Depression Support Thread

Horasio

Don't feel discouraged to post, there are a lot of people in a similar fragile state and get upset easily.

juno

CCStar wrote: »

Thank you

What did he do? What made you say enough? I feel that most of my depressed feeling stems from how I live and emotional restrictions I feel within my home. I don't want anyone saying I bring it on myself, I have tried to fight the feeling for years but if someone is hell bent on being a killjoy, you can only take so much till you get bought down. I wanted to leave sooner but lack of money and having a young child stopped me. I have the means and son is 20, so nothing is stopping me except:

I am feeling scared of getting a place of my own, I would rent initially as I don't know where to settle and wonder how agents treat women on their own, who have the means but don't have a job. I am worried about that too being nearly female and 44 and not worked for years full time but done lot of other things apart from bring up our son.

I am worried I might be prejudiced against. I have big issues about being a woman from when I was 22 and felt it when I was looking for work when I graduated. I really envy my son who is almost 20, but he isn't making the most of being a young male.

There was a recent post by someone on the DFW board who was in a similar position of not having worked for years, and they're a simialr age, too. It's here if you want to read it. Maybe reading that might give you some hope?

You might also be eligible for some benefits if you start off on a low income. I don't know much about that, but I'm sure there would on the Benefits board, or you could play with the caluclator here.

It will be hard if you decide to leave, but we're all supporting you here, and we'll help any way we can

cat9586

Hi everyone, hope you are all okay. Really been struggling over Christmas, apart from my dr thinking that I may have SAD as I am always ill in winter. I had a really bad encounter with a psychiatrist who was rather rude to me and made me want to kill myself. Been panicking all over xmas because I was meant to see her next week but a woman that works with my CPN kindly phoned up the office and explained what had happened and told them that I refused to see her again.

Just needed a chat

juno

antronella wrote: »

I have always tried to be supportive here and I have received so much support from others here...but tonight I am lost for words by someone on this site by PM. Don't feel able to post anymore..or at least for a while. Take care x

Report it to Abuse! I don't know if you can forward the PM to them, but definitely copy it into an email and send to [Removed by Forum Team]

That goes for you, too, QWB

Spikey_2

cat9586 wrote: »

Hi everyone, hope you are all okay. Really been struggling over Christmas, apart from my dr thinking that I may have SAD as I am always ill in winter. I had a really bad encounter with a psychiatrist who was rather rude to me and made me want to kill myself. Been panicking all over xmas because I was meant to see her next week but a woman that works with my CPN kindly phoned up the office and explained what had happened and told them that I refused to see her again.

Just needed a chat

in my humble opinion I think you should always talk to someone you trust and feel comfortable off-loading to.... don't let anyone talk down or be rude to you..... it's hard to do but if you do ... you do feel self empowered... sorry that's my two penence worth

Horasio

juno wrote: »

There was a recent post by someone on the DFW board who was in a similar position of not having worked for years, and they're a simialr age, too. It's here if you want to read it. Maybe reading that might give you some hope?

You might also be eligible for some benefits if you start off on a low income. I don't know much about that, but I'm sure there would on the Benefits board, or you could play with the caluclator here.

It will be hard if you decide to leave, but we're all supporting you here, and we'll help any way we can

Thank you - the benefit people would laugh at me - I do have means but don't want to spend it all, and need an income but feel I won't get very much. When I applied for jobs in the past I was told I was overqualified or too old or married or had a child. I am well qualified and need a job that stimulates otherwise I get up to mischief

When my husband was out of work, we got nothing despite him contributing for several years and of course me not working means I contributed even less. I read the link but feel in a trap because I decided to be a stay at home mum and I was ill with severe hormonal problems which has lead to me feeling mistrustful due to being kicked in the teeth by so called mates in my time when I wasn't at my best and the last time I worked full time it was a horrible place with a very b*tchy atmosphere. I was always the understanding and caring one with mates which I didn't mind but when it came to me falling from grace, I got a row and made to feel the bad guy:mad:

I feel very fragile just now and sensitive due to being sh*t on by so called mates, so hope I don't get kicked in the teeth when I need support.

Spikey_2

CCStar wrote: »

Thank you - the benefit people would laugh at me - I do have means but don't want to spend it all, and need an income but feel I won't get very much. When my husband was out of work, we got nothing despite him contributing for several years and of course me not working means I contributed even less. I will read the link but feel in a trap because I decided to be a stay at home mum and I was ill with severe hormonal problems which has lead to me feeling mistrustful due to being kicked in the teeth by so called mates in my time when I wasn't at my best. I was always the understanding and caring one which I didn't mind but when it came to me being less than perfect, I got a row and made to feel the bad guy:mad:

I feel very fragile just now and sensitive due to being sh*t on by so called mates, so hope I don't get kicked in the teeth when I need support.

there are true friends and acquaintences.... ... just remember who you are ... That is your a good person.... and no matter what you are important and there are people out there who care and apreciate your support.... don't give up.

juno

cat9586 wrote: »

Hi everyone, hope you are all okay. Really been struggling over Christmas, apart from my dr thinking that I may have SAD as I am always ill in winter. I had a really bad encounter with a psychiatrist who was rather rude to me and made me want to kill myself. Been panicking all over xmas because I was meant to see her next week but a woman that works with my CPN kindly phoned up the office and explained what had happened and told them that I refused to see her again.

Just needed a chat

Hi! :hello:

Are you going to see another psychiatrist? It might be a good idea to ask your doctor to re-refer you to someone else. They're not all horrible, and some are quite nice. Mine had the same taste in shoes as me I know that's completely superficial, but we were wearing the same shoes and somehow it made me feel better. I like shoes.

Is that your cat in your avatar? Cats don't seem to like me

cat9586

Spikey wrote: »

in my humble opinion I think you should always talk to someone you trust and feel comfortable off-loading to.... don't let anyone talk down or be rude to you..... it's hard to do but if you do ... you do feel self empowered... sorry that's my two penence worth

Thank you, I got told that alot over the Christmas period. I had just got confident enough to talk to people about my feelings and my CPN told me it was okay to cry and not a sign of weakness. Went into that room thinking that it was going to help and it made me feel awful. She told me not to cry as only babies cry, that my partner was going to leave me if I didnt pack it in. When I told her there was a lot of depression in my family she replied 'is that because antidepressants are a trend now?' She also told me there was nothing wrong with me but why would I want to work when I was on benefits. I wanted to scream but sat there and nodded and tried not to cry.
I tried to tell her about the past and she told me it didnt matter. It didnt matter that Ive had 8 jobs none lasting more than 6 weeks at a time and I had a breakdown each time, it also didnt matter that I had a less than normal upbringing which led me to see someone at 12. I came out feeling like rubbish but kept telling myself that was one persons opinion, 5 professionals had seen me and recognised a problem, I'm on DLA as I simply cant work and struggle with normal day to day things. Im still very upset about it all even though I never have to see her again

Sorry to have ranted

antronella

it wasn't abusive.. i just am upset..sorry shouldn't have said x