Depression Support Thread

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Big hugs to Ethel - thinking of you

poppycracker

(((((((BIG hugs)))))) to you ethel


Hi all :hello: hope everyone is having a productive day today.

I've had a stinking cold over the weekend so my house is a tip and I'm back at work today. OH has had the same cold but of course he is 'dying' and has been either bundled up on the couch or in bed since Friday.

(((hugs))) to anyone else who is ill or generally having a bad day.

juno

I've been up since early this morning waiting for the postman. So of course he decided to not come until 1pm! Anyway, he brough me a box of crispbread that I won in a competition! :j

hayley11

Ethel - I am so sorry to hear about your son and I'm glad he is fighting back. Lots and lots of big hugs hunny and I hope he's doing better today.

Hayley x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I went to my church today and saw all my friends,then went back to craft where I used some clay and made some christmas decorations to put on my christmas tree,Its gone to be fired in a kiln now and I will get that back possibly not next week but the week after

QWB So Sorry to hear of your MIL being seriously ill in hopital *hugs*

Hope everyone else is well and happy,I went to see my specialist tonight and hes pleased with me so I am pleased too


Having a nice relaxing evening tonight now


love and light,

Katie xxx

ElegantlyWasted

CCStar wrote: »

The fact you replied means an awful lot to me.:)

I find writing it down helps, helps me sort my head but I just want to have fun, not have to keep analysing things. My OH seems so serious a lot of the time. I tried making friends when I first came up here but it's not easy. I was unable to work due to health and childcare commitments.

I have discovered that being at home makes him more boring but he did see that for himself last night and he suggested a way of combining work and being together at home. There aren't many places I enjoy going out to up here, so it is important that home is more fun, as well as relaxing.

I also find drinking (not to excess) makes me tired and is making me put on weight. I must cut it to 2-3 times a week instead of 5 days a week. I feel it would help him too.

I find writing things down helps with some things, but I've got into the habit of being avoidant now, and writing it down isn't exactly congruent with that! When I had a therapy session, he told me to keep a journal, but that never felt natural. I'd rather write when I feel like it, otherwise it becomes a chore.

I can understand about making home a fun place, as I'm in it most of the time, I've made sure that there are plenty of things to do - my partner and I do a lot of craft-type things together.

The very best of luck with cutting down on drinking *hugs*

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

Queensway_boy - So sorry to hear about your mother in law. *hugs*

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

juno wrote: »

I've been up since early this morning waiting for the postman. So of course he decided to not come until 1pm! Anyway, he brough me a box of crispbread that I won in a competition! :j

My postman only *ever* comes on time (about 8am) when he has a mass of parcels that he wants me to sign for! If I'm waiting for a parcel and have got up, he shows up early afternoon :rolleyes:

ElegantlyWasted

santashelper wrote: »

i find i get the opposite to you as i feel like this in the mornings until lunch time i know where you are coming from when you feel unable to function normally i sometimes get overwhelmed and a detached feeling, but im sure things will get better for you have you tried a sad lamp i always thought they were expensive but in the news of the world they have a booklet sometimes and in there is a smaller lamp for approx £49 i brought one and am trying it out not sure how its going yet but will keep you informed.


Wishing everyone else on here good luck for your recovery one thing i always think is its so true the saying ignorance is bliss because when i try to explain depression the people who have not had it they cant understand the mental torture attatched to this they just think it must be nice not to have to work but when it affects you 24/7 its not ive even had people say to me i wish i had time to get ill but thats why i got ill in the first placing by doing to much

Anyway thanks for listening

Take care everyone

I don't generally see the morning! I try to avoid it if humanly possible. I would give an SAD lamp a go, but at the minute, I'm unemployed, and so I just don't have the funds to get one. It's definitely something for next year though.

People who haven't been there can't understand, in my experience. They just think you're attention-seeking, or that you shouldn't let things get to you, or you're just a grump. My mum has never let me forget how disappointed she is in me for having depression. More so now that I'm on ad's, which is ironic.

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

santashelper wrote: »

thanks for your reply i have tried talking to my husband but it feels like water off a ducks back i explained to him if he was ill i would be trying everything i could to help him get better but its like he thinks its something i have to do on my own he goes off to work and comes home as if his work is his life and im just there to cook, clean, see to the kids, etc i dont know what to do about it really because ive had issues in the past when ive asked if he could do more for the kids and he does initially for a few days then goes back to what he was like befgre and gives me the impression its my responsibility as long as he is providing financially it appears that is all he thinks his role in my life is and i should be grateful.

Its hard because i cant talk to my parents because of their rejection and basically didnt support me when i married saying he wasnt good enough what hurts most is when i was working full time and doing a lot of other things he was happy, i have had some councelling where i have learnt assertion has been my downfall and so when you first apply assertivness you try this out on the nearest to you but when im assertive with him all he says is i think its good your being assertive but its good if you are like this outside the home and i didnt think you were going to be like this at home.

I agree that i need to lower to standards as i can be a bit of a perfectionist so i am working on this.

thanks for your support its much appreciated.

*hugs* I really hope your husband starts supporting you. You definitely deserve it.

Good on you for being assertive - keep it up!!

Lisa x