Depression Support Thread

hayley11

juno wrote: »

Stop thinking what you "should" have done. As soon as you start thinking like that you just make yourself feel worse.

You said on your work thread that work have given you unrealistic targets and they don't know what's best for you. So of course you're not going to be back at work yet, because you never got a chance! You might as well just aim to run a marathon on Monday; off you go.

Tiff (I think it was) posted a list ages ago of things we should aim to do each day. And you're getting up and dressed, and it doesn't matter what the reason is because you're still doing it! Maybe try and neaten things up during some of the advert breaks or something, but don't do too much or you will make yourself worse.

And you don't have to be great to get a hobby. We all have to start somewhere. Most places run classes for beginners, and I'm sure if you explain you're a complete beginner they'll understand.If you're on any kind of benefits, you might be eligible for free or reduced fees so look around.

Thanks Juno.

When I'm having a good day I know none of this is my fault and I should just do what I can. But days like this, I can't see or think anything but badness. I hate myself for being so weak. I've cut my arms up pretty bad today so my OH is going to go mad when he gets in so that's something else to worry about ((sigh)) I just hope tomorrow is a better day than today.

Thanks hun x

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Bet you thought I'd forgotten to do what I get paid in catnip for, didn't you?
Tiff-bits time! And in no particular order, (that's what they all say!),...

sazzy - good luck with your counselling tonight angel! Thank you for your kind thoughts hun - especially as I know things are not all that easy for yourself right now and work being hectic. Thinking of you as always sweetie. I know you'll post when you get 5 minutes. Take care saz hun.

ettie b! - oh hun, it was so good to see you posting - thanks for your usual guardian angel reply. I'll give it the due attention it deserves later ethel. You know just what to say to turn me into a soggy Tiff! Bless you sweetie for thinking of me when things are so hard for you.:A Hoping all is well with you and yours angel and good luck with uni, hun.

cb2 - a belated, but very much deserved , angel! Wishing you all that you'd wish for yourself in the coming year hunnie. I hope you're well angel. Thinking of you - take care sweetheart. Reply on it's way this week. Safe journeys.

bmf - expect a Tiffy reply for you too hun. Love reading your posts and thank you for all your kind support and your lovely sense of humour bmf, bless you. Are all the nestlings still in the nest? How goes things for you angel? Take care bmf.

rose - I hope you're feeling better yourself rosie - remember, one step at a time, ok? Thank you for your kind words hun, much appreciated. And you can put those wellies away 'cos I 'fessed up! Take care rose.

qb - you're doing a great job with all those hugs - well done hun! Keep up the good work and look after yourself.

miro - how's you hun? Gone into hiding again huh?:think: Hoping you're all right miro - just stick your head through the catflap to let us know you're ok.

ilgd - hey hunnie - where's you at? You are conspicuous by your absence angel. I hope that it's a case of good things that are preventing you from posting. Take care hun.

rbk - it was nice to see you posting again angel. I hope things are looking up for you and I'm wishing you well hunnie.

gem - yet another of the thread's angels. Thank you for your lovely words sweetheart - it's good to hear from you again. What's going on in your world gem? Take care hunnie.

dawnylou - hope you're ok hun. I know things have been rough recently but you hang in there, dawny. Things will come together angel. Stay safe.

There are so many more of you that I want to say hello to and catch up with and that's meant sincerely. You all deserve more than Tiff-bits.
Like bmf said, some of you are being far too quiet. So please post a quick hello - or even an insult! - whatever works for you.
Now don't you make us come looking for you!

Thought you might like to read this while you're having your afternoon tea with hobnobs...

Movie Theater Mayhem!

A man was sprawled across three entire seats in a theater.
When the usher came by and noticed this, he whispered to the man, "Sorry sir, but you're only allowed one seat."
The man grunted but didn't budge. The usher became impatient.
"Sir," the usher said, "if you don't get up from there, I'm going to have to call the manager!"
Again, the man just grunted, which infuriated the usher who turned and marched briskly back up the aisle in search of his manager.
In a few moments, both the usher and the manager returned and stood over the man. Together the two of them tried repeatedly to move him, but with no success. Finally, they summoned the police. The cop surveyed the situation briefly.
"All right, buddy. What's your name?"
"Sam," the man groaned.
"Where ya from, Sam?" the cop asked.
"The balcony."



Hope it made someone smile. Better get back to the coal face and start posting while I can.;)
Again, I'm very grateful for your kind words guys - thank you. You're pretty wonderful people.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

ElegantlyWasted

shazrobo wrote: »

hi lisa, in woodwork at the moment i am making a table lamp, i enjoy being there as it helps me to forget about my problems whilst i'm concentrating on the wood, plus it gets me out of the house which is a big plus. the staff at the centre are really nice too, and understand what i'm going through
shaz x

Hi Shaz, sounds like great fun! You'll have to post a picture when you're finished

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

hayley11 wrote: »

Hi guys

I'm having such a hard time at the moment, I can't even drag myself out of bed until I know I have to because my OH is coming home for lunch and I'd hate for him to find me in bed at that time. Everything is just so hard, I don't even eat because I can't be bothered, I haven't washed my hair for days, haven't done any real cleaning or washing. I spend my days lay around watching rubbish telly. I feel like there's no point even waking in the morning because my days are so rubbish. I wish I had a hobby or some kind of club or social thing I could go to but i'm not good at anything and I'm far too shy and down to make new friends at the moment.

