Depression Support Thread

ElegantlyWasted

CCStar wrote: »

It sounds like SAD - you are thinking it is time for bed at this time.

Thanks CC, I think SAD is pretty spot on. I've been thinking of investing in one of those lights that are supposed to help, but they're far too expensive! I have been told that I am susceptible to SAD, but I've never felt it this hard before.

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

rose07 wrote: »

Hi hun

Yeah i do find evenings hard, but i am keep myself busy atm, with two projects on the go.

I think the time of year can have an effect on how you feel, but the other night it was a clear night and i could see the sun setting and then later the moon came up and the stars were shining, and it just seemed soo calm, but i def think the time of year has something to do with it.

What is normal? we all think we should be like other people or try and fit in, when really what makes us , us, is what makes u special, our illnesses are part of who we are. I dont think there is a normal, of how we should be, we just are how we are.

I think the key thing is to take it slow, like anything in life, take it slow. I apply this to my driving lessons, slow and one thing at a time, apart from when i speed :eek::rotfl:. Really thoo, you will find your way in time, there is hope, and you will get there.

And you can always talk/vent here xxx

Thank you, Rose. The time of year is definitely a major factor at the minute, so I think I need to find some nice things to do when it gets dark, to take my mind off it.

I know that normal is all in the mind, and that no-one is truely happy with how they are. I tend to define it more as being able to leave the house without having a panic attack. I feel I can cope until my anxiety kicks in.

I'm taking it one day at a time, and just doing what I can. I know that trying to make plans for the future just results in me panicking, so I'm trying to keep the focus on today. I count it as an achievement if I can go to bed at night without self harming, or eat a proper meal, and so on.

How are you hun?

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

shazrobo wrote: »

morning everyone, hope every one is well today. feel so tired, cant seem to get enough sleep at the moment, and have to get up early to get sons ready for school, before their taxi arrives.
having a coffee to help me wake up then getting dressed and off to woodwork at my day centre, which is the hilight of my week.
big hugs to all those that need one
shaz x

Hope you have a lovely day, Shaz. What are you making in your woodwork class? *hugs to you too*

Lisa x

ElegantlyWasted

CCStar wrote: »

I am going thro hell here and I feel really alone.

I am married yet I feel so alone. We have time together but all my OH does is go all quiet and sleepy or do work when we are at home. It is fine when we go out but when we are home, he switches off - obviously there are times you need to switch off but it is every time, like he thinks he doesn't have to try when we are home. I feel I am having to do all the work (not so much the chores) and I can't do it all but I am not getting any assistance from him to keep the mood going. I can start the ball rolling but need him to keep it going and snowball between us. Instead I feel cut dead and deflated and it is killing me. I am alone without the benefits and I have someone around without any benefits.

I seem to feel better when people are friendly when I go out, and I go nuts when people are rude and very outspoken to them. I feel where I live the people don't respond when I make the effort which really psses me off. I don't need people to make the first move but really get annoyed when people are rude or deflate me.

I don't find it easy to make friends, I have been badly hurt by people I thought were my friends and find it hard to trust people. A lot of the time I have felt ignored or abused.

*hugs* I'm sorry things are so bad at the minute hun. I don't really know what advice to offer, but you are not alone. Everyone here is here to support each other.

I understand about finding it hard to trust people; what's the point when they always seem to abuse it? There are some who are worth it, however, and I hope that you find someone like that.

Sorry I can't offer anything constructive x

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How are we all today? Welcome to (cat) Chewsday!

Now, I didn't want to have to do this, but I can't ignore it any longer.
Thanks to certain peeps here - mutter, mutter - you know who you are! - this thread has taken on a definite c-a-n-i-n-e feel lately! Well I won't have it, I tell you!
There are special dispensations for the kind k9's who post here of course - but that's it.
Just because ol' Tiff hasn't been posting as much recently, they've been trying to sneak in! See this is the trouble with d-*-g-s - (), they try and infiltrate a cat's territory the minute its back is turned. And before you know it, they're stealing your dinner, displaying their dangly bits to all and sundry, sneaking around making smells and have you running around collecting all their carp in bags.

(Hang on - this is starting to sound like my ex-husband!)

I digress...
So, in order to restore the natural balance of things, you've left Tiff with no alternative...

.....

HA!

Wishing you all the best day you can have. Be kind to yourself guys!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

ElegantlyWasted

Tiff wrote: »

Hi guys!:hello:
How are we all today? Welcome to (cat) Chewsday!

