Depression Support Thread

Tulip

queensway_boy wrote: »

Shaz wer're alway here for you x

sure are Shaz,and we are here for you too QWB *hugs*


Katie

shazrobo

thanks qwb and katie, its good to be able to come on here and not be judged. as a parent i know the kids come first, especially with me being a single parent, but when does the time come when you can stop putting them first. i need a life, one that involves more than caring for the kids and cleaning up after them. feel trapped and alone, my ex was my only real friend, and i do miss him, its just me and the kids
big hugs
shaz x

rose07

hi shaz

its understandable you feel that way hun

I big part of your life has gone and its like a missing piece in your life

but you can make new pieces to go into the puzzle hun

could you get a group of you together and take the kids to your mums, and go out.

take care

xxx

rose07

BizzyBek wrote: »

Gilette you put a smile on my face. I think we need to set up a virtual badminton tournament!

last time i played badminton was at school :rotfl:, tho that wasnt that long ago

I love playing pool nowadays, thrashing the guys at pool is such a good feeling :rotfl:

shazrobo

hi rose, how are you?
i'm envious, i've always wanted to learn how to play pool, never found the time. as for going out my mum is'nt in a position to look after the kids, she is elderly and bad on her legs, and would'nt/couldn't look after the kids
shaz x

rose07

Miroslav wrote: »

Just popping in for a quick hello which hopes finds everyone as well as can be.

Apologies for not wanting to be around at the moment, I really cannot face anything.

I was close to just ending it all on Friday because i've had enough of it all and just don't have the strength anymore. Flatmate is useless, saying it'll get better and then getting moody with me when i'm not all joking around etc etc. Add to that she has to be the centre of attention and her breaking of a nail/Big Brother/dancing on ice etc etc is far more important than me in distress. It's not like I ever ask for anything as i'm used to relying solely on myself, so when I get really down and made to feel unimportant, it's liek a kick in the teeth even further.

Literally zero support, estranged family have NO idea and even if they did, it would be a 'pull yourself together' attitude, counselling finished before Christmas as the person counselling finished and I had the option for another counsellor, but was being pushed away from that option, so I was clearly wasting a valuable space, just like I have my whole life I suppose and CPN is hopeless as is my GP surgery, so nothing at all. Everyone else I know either has no idea or is a 'fair weather' person - someone who wants to know the good bits, but when I struggle avoids me. However when they struggle, i'm expected to give them my undivided attention, so I really cannot be bothered to go on with life anymore.

All I leave is a trail of disaster and like I've said before, someone else who died too young could have made a much better go with their life.

The saying the face doesn't fit, is rather apt here. I look at myself in the mirror and firmly believe i'm the ugliest bloke to ever walk the face of the earth. Born a mistake, live(?) a mistake, dying won't be a mistake.

I hope this post doesn't get anybody down, it's not my intent.

I don't know anybody here personally and never will, but everybody who posts gives and everybody should be grateful for MSE allowing this thread to exist as I know in the past, it has helped me when nothing else has wanted too.

You all deserve better and I firmly believe you will all find better, so unlike me, don't give up because I know each and every one of you can achieve whatever you want to achieve.

oh miro

IM sorry you are feeling soo low atm, but please believe me when i say there are loads of people that care about you.

I know it may not seem like you have many people, but you have all the people here hun. And i know you may think we are just usernames, but recently I have realised we are more than just usernames, we are real people, here we have a place where we can come when we feel no one else understand us. Maybe our 'real' friends dont understand, dont have the time, or merely ya just never see them. But here hun, in this virtual world, we all have someone. You will always have a friend here. Somewhere to come.

Please do not do anything as we all care about you

I have sent you a PM with my number and msn in, coz if you need to talk I am here. Even if you want to shout, or cry, or anything, i will just listen. Because sometimes thats all we need someone to listen.

Dont hesitate to get in contact, as i would prefer you talked/shouted/even screamed about things than to take that anger out on yourself

You are a very treasured person here, which shows in peoples posts to you

Im here if ya need hun
xxxxx

rose07

shazrobo wrote: »

hi rose, how are you?
i'm envious, i've always wanted to learn how to play pool, never found the time. as for going out my mum is'nt in a position to look after the kids, she is elderly and bad on her legs, and would'nt/couldn't look after the kids
shaz x

Hi hun

ohh im battling on ya know

funny thing is i had a day off today, and feel like i havent done much in it. Weird how time just flies by.

