Depression Support Thread

meyore

BizzyBek wrote: »

Right I'm feeling left out - I'm for a bath and then putting my PJs on!

Oh I forgot to say I have a big purple nighty with cool cats on it (Tiff... Miss you!) and my big comfy dressing gown!

Xx

antronella

Enjoy yor bath BizzyBek! Pj's are the best these cold winter evenings.

Meyore, I should do something exercise wise i know, but really can't motivate myself.Plus don't think I'd be up for going on my own. I could be better..but I also know I could be worse. makes me feel guilty cos I know other people have got worse lives than me. Hope you get your hours etc sorted at work.

meyore

Don't feel guilty, you don't choose to feel this way and feeling guilty only makes it worse. I have my MIL to go with, so its ok for me-if shes not going I use it as an excuse not to go myself!

shazrobo

meyore wrote: »

Just found out today that my job has been offered to someone else at work. One of the full timers wants to go part time, so its my job they've offered her. Basically, I'm a part timer (28 hours) and I'm bottom of the heap as I was last to join. There is another part timer (20 hours) whose is above me in the "pecking order", so he automatically gets the fulltime job if he wants it (which he does) leaving me with the 20 hour a week job. Hope you all follow so far...

I was taken on for this job as 28 hours a week maternity leave cover for one year, which lasts until September. I imagine she mustn't be coming back, as it is also her job they are giving away. After my year I get sent back to work retail instead of counter (which is the side I worked on before), which pays less, but I keep my 28 hour a week contract. But I'm struggling to work out how they intend to make me do the 20 hour a week job when my contracts state 28 hours. And I've realised I can't find my contract anywhere...

hope you find your contract and get this sorted out soon, they shouldn't be offering your job to any one else as far as i see it, its your job
big hugs
shaz x

meyore

I do sort of like the sound of the new job as its permanent and its the leave reserve position, so whoevers on holiday you get their hours. Which means most of the time I'll be doing full time, but never less than 20 hours.

But the point is, they haven't asked or even told me-I found out accidently off another member of staff. They should at least ask me, I don't like people making assumptions about what I will and won't do.

Xx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Ethel How are you? I haven't spoken to you in ages. It sounds like things are going well at uni. What is it that you are studying?

Hope your OH gets better soon. £4k was a nice win :T Will you be going on a shopping spree?

How are your son and daughter? Are they both still in hospital?

Your ex OH sounds like a nasty piece of work :mad: I hope he eventually see's sense and makes contact with his children a regular thing.

BizzyBek It sounds like you and your Mum have quite a good relationship. She's helped you and now you're helping her, that's really nice

Do you have your own business?

I'm sure being able to drive again would be very beneficial to you. You will be able to go wherever you want, whenever you want-total freedom. Did you used to like driving?

Do you volunteer for any particular cat charity? When I was younger my Mum used to be really involved with the Cats protection. We used to have a small cattery where people came to look at potential cats to re-home. One of the cats that was unable to ever be re-homed properly (she's basically wild) lives here. She's now about 7 years old. She's still extremely timid around me and I've known her since she was a kitten but she has come out of her shell a bit. However, if anyone different comes round she will hide and hiss.

Sorry to hear about your foster cat that was put to sleep (((HUGS))) it's so sad when that happens. At least they aren't suffering anymore. I hope the other foster cat gets better soon so that it can have its op.

Horace I really do appreciate the friends I have made on this thread. I didn't mean to sound ungrateful in my previous post. What I meant to say was in day to day offline life I don't have any friends. No-one whom I can go out with shopping or for coffee or anything. If I do anything it's always by myself. It does get very lonely. People say go out, make friends but it just isn't that easy. I have difficulty maintaining friendships/relationships which I suppose might be a factor as to why I have no friends now. *sigh*

The wedding sounds like a big task to organise, although I'm sure it will be good fun as well. Have you ever organised a friends wedding before?

I guess this means you will be looking to buy a new dress (I hope you were'nt really thinking of wearing just a hat and a smile :rotfl:) Any ideas on color?

I hope you managed to get some sleep last night. Lets hope they aren't as noisy tonight otherwise you're going to be exhausted.

(((HUGS)))

consnmattsmom What pills did your Doctor put you on? I'm glad to hear that they are helping Are you finding that you are enjoying life now?

