Depression Support Thread

Horace

Hi to all

Antronella, I took the plunge last year and separated from my hubby (we had led separate lives for years). At first it was a bit scarey but my friends all helped out - one wrote down a load of easy recipes so that at least I could learn to cook and others have done other stuff for me. I must admit that its the best thing I ever did and cannot understand why I didnt do it before. I can do as I please without having to worry about anyone else. My flat is currently a tip but I dont really care because I know that I will tidy it tomorrow:D If I want to veg out in front of the telly and watch a soppy film then I can without any rude comments. It is hard but you will be fine.

Today has been a good day, work was great and I am really getting stuck in, I don't have a brief or a budget but know what needs doing so if I can get as much done now then I wont have to fret later. We heard today too that we will be staying in the office building that we have been using this week - it really is rather grand (I rather like their swanky soap in the loos:o ). It is in the heart of BrindleyPlace in Birmingham and is quite easy to get to from New Street where my bus drops me off. I have been offered a free parking space but I really can't be bothered to drive into Birmingham so if I need to go on visits then I shall have to use public transport. What is fab is that everyone gets on so well - we were recruited at the same time so we will be setting up the Birmingham office. I work as an Events Consultant but my boss keeps asking me to be her PA but I want to move away from that sort of work because I hate being the dogsbody.

I tripped up on the way into work this morning too and wrenched my ankle - the bloomin' pavements here are awful as they are so uneven. My heels aren't that high either so I can't put the blame on them. The weather has been dreadful today and as I left the office earlier this afternoon, I got drenched and even more soaked by a council worker sweeping up water - straight across my feet:mad: I decided to do a bit of shopping in the sales but ended up in two shops Jane Norman and Primark:D I need to buy a suit for work too but dont want to spend too much money as I am trying to reduce my waistline so that clothes will fit. I waited for ages and ages for a bus and all the time I was getting soaked. I did have some free entertainment though as the police bundled someone out of the Pallisades onto the street - the chap was getting rather agitated and then more police appeared, they were still dealing with him when I eventually got on the bus.

I hope it isnt raining tomorrow as I have to go and cash my giro, collect a parcel from the postoffice and go and get my hair done. Plus I need to tidy up as my mate is coming round.

Hugs to all, cyas laters.
Horace x

Bunnie1982

*hugs to you all*

Been back to the doctor today and discussed things with her, made me fill in a questionnaire (as government standard) to assess what level of depression I have. Been put back on AD's (haven't taken them since 2006) and got the usual sicky, dry mouth feeling.

Not feeling TOO bad today, apart from waking up at 6:20am with a raging migraine and no painkillers in the house, husband had to nip out to Tesco to get me some. Went a bit weepy this afternoon, only because I read a text message the wrong way.

Doctor didn't really suggest anything to regularise my sleeping and eating so I guess I have to do it alone.

antronella

Aaaaaaaaaaaaagggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...I just wrote a long post and my internet went down when I'd finished and its gone...........

antronella

Thanks to everyone who replied to my miserable post! Horace, it helps to hear from others who have been through something similar. How long have you been married?

Shaz, I wish there was some way to deal with your ex calling round. All I can think is that as long as he has any encouragement from you then he will keep calling. He is looking for you to weaken and he is trying to wear you down. Could you not write him a letter saying you have given it lots of thought, but you are not going to change your mind about getting back together and ask that he doesn't keep pestering you? The only way is to be firm..and keep saying the same thing, I know it's difficult when you still have feelings for him.

Have a friend calling round soon and have jjust poured a glass of wine. Feeling slightly better today, so fingers crossed.

Hugs to everyone x

gario900

antronella wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied to my miserable post! Horace, it helps to hear from others who have been through something similar. How long have you been married?

Shaz, I wish there was some way to deal with your ex calling round. All I can think is that as long as he has any encouragement from you then he will keep calling. He is looking for you to weaken and he is trying to wear you down. Could you not write him a letter saying you have given it lots of thought, but you are not going to change your mind about getting back together and ask that he doesn't keep pestering you? The only way is to be firm..and keep saying the same thing, I know it's difficult when you still have feelings for him.

