Depression Support Thread

BigMummaF

Morning.....tis such a shame about Skint.....think I've crossed paths with him in the threads somewhere, but don't feel I want to 'go public' on the thread they've started for him. It makes me sooooo:mad: when people all come crawling out of the woodwork & lay flowers & write messages, when the day before they didn't care if the poor soul had even existed.......BUT I hasten to add that This is MY opinion & in no way detracts from how others wish to express feelings of sorrow----or joy come to that. Why do some people want to hijack what is, essentially, a very private time for the immediate friends & family concerned?

Anyhoo...Life goes on & all that:o

Did you enjoy the party last night Gari? Were you the :staradmin turn doing a Full Monty;) ....I was sitting in the front, & couldn't tell if you had completed the task or not:rotfl: :rotfl:
Think me glass eye might need a polish...I'll have to drop it off when I take me leg to be waxed:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Hope today isn't too wet for you all, & Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

BizzyBek

Thanks RBK, have a big *hug*. Today I am am knacked! It's really catching up on me and sadly Mum continues to be in acute pain. But hey ho, these things are sent to try us! I'm trying to stay positive, it would be very easy to go all negative about te things I can't do (because panic attacks) so as get myself to the shops etc but instead I am thinking what a bloody good job I am nursing mum, running the house and working (modest aren't I lol)

Horace, there is a lot to be said for helping others as a way of helping ourselves - it can be a win-win situation. You probably don't realise just how amazing you are!

Sazbo

BigMummaF wrote: »

I was sitting in the front, & couldn't tell if you had completed the task or not:rotfl: :rotfl:
Think me glass eye might need a polish...I'll have to drop it off when I take me leg to be waxed:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

:rotfl: I nearly inhaled my tea reading that BMF! You are so funny! So Gary, wot's the answer hun?;) :rotfl:

Have a good day everyone :wave: I am in De Nile about the fact that it's Sunday and therefore I have to go to you-know-where tomorrow:rolleyes:

Much love to you all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

gario900

Sazbo wrote: »

:rotfl: I nearly inhaled my tea reading that BMF! You are so funny! So Gary, wot's the answer hun?;) :rotfl:

Have a good day everyone :wave: I am in De Nile about the fact that it's Sunday and therefore I have to go to you-know-where tomorrow:rolleyes:

Much love to you all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

Ditto, that lady is crazy!!!!

Well, my night was in bed,
Just up this second and ruffer than hell.
OH (not J , not date) coming to pick me up at 2.30 and going for a meal ( if i can taste it).
BB tomorrow guyz, enjoy yur day

xxx

Gary

Horasio

I am going nuts today. I am finding my marriage unbearable.

My OH says he loves me but puts emotional barriers up when we get close at home. He suddenly goes all quiet and withdrawn when we get alone if we are having a nice meal at home or been out for the evening. We are fine when we go out but as soon as we get home, he switches off and goes all distant, not just a normal winding down but a feeling of 'go away' from him. I know he can be tired sometimes and I allow for that but it's like a switch and I feel alone/pushed away. He seems to find the energy for other people but I feel like I don't rate in importance to him when we are alone. It goes without saying that sex is an emotional minefield and won't go into detail about that.

I am finding it really upsetting and feel he doesn't want to be with me, yet says he loves me, so I feel so confused. I am thinking about getting my own place because being at home is horrible when I feel he is being this way. I used to work full time and he did nothing around the house and was abusive when I was tired but expects me to put up with feeling abandoned when he is. I used to blame my illness but that has been sorted but he won't sort himself out. It is just an endless cycle of this !!!!!!!

I feel like I am the bad guy in this marriage. I want to be close and and he says he does but he gets abusive when I don't feel great and I'm a bit tired/grumpy and deflates me by being distant when I feel good. I am too scared to feel any pleasure in anything, he keeps the distant act up till I snap, then he is all nice, once I feel all upset. It has ruined holidays, occasions and houses.

I am in a position to leave soon but I don't know where to do anymore, I don't know who I am anymore, I have had to watch my moods when I am around him so lost my identity. I have found myself snapping at people when I go out because I am so unhappy. I feel I am being picked on by people which is a result of my years of being bullied at school and feeling bullied by my family for being in the 'wrong' mood. I am scared of being in certain moods because I feel I attract crap from people, even if I am quiet and don't inflict it. Like they have a sense of me being weak.

I feel I want to end it all - it has been 26 years of this living hell. I couldn't leave before, I didn't have enough money, ill and had a child. I didn't have any support from anyone. I was verbally attacked by 'so called' friends when I felt low - always expected to be entertaining and nice but get nothing back when I needed support during me low times. I do find it hard to trust people. I feel I do all the giving but when I need help, everyone is too busy or abusive.

Horace

Hello folks
How are we all today? It has been one of those days today - I get up, did 3 days' worth of washing up, cleaned the bathroom, started to sort out my living room (still looks like a tip but the pile of junk is smaller). Rang my old school chum Alison, fell asleep on the sofa after lunch and the biscuit binge:rolleyes:

Alison phoned me back - and woke me up. We had a good old natter and she told me that she got engaged on Christmas Day and has asked me to organise her wedding for her - she knows that she will be married in May 09, in Amalfi in Italy but I have to organise everything and to be honest my Italian is not too hot. I would consider it an honour to help her as she is my bestest mate as I have known her since I was 13 (at least I have got the hat already). We have arranged for a 3 hour lunch on Saturday to catch up and set our plans into action.

I should go back and tackle my housework but have started to feel sleepy and a tad sniffly so I shall lurk around here for a while because I dont want to go to sleep. I also need to think about what I shall have for dinner tonight and perhaps prepare something for tomorrow night too (might be bubble & squeak tomorrow).

Horasio

That is great - nothing like a good clearout at new year.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

firstly *hugs* CCStar I hope things go ok soon for you.I am alright.I had lunch at my parents and it was nice tonight I am going to relax,Just had a bath and washed my hair as It needed doing


love and light,

Katie xxx

queensway_boy

hugs to everyone




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dawnylou

To everyone (esp QWB)