This thread is great. Everyone is so supportive of each other. It's amazing considering most of us are feeling crap yet we are all still willing to listen and help others in a similar position

Tulip You're very honest Katie I bet they don't get many people like you coming back and offering to pay. It was nice of them to say don't worry about the fare though

I hope your friend and her family get better soon. That sickness bug seems to be affecting so many people

CCStar Can you see yourself staying with your OH. Do you feel happy in the relationship or is it just an added stress? From what you've said he sounds slightly unpredictable. Is this the case?

Your son is an adult now. However much he frustrates you, you just have to be there in the background offering guidance and be there for him to pick up the pieces if things really go wrong. You're obviously a very caring Mother but there really is only so much you can do when your child becomes an adult. He has to make his own mistakes in life and learn from them. As long as your around I'm sure he won't go far wrong.

(((HUGS)))

dawnylou So sorry to hear that you're not feeling any better (((HUGS))) Do you know what has caused this real low point?

You do deserve to be happy dawnylou.

When did you last see your GP. It sounds like you're really struggling atm. I'm just wonderinh whether any of the professionals are fully aware of this.

How was the appointment with your psychologist?

shazrobo Sorry to hear about what happened to your son. Glad you got to speak with him and that he's OK.

meyore It's a shame that your weekend didn't go quite as planned. As you say at least you got to spend some time with him

Does he not like being in the army or is it because he is too far away from you? Make sure he thinks about all the pros and cons of leaving the army before he rushes into a decision that he may live to regret.

I'm going to see my GP tomorrow afternoon. I just feel like I'm wasting his time though. He'll spend time cleaning up wounds but what's the point when I'll just cut again. He doesn't really know what to do with me tbh. Even last week he asked me what I thought he would do. I'm like I don't know he mentioned us having a chat during my appointment this week about refering me back to my psychiatrist and team. Total waste of time IMO but whatever he suggests I'll go along with. I just don't want to be an in-patient once again

The same goes for you too. If you ever need anything just send me a PM. Thank you for the offer of support (((HUGS)))

You say you don't have many friends either. How do you get by each day? Do you feel lonely?

Hmmm if you signed a contract stating that you will be working 28 hours a week I don't see how they can just change it without consulting you. Is there someone you can speak to ASAP about this? Line manager? Human resources?

Hope you enjoyed your exercise class.

Bunnie1982 Have you spoken to your GP about your sleeping problems? I'm surprised you haven't been offered a few weeks of sleeping tablets just to help your body get back into some kind of routine. It can't be doing you any good staying awake until the early hours and it's not surprising you don't feel motivated to look for a job.

antronella Lovely to see you post How are you feeling? Thank you for your kind words (((HUGS)))

meyore

Hi Razorbladekisses.

I'm happy by myself (well I'm not sure happy is the right word, but you know). I think its my fault I don't have many friends-I don't have anything in common with anyone and they annoy me, so I can't put up with it. I can't concentrate long enough to have a conversation with them anyway. Don't get me wrong, I would like friends, but no one can put up with me, or even understand. I'm very lucky to have a boyfriend like I do, we're complete opposites, but we understand each other and he makes me feel like all the crap is worth it. I do get lonely, and I wish I had real friends, but if they can't accept the way I am then I can't be bothered to waste my time. People on here have more time for me than my so called friends.

I hope the doctors goes well and they don't want to put you in hospital. Have they actually tried different therapies, or is it just drugs or counselling. I always liked the sound of cognitive therapy, it sounded like it might actually work. But its something thats impossible to get down here unless you can pay for it. :mad:

Xx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello meyore I can really relate to what you've said about friends. Do you feel that sometimes it's just easier being by yourself rather than having a huge circle of friends that you feel you have to bother with (if that makes any sense).

How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Is he quite supportive?

I've been seeing various professionals since I was 19/20. I've had CBT a couple of times. During the sessions I've thought yeah this is good, this would really help but applying it to everday life isn't that easy and I didn't really find it worked.

Can you not get CBT via CMHT? Is that where you go?

feelinggood_2

CBT isn't available in a lot of areas on the NHS sadly. The postcode lottery is so stupid - I'm less than 15 miles from you RBK, but my CMHT can't offer me CBT.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Oh right. I didn't realise. I thought it was available in most places. That's a real shame