Have a friend calling round soon and have jjust poured a glass of wine. Feeling slightly better today, so fingers crossed.

Hugs to everyone x

Glad your feeling better today hun, you'll have your ups and downs but you'll pull thru it.
Enjoy your evening hun

xxx:beer:

Horace

Atronella - I got married in 1985 - I only gave my parents 6 weeks to organise a wedding (what a silly girl I was...). Still I managed to stick when all around me my cousins were getting married and divorced within 2 years. I had been going out with him for 4 years before that.

Things were ok for a while but he joined a different motorcycle club - and he changed from being a short-haired, short-bearded person to a long-haired beardy wierdy, plus he started smoking and he thought it was fun to start the mind games. I very nearly had a nervous breakdown but I stayed and tried to work things out, then I realised that life was too short and horror of horrors splashed a load of cash on a 3 week holiday to Australia (it was money from one of my personal insurance policies). The old man was really miffed because he had plans for my money which is why I spent it on me!!

We have managed to stay friends which is a good thing but I think we both realise that we should never have gotten married in the first place. I have a new chap now - who is younger than me:D who makes me laugh, matches me intellectually (although there are times when I think I am a lot brainier than he), plus he makes me feel safe and more importantly - loved (although he never uses the words). He has put up with a lot too because the work-related stress in my old job made me moody and unsociable. In fact I am still suffering from the after-effects but hopefully the new job will help.

I have a friend at work - we met on the interview day, who suffers from a depressive illness (she has days when she is up and others like today when she is really down). We get on really well but we both acknowledge that there are times when we will annoy the hell out of each other because we are similar.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Katie I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better. It sounds like things are on the up, I hope it continues

How did you get on at the day centre?

Good luck with the diet

juno Did you have a good birthday?

I hope the mental health nurse can help you with your self-esteem.

Good luck for your interview. I hope it goes well.

antronella (((HUGS))) I would imagine the way you are feeling is perfectly normal and given time you will heal and feel ready to tackle life. It doesn't need to be a downward spiral, see it as a new beginning. We're all here to help/advise/listen. Don't be afraid to use us.

BigMummaF (((HUGS))) Im sorry to hear about your BIL. If chemotherapy won't cure the cancer and will just make him feel so sick then it sounds as though his decision not to have the treatment was the right one. It must have been extremely hard for everyone to hear his decision but it's what he wanted. I hope you're coping OK BMF.

Sorry to hear about the couple you mentioned. How awful It's true bad things happen to the nicest people, no idea why

We're always here for you BMF.

BizzyBek Did the Doctor come and see your Mum? How is she?

shazrobo Oh hun if you don't want to get back with your ex you shouldn't invite him round for tea/coffee. It's sending him out the wrong message.

Do you want to get back together or do you want to move on?

Horace It sounds like you're really enjoying work which is great news :j It's always good when everyone gets on well together

Did you end up buying any new clothes in the sale?

Oooh what are you getting done to your hair? Cut? Colored? Do we get to see a pic?

Bunnie1982 I hope the anti-depressants start to help you soon.

Are you receiving counselling as well?

Do you have trouble sleeping every night?

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I am ok I am watching Echo Beach tonight with Jason Donovan in,I am fine thanks RBK.Hope you are doing ok and have a great weekend

chat tomorrow


Night! Night!

*hugs* to those that need it


love and light,

Katie xxx

BizzyBek

Hi RBK How are you?

Yes, the young doc came out and she was a star. Last time Mum had sciatica like this was 22 years ago and ideas have changed a lot from them. So she has a lot painkillers to help get her mobile and in the mean time she has to do as I say *evil laugh*!

Sounds awfully selfish with her being in so much pain, but having so much to do and having to be organised etc has really helped me lift myself up a gear! Feeling nicely positive again.

meyore

So sad OH was meant to be home tonight, but got stuck at Bristol because of flooding or something and now can't get home and he wouldn't let me come and pick him up either. Hes turned his phone of because he has no battery and I just feel so disappointed and alone. I don't know where he is or whats going to happen, he wanted me to book us a hotel in Bath for tomorrow but I just don't feel like it. I'm talking rubbish I know it sorry