I should have seen my doctor almost two weeks ago so he could check how my meds are going but I just can't bring myself to go all that way, on my own or not (my doctors surgery is over an hour away but I don't want to switch doctors) I should have been back in work on Monday and I haven't gone in or spoken to anybody from work. They make me feel like such a failure because I can't do what they want. I'm thinking of just quitting, at least that will be one less thing to worry about.

I don't feel like me at the moment, I feel like something bad is running through me and the only way to stop it is to hurt myself but my OH gets really upset when I do it. I feel like i'm trapped.

Sorry for the miserable post.

Hayley x

Hi Hayley,

I'm sorry things are so bad hun *hugs*
I completely second what Juno said, and to be honest, it's along the same lines as what I would have written.
I know how hard it can be to motivate yourself to do things, you need to just take it a day at a time, and do what you feel able.
Pushing yourself to do more things is only going to be detrimental in the long run.
Take care of yourself,
Lisa x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all well,I am fine I went to my club today and I had a nice time seeing my friends

Hayley Sorry to hear you dont feel so good today and remember this You are Not a failure You are a lovely person and we are all here for you ok

I used to label myself a failure but not anymore as I do things that make me happy like making my own cards getting all the bits I need to do my crafting and if the word failure comes to me I block it out as I know I am not as I have friends that care about me very much

*hugs* to you and hope things get brighter tomorrow,I do hope so


*hugs* to those that also need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

johnroberts07

At least my sister didnt suffer too long, she died 7 weeks after being diagnosed

meyore

rose07 wrote: »

Hi hun

glad you feelin a bit better today.

AS to your oh, its hard when someone is farr away, and textin is never a good way to communicate (bet yas never thought youd hear a young un say that? ). Pick uo the phone and give him a ring, tell him how you feel, and that ya just wanna give him a big cuddle. I do a silly thing with my bro, i hug the phone, and it shows him how much i care. (now you can all imagine me huggin a phone :rotfl:)

hope you are well tonight

take care xxx

Thanks Rose, I wish I could ring him but hes not allowed to use his phone, so if he even gets caught texting hes in trouble. I just send him things I know will make him laugh, because I know it'll take his mind off it. :rotfl: I can relate to the hugging the phone though-I'm going to give it a try next time he rings!
Xx

meyore

hayley11 wrote: »

Hi guys

I'm having such a hard time at the moment, I can't even drag myself out of bed until I know I have to because my OH is coming home for lunch and I'd hate for him to find me in bed at that time. Everything is just so hard, I don't even eat because I can't be bothered, I haven't washed my hair for days, haven't done any real cleaning or washing. I spend my days lay around watching rubbish telly. I feel like there's no point even waking in the morning because my days are so rubbish. I wish I had a hobby or some kind of club or social thing I could go to but i'm not good at anything and I'm far too shy and down to make new friends at the moment.

I should have seen my doctor almost two weeks ago so he could check how my meds are going but I just can't bring myself to go all that way, on my own or not (my doctors surgery is over an hour away but I don't want to switch doctors) I should have been back in work on Monday and I haven't gone in or spoken to anybody from work. They make me feel like such a failure because I can't do what they want. I'm thinking of just quitting, at least that will be one less thing to worry about.

I don't feel like me at the moment, I feel like something bad is running through me and the only way to stop it is to hurt myself but my OH gets really upset when I do it. I feel like i'm trapped.

Sorry for the miserable post.

Hayley x

Hi Hayley I'm sorry to hear things are bad for you at the moment. You don't need to apologise we all need to let it out sometimes. I hope you feel better soon and if you want to talk about it you know where I am
Xx

meyore

Sometimes I think I'm not as good as other people, but on days when I can think clearly, like today, I realise that just because i'm not like them doesn't make me less in any way. I'm not bad at something just because I'm not as good as others are. I'm waffling, I guess you can tell I'm feeling ok today

Hope everyone else is too
Xx

ilovegreatdanes

hi guys.......
yes, its been awhile but i hope you are all hanging in there.i apologise for my absence and not being able to catch up cos i fear ive missed so much that i would be here for hours trying to find the last post i read, so please forgive me.
have had dh at home for couple of weeks after he had his liver biopsy so you know how it is......cant justify all the comp time when hes around.
tbh, have enjoyed, if thats the right word,the enforced rest away from the forums as they started to take over my life and i found i was on here for hours on end, instead of getting on with good stuff like chores and exercise.......mind you ,i dont eat or drink while im on here so i suppose thats one benefit.
i have missed you all, though.its very strange cos you get to know ppl well throu their posts and i feel ive made some great mates on here and received support and advice which has been much needed.
i also hope ive contributed some good stuff in my own way.....well been along for the ride....
sounds like im writing a leaving speech, doesnt it???
just trying to explain that even if i only drop in occasionally from now, ill always be here in spirit......and ill never forget that each one of you has made my life brighter and i feel honoured to have run into all of you.
dont forget....ill be watching you all!!!!
btw,did you read that smartie production is being moved from york to .....germany!!!!!!better start panic buying immediately...............



now wheres everyone gone?????


ill turn off the light and lock up then.........




all the best, look after yourselves,
love ilgd xxxxxx