Oh if i was closer i would soo show ya how to play pool, its a great game. ok so all ya do is put balls in pockets :rotfl:. but it is good.

Is there anyone else ya could call on? Want rosie to come down and babysit?

maybe you could do what one of my mates does, invite your friends around, just soo you can see em. Girlie night maybe??

take care xx

Horace

CCStar wrote: »

Thank you - the benefit people would laugh at me - I do have means but don't want to spend it all, and need an income but feel I won't get very much. When I applied for jobs in the past I was told I was overqualified or too old or married or had a child. I am well qualified and need a job that stimulates otherwise I get up to mischief

When my husband was out of work, we got nothing despite him contributing for several years and of course me not working means I contributed even less. I read the link but feel in a trap because I decided to be a stay at home mum and I was ill with severe hormonal problems which has lead to me feeling mistrustful due to being kicked in the teeth by so called mates in my time when I wasn't at my best and the last time I worked full time it was a horrible place with a very b*tchy atmosphere. I was always the understanding and caring one with mates which I didn't mind but when it came to me falling from grace, I got a row and made to feel the bad guy:mad:

I feel very fragile just now and sensitive due to being sh*t on by so called mates, so hope I don't get kicked in the teeth when I need support.

It doesnt matter that you have stayed at home to look after your child because you will still have acquired some skills. You can manage a budget, you have communication skills plus your degree. To get yourself back into work try going temping - it can be fun and is particularly useful for folks who get bored easily (I used to temp as my 'real' job and I loved it because I never stayed in a place more than 1 month sometimes less time than that). If people pee you off too you can just leave (although you might not get paid). Start off temping at first to get you back into the swing of work plus you might just find some permanent work that way too especially if you get a temp to perm contract.

Sure, being on your own is scarey at first - I know because I took the plunge last year but looking back I wonder why I didn't do it sooner. These days my life is fab (although over Christmas/New Year I felt quite bleak), I have a new job with a whole set of new friends, my old chum from school has asked me to organise her wedding and life is looking up (just wish it would stop raining). Don't ever let anyone drag you down because if they do then they just aren't worth bothering with.

The added benefits of living on your own - you can do as you please - you can slob in front of the tv all weekend, you can eat chocolate for breakfast, you can eat cereal in the middle of the night. You can watch what you want on the telly, you don't need to wrestle the remote off anyone. You can eat what you want when you want, see who you want when you want - the list is endless.

Hope this helps.

rose07

BigMummaF wrote: »

Hello Peeps.....hope we've turned the corner on a lousy week:o


Aw Rose.....I'd be sorely tempted to tell that 'wanna-be pyschie' where to stick her theories; has she never heard of "You can't tell a book by it's cover"? Yeah OK, if you make the effort to be clean & tidy, it makes you feel better.....but your fashion style has no bearing on that whatsoever. Me muvva keeps telling me to wear froo-froo & lace, but that would be my worst night-mare----I'm just not a 'fluffy' sort of girl. Maybe you should write a letter to your gp, telling them why you feel this person's professional judgement leaves a lot to be desired.

Thanks for all your good wishes guys; it helps knowing you are there as a collective 'virtual shoulder':p Even tho we all have our own reasons for coming here, it's wonderful how much support there is for others.......

Hope you find some sun today, & I wish you Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

aww can ya tell her mumma, that would be great, coz i really felt like punching her. :mad: I just didnt know what to say to her, so i just said, yeah, ok, fine, bye!!!. And she has given me 2 weeks to erm change the way i am . See I thought the way i am is ok, now she just got me all confussed. And i dont know what to do in 2 weeks time. Maybe i should dye my hair green, and get it spiked, and get some tatoos, and things :rolleyes::rotfl:

I have a appntment with my gp on thursday, i think i will tell him about it, coz i dont think she had the right to say that to me.

How r u doing? Hope your BIL is doing ok?

right gotta go

dogs to feed and work to do

god work tomorrow :eek::eek::eek::eek:, now i know how sazzie feels on sundays :rotfl:

take care

xxxxx

meyore

Hi rose, how are you today? I didn't catch your last post the other night until after you'd signed off. Hope you're ok.

Xx