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Depression Support Thread

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  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Thank you for your reply RBK

    I do feel happier when I feel closer to him, I know he gets tired and want 'his' time and that is fine. We all need to recharge, it is when you think he will be OK and not in this mode, I feel pushed away and we have been to marriage counselling and he shouted at me when I mentioned how I felt in front of the counsellor and does when I bring it up alone. It really hurts how he puts things and what he says. Sometimes I feel he wants around me part time and hates me being around at other times.

    Sometimes he is responsive but can't predict when he will and when he won't, so find it hard to relax. I married to feel safe and be together as a team, not worry about being emotionally pushed away and feel unwanted.

    Big hugs to you - I am sorry to hear you are self harming
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • dawnylou
    dawnylou Posts: 3,135 Forumite
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    Tulip wrote: »
    :hello: Dawnylou,

    to be honest I dont know where my motivation stems from to do these jobs but my thought is once they are done they are out of the way for the day,even vaccumed today too :) as well as ironing and cleaning floors in bathroom and kitchen :) I do have a break in between like right now where I am sat at the pc typing and having a hot drink of pg tips :)


    love and light,

    Katie xxx

    Wish I could think more like that!
    Instead I just sit here like a fat disgusting !!!!! in my pjs crying.

    I don't deserve to be happy anyway, but others shouldn't have to suffer because of me.
    I just wish I had the guts to just get away from this life. :(
    Dream of being mortgage free....
    APR 2007 - £109,825 FEB 2012 - £98,664.53:beer:

  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    I feel very frustrated about my teenage son - he is nearly 20 and sharing with a mate in a rather unsavoury place. He doesn't have any heat as the boy he shares with can't afford the heating and if my son keeps paying, he will be taken advantage of.

    He has a room here but he hates the house rules - being careful not to disturb us when he comes in late and being generally OK to live with.

    He has stopped uni, a few credits short of getting his degree, I presume they stay with him and he can complete later. He has a part time job and the hours are going right down, he can apply for a full time job but isn't doing much about it. He says he will get a well paid job and get his own place but not seeing any evidence of it, yet he won't come home either and get himself straight. The mate he is sharing with is thinking about joining the army but not sure if he will get in but if he does, then he will have to leave the place (it is his dad's place).

    I could buy him a place and rent it to him but feel he won't pay the bills and let his mates doss around and generally mess it up. He has a newish car given to him by my mother for his 18th and its a mess, not crashed it but not taking great care of it, it's a mate carrier, so feel he will do the same with a home of his own.

    How do I stop him getting into a stupid situation that will harm him forever? I suggested he got a full time job and completed his degree as a starter but he's not doing anything about it, he says he will but I see no action.

    It makes me so angry, if I had been given a car and been bought a place at 19, I would have been sooo happy, yet my son is trashing what I would have killed to have got at his age. Without offending the males on this thread, it doesn't make me rate highly the male of the species, yet I read posts from guys his age and they are really together compared to him. Why is my son destroying his life?

    Anyway, I have my work cut out knowing where to go next myself.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    dawnylou wrote: »
    Wish I could think more like that!
    Instead I just sit here like a fat disgusting !!!!! in my pjs crying.

    I don't deserve to be happy anyway, but others shouldn't have to suffer because of me.
    I just wish I had the guts to just get away from this life. :(

    Hey cut the bad self talk

    I am also in my PJs and feel I deserve to be happy - AND SO DO YOU!!!

    What has happened to lead you to this feeling?
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Tulip wrote: »
    :hello: Dawnylou,

    to be honest I dont know where my motivation stems from to do these jobs but my thought is once they are done they are out of the way for the day,even vaccumed today too :) as well as ironing and cleaning floors in bathroom and kitchen :) I do have a break in between like right now where I am sat at the pc typing and having a hot drink of pg tips :)


    love and light,

    Katie xxx

    I agree, I woke at 8, did a load of washing and general load of boring household sh*t and now I feel relieved it is out of the way so I can do something interesting and enjoyable.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Tulip
    Tulip Posts: 29,324 Forumite
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    CCStar wrote: »
    I thought if you were likely to miss the train you could pay on board - I have done this at Southampton Airport when going to Bournemouth with no problem.

    And they want to encourage us to use public transport:mad:


    :hello: CCStar,

    I would have paid on board the train as I hadnt missed it and I had my money at the ready at the time,sorry didnt explain too well there in that post :) I didnt see a conductor while on train,No ticket facility at station I got the train from.Glad you are feeling positive today :)


    love and light,

    Katie :)
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Tulip wrote: »
    :hello: CCStar,

    I would have paid on board the train as I hadnt missed it and I had my money at the ready at the time,sorry didnt explain too well there in that post :) I didnt see a conductor while on train,No ticket facility at station I got the train from.Glad you are feeling positive today :)


    love and light,

    Katie :)

    What the hell did they expect you to do? - you were willing to pay and there was nowhere/one to pay - there are too many idiots around now.:mad:
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • BizzyBek
    BizzyBek Posts: 265 Forumite
    Tulip - that used to happen to be a lot when I had to get an evening train in the northeast. Never saw a conductor and the ticket booths were closed (no machines) I must have had about £100 of free travel over the year but what are you supposed to do!

    DawnyLou - of course you deserve to be happy! We all deserve to be content and supported. And I'm betting those are still pretty sexy PJs aren't they?!

    CCStar I kinow what you mean about wanting to make people realise what they have, like you son. I have friends with no panic attacks etc and they do little of anything with there lives. If I could just hop on a plane like they do I could possibly rule the world! Then they have the gaul to say they are jealous of me because of what i have achieved with my job and writing and I could scream - yes it's bloody hard work every day for me!!

    Had one foster cat put to sleep this morning but don't feel too sad as I know it was the right thing to do for her. The other cat due for an op is home with more antibiotics as he still has too much of a cold to risk an anaesthetic with.

    Matchsticks for my eyes please!
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    BizzyBek wrote: »
    Tulip - that used to happen to be a lot when I had to get an evening train in the northeast. Never saw a conductor and the ticket booths were closed (no machines) I must have had about £100 of free travel over the year but what are you supposed to do!

    DawnyLou - of course you deserve to be happy! We all deserve to be content and supported. And I'm betting those are still pretty sexy PJs aren't they?!

    CCStar I kinow what you mean about wanting to make people realise what they have, like you son. I have friends with no panic attacks etc and they do little of anything with there lives. If I could just hop on a plane like they do I could possibly rule the world! Then they have the gaul to say they are jealous of me because of what i have achieved with my job and writing and I could scream - yes it's bloody hard work every day for me!!

    Had one foster cat put to sleep this morning but don't feel too sad as I know it was the right thing to do for her. The other cat due for an op is home with more antibiotics as he still has too much of a cold to risk an anaesthetic with.

    Matchsticks for my eyes please!

    Aw the poor kitties - at least she is out of her misery and sending healing energy to the other one.

    Everyone has something that someone wishes they had - I had bad female health problems and it stopped my living my young life to the full. Now I feel too old.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • shazrobo
    shazrobo Posts: 3,313 Forumite
    hi everyone, hope your all well. feeling really tired and lacking motivation, think its a result of an increase in my medication.
    just sat at home waiting for my son to ring at 3. his support worker in school rang me half hour ago, to say he'd been assaulted in school, and my lad had done absolutly nothing to provoke the attack. feel sick in my stomach worrying about him, wish i could go into school and give daniel a big hug, so worried about him.
    big hugs to all
    shaz x
    enjoy life, we only get one chance at it:)
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