Now, I didn't want to have to do this, but I can't ignore it any longer.
Thanks to certain peeps here - mutter, mutter - you know who you are! - this thread has taken on a definite c-a-n-i-n-e feel lately! Well I won't have it, I tell you!

Just because ol' Tiff hasn't been posting as much recently, they've been trying to sneak in! See this is the trouble with d-*-g-s - (), they try and infiltrate a cat's territory the minute its back is turned. And before you know it, they're stealing your dinner, displaying their dangly bits to all and sundry, sneaking around making smells and have you running around collecting all their carp in bags.

This just made me laugh so hard. I'm a definite cat person, though after my little treasure vomited all over my partners clothes yesterday, I'm surprised! Hope you have a lovely day, Tiff.

Lisa x

shazrobo

ElegantlyWasted wrote: »

Hope you have a lovely day, Shaz. What are you making in your woodwork class? *hugs to you too*

Lisa x

hi lisa, in woodwork at the moment i am making a table lamp, i enjoy being there as it helps me to forget about my problems whilst i'm concentrating on the wood, plus it gets me out of the house which is a big plus. the staff at the centre are really nice too, and understand what i'm going through
shaz x

hayley11

Hi guys

I'm having such a hard time at the moment, I can't even drag myself out of bed until I know I have to because my OH is coming home for lunch and I'd hate for him to find me in bed at that time. Everything is just so hard, I don't even eat because I can't be bothered, I haven't washed my hair for days, haven't done any real cleaning or washing. I spend my days lay around watching rubbish telly. I feel like there's no point even waking in the morning because my days are so rubbish. I wish I had a hobby or some kind of club or social thing I could go to but i'm not good at anything and I'm far too shy and down to make new friends at the moment.

I should have seen my doctor almost two weeks ago so he could check how my meds are going but I just can't bring myself to go all that way, on my own or not (my doctors surgery is over an hour away but I don't want to switch doctors) I should have been back in work on Monday and I haven't gone in or spoken to anybody from work. They make me feel like such a failure because I can't do what they want. I'm thinking of just quitting, at least that will be one less thing to worry about.

I don't feel like me at the moment, I feel like something bad is running through me and the only way to stop it is to hurt myself but my OH gets really upset when I do it. I feel like i'm trapped.

Sorry for the miserable post.

Hayley x

juno

shazrobo wrote: »

hi lisa, in woodwork at the moment i am making a table lamp, i enjoy being there as it helps me to forget about my problems whilst i'm concentrating on the wood, plus it gets me out of the house which is a big plus. the staff at the centre are really nice too, and understand what i'm going through
shaz x

Ooooh, that's clever! Aren't the electricity bits hard? If it was me, I'd probably accidentally cut through the wire. I once got an electric shock changing a lightbulb.

juno

hayley11 wrote: »

Hi guys

I'm having such a hard time at the moment, I can't even drag myself out of bed until I know I have to because my OH is coming home for lunch and I'd hate for him to find me in bed at that time. Everything is just so hard, I don't even eat because I can't be bothered, I haven't washed my hair for days, haven't done any real cleaning or washing. I spend my days lay around watching rubbish telly. I feel like there's no point even waking in the morning because my days are so rubbish. I wish I had a hobby or some kind of club or social thing I could go to but i'm not good at anything and I'm far too shy and down to make new friends at the moment.

I should have seen my doctor almost two weeks ago so he could check how my meds are going but I just can't bring myself to go all that way, on my own or not (my doctors surgery is over an hour away but I don't want to switch doctors) I should have been back in work on Monday and I haven't gone in or spoken to anybody from work. They make me feel like such a failure because I can't do what they want. I'm thinking of just quitting, at least that will be one less thing to worry about.

I don't feel like me at the moment, I feel like something bad is running through me and the only way to stop it is to hurt myself but my OH gets really upset when I do it. I feel like i'm trapped.

Sorry for the miserable post.

Hayley x

Stop thinking what you "should" have done. As soon as you start thinking like that you just make yourself feel worse.

You said on your work thread that work have given you unrealistic targets and they don't know what's best for you. So of course you're not going to be back at work yet, because you never got a chance! You might as well just aim to run a marathon on Monday; off you go.

Tiff (I think it was) posted a list ages ago of things we should aim to do each day. And you're getting up and dressed, and it doesn't matter what the reason is because you're still doing it! Maybe try and neaten things up during some of the advert breaks or something, but don't do too much or you will make yourself worse.

And you don't have to be great to get a hobby. We all have to start somewhere. Most places run classes for beginners, and I'm sure if you explain you're a complete beginner they'll understand.If you're on any kind of benefits, you might be eligible for free or reduced fees so look around.