get at the moment and appreciate your help.

    Any support you need just yell, we are all friendly here, and you can pm me anytime

    take care
    xxx
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  • meyore
    meyore Posts: 2,721 Forumite
    Hi everyone, sorry to hear some off us aren't having a good one.

    I spoke to one of the managers at work today and he took what I said quite seriously-I'm worried I've said too much now. Can't win can I?

    Been feeling a bit weird again today-I have a day off tomorrow though, so I'll try and be brave and go to the doctors.

    I was too lazy to go to the gym tonight, but couldn't be bothered in the end. I was even sat there in the car park! I'll have to make an effort tomorrow with that too...

    Xx
    :heartpuls :love: :heartpuls
  • rose07
    rose07 Posts: 2,442 Forumite
    meyore wrote: »
    Hi Rose, how are you feeling? Can I ask how old you actually are? You don't have to answer if you think I'm being rude. I can't see how the psychiatrist can say you aren't acting your age etc-isn't that very unprofessional. I'm 24 and I don't go out and do any of those things-does that mean theres something wrong with the way I behave too! I think you're right and you should tell your GP.

    With the floor mat exercises all I really do is sit ups and cycling(do you know what I mean, peddling with your legs up in the air!?) Also you can do the plank, which is good for tightening up all your back and stomach muscles. You lie on your front, then bring yourself up onto your toes and elbows and try and hold for 30 seconds. You have to keep your body flat with it-no bum in the air. I'm unsure how much sense this makes... :confused:

    I have one of those giant inflatable balls-they're brilliant for sit ups and tummy exercises, but you don't feel it at the time. The next day you feel like you're crippled though! :rotfl:

    Xx

    Hi meyore
    how r u?

    Im 23 hun, :o. I have to admit thought you were older :rotfl:

    I went to see my gp last week, he was very nice about what the psychiatrist said, he said she was wrong to say it, and if i seen her again to tell her soo:rotfl:. Then he said how i was right and so was he, and that she was wrong :D. I love my doctor.

    Well on wednesday i have my follow up appointment with the psychiatrist where i am meant to have......well improved my good looks :rotfl:. Tho have to say i have done f-all :rotfl:, she will either see me and go so...
    Or i will say to her, listen, i dont need to improve my looks just because you say so. I understand it might improve my self confidence, but feel you had no right in saying what you did. I have taken steps in improving my confidence, including going to the gym, i used to be very shy, and im learning its ok to be shy, but its also ok to speak out sometimes. :T:T

    hows that?


    as for the exercises....

    phew that was trying...:rotfl:

    erm dont think i am doing sit ups right, can you tell me how?

    as for the plank? am i meant to look like a frog when doing it? :confused::rotfl:, i lied on my front then went on my elbows, then toes, but then held it for about 1 second :rotfl:, i cant be doing it right , also need to know how to do, press ups properly?

    They have those balls in the gym, maybe i should try them

    oh that reminds me, i found someone to go to tae bo with, and its tomorrow, better give them a call :rotfl:

    hope your ok

    much love
    xxx
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  • meyore
    meyore Posts: 2,721 Forumite
    rose07 wrote: »
    DSCF1016.jpg

    thats the garden :rotfl:
    Nice garden! We're lucky down here we don't get flooding.

    Hope you're doing ok rose.

    Xx
    :heartpuls :love: :heartpuls
  • meyore
    meyore Posts: 2,721 Forumite
    rose07 wrote: »
    Hi meyore
    how r u?

    Im 23 hun, :o. I have to admit thought you were older :rotfl:

    I went to see my gp last week, he was very nice about what the psychiatrist said, he said she was wrong to say it, and if i seen her again to tell her soo:rotfl:. Then he said how i was right and so was he, and that she was wrong :D. I love my doctor.

    Well on wednesday i have my follow up appointment with the psychiatrist where i am meant to have......well improved my good looks :rotfl:. Tho have to say i have done f-all :rotfl:, she will either see me and go so...
    Or i will say to her, listen, i dont need to improve my looks just because you say so. I understand it might improve my self confidence, but feel you had no right in saying what you did. I have taken steps in improving my confidence, including going to the gym, i used to be very shy, and im learning its ok to be shy, but its also ok to speak out sometimes. :T:T

    hows that?


    as for the exercises....

    phew that was trying...:rotfl:

    erm dont think i am doing sit ups right, can you tell me how?

    as for the plank? am i meant to look like a frog when doing it? :confused::rotfl:, i lied on my front then went on my elbows, then toes, but then held it for about 1 second :rotfl:, i cant be doing it right , also need to know how to do, press ups properly?

    They have those balls in the gym, maybe i should try them

    oh that reminds me, i found someone to go to tae bo with, and its tomorrow, better give them a call :rotfl:

    hope your ok

    much love
    xxx
    I thought you were older too... :o Just mature I guess, don't tell OH though, he says I act like a big kid!

    I agree totally with what you're going to say to the psychiatrist-it is ok to be shy, it is ok to dress how you want to because you're an individual and you don't have to impress anyone else unless you want to. Your doctor sounds pretty cool to me!

    With the sit up things you lie on your back, knees bent, feet flat on the floor and put your fingers behind your ears. You then lift your head using your stomach muscles, not your hands or neck. If you move your neck you'll just strain it. Breathe out as you raise up and in as you go down. Also if you keep your elbows out of your line on vision it works better. I don't know why. Does this make sense?

    The balls make it all much easier and they're very cheap at Tesco at the moment.

    This is the plank-

    plank.jpg

    This is another variation, the side plank, and it also hurts like hell!

    sideplank.jpg

    Is this turning into the exercise thread!?

    Xx
    :heartpuls :love: :heartpuls
  • juno
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    I've had a really bad day. I had a panic attack earlier, and I haven't had those for years so I thought I was over them :cry: I've spent most of the day in tears.

    And my stupid postman left a parcel outside even though it's been raining all day! Luckily it's ok, but the jiffy bag was soaked through and muddy.
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