Depression Support Thread

meyore

I was wondering why I hadn't heard anything about the smarties for a while...

gillette147

Hi folkes,
Not posted for a while but I read every day.
Love and hugs to you all


My crap job keeps getting crapper. I have to review documents and I got my first set of replies today. And the bloke has just been sarkey to them all. Like "Well Done" and "Is this really important. I think not" etc.

All my emails to him before have been really polite like "I know how busy you are and I'm sorry I need this but....". I asked my boss for some support and guidance for if I am in the rght with my comments and he just fobbed me off.

If the company was having a panto, he'd be Wishy Washy.

I'm not getting on top of the work and now I have aggressive bloke to deal with.

Roll on 12th Jan coz I am not renewing the temp contract. I will have 4 months experience by then and TBH I would rather be on the dole looking for a better job than there.

I tell you I am going to have a great Xmas this year.......s0d 'em all eh?

xxx

fantastico_2

Hiya to all. Im sorry some of you are having a bad day. Having a good day myself as i had a day off. Back at work tomorrow though and not looking forward to that. Hope my day goes quickly, should be home by 12.30pm. Listening to Maroon 5 new album i shall get my Christmas albums out later and then i can put them in the car so i can listen and sing along to all the songs tomorrow on the way to and from work. I hope that will be able to lift my spirits.

Good night to all

Luv H xx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I am off now,

chat tomorrow


Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx

EthelBloggs

positive thoughts please people... my son is in ITU in a serious condition, thankfully no longer life-threatening but very very ill, too soon to know if there will be long term effects but right now his body is struggling to meet its requirements and is being supported by machines and drugs. We had the priest last night but thankfully his condition improved.

thanks all, throw in a hug too if poss.. I really really need them atm.. I think my eyeballs have dried up from so much crying

slowlyfading

Oh my, Ethel I'm so sorry. ((HUGS)) coming your way, lots of them. xx

ElegantlyWasted

Ethel, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. *hugs* for you, take care of yourself.

Lisa x

santashelper_2

ElegantlyWasted wrote: »

I think maybe you should go back to the doctors, and tell them how much you're struggling. You could ask to see a different GP to your usual one, if it would help to get a different perspective. Have you tried meds? I understand that most people don't want to take them (Hell, I never did!), but they can help.

Please, talk to your husband about how you feel. It will be difficult, judging by how you say he drives you down, but he needs to know. If he doesn't know how much he is upsetting you, he can't try to change. You are right, you do a lot in the house, which is contributing to your family. If you were working full time, he wouldn't be able to come home to a nice, clean house everyday.

I understand about being a high achiever, this has been the bane of my life. It's hard to accept that you just can't do some things. The important thing though, is not to rush it. You need to take the time out to get better, and look after yourself.

Men are (in my experience) appalling at giving compliments. Try not to rely on his words. It's hard, but you are a good person. You obviously care about your family, and you're trying so hard to get better so you can do more for them. Try to focus on yourself, and take care.

Lisa x

thanks for your reply i have tried talking to my husband but it feels like water off a ducks back i explained to him if he was ill i would be trying everything i could to help him get better but its like he thinks its something i have to do on my own he goes off to work and comes home as if his work is his life and im just there to cook, clean, see to the kids, etc i dont know what to do about it really because ive had issues in the past when ive asked if he could do more for the kids and he does initially for a few days then goes back to what he was like befgre and gives me the impression its my responsibility as long as he is providing financially it appears that is all he thinks his role in my life is and i should be grateful.

Its hard because i cant talk to my parents because of their rejection and basically didnt support me when i married saying he wasnt good enough what hurts most is when i was working full time and doing a lot of other things he was happy, i have had some councelling where i have learnt assertion has been my downfall and so when you first apply assertivness you try this out on the nearest to you but when im assertive with him all he says is i think its good your being assertive but its good if you are like this outside the home and i didnt think you were going to be like this at home.

I agree that i need to lower to standards as i can be a bit of a perfectionist so i am working on this.

thanks for your support its much appreciated.

santashelper_2

ElegantlyWasted wrote: »

Does anyone else find that they can hold it together reasonably well during the day, and fall apart at night?

I'm finding it very hard after about 6 or 7pm. It's probably because of the time of year, the nights getting darker earlier and all that... but that doesn't really help how I'm feeling.

When am I going to feel better and start functioning like a normal person again? I'm feeling very sorry for myself, so please ignore my self-indulgent witterings. I just... don't want to have to do this anymore. Every day is a struggle, and it just seems like there's no point if it's always going to be like this.

i find i get the opposite to you as i feel like this in the mornings until lunch time i know where you are coming from when you feel unable to function normally i sometimes get overwhelmed and a detached feeling, but im sure things will get better for you have you tried a sad lamp i always thought they were expensive but in the news of the world they have a booklet sometimes and in there is a smaller lamp for approx £49 i brought one and am trying it out not sure how its going yet but will keep you informed.


Wishing everyone else on here good luck for your recovery one thing i always think is its so true the saying ignorance is bliss because when i try to explain depression the people who have not had it they cant understand the mental torture attatched to this they just think it must be nice not to have to work but when it affects you 24/7 its not ive even had people say to me i wish i had time to get ill but thats why i got ill in the first placing by doing to much

Anyway thanks for listening

Take care everyone

judderman62

CCStar wrote: »

It usually ends up in a row when we do.

I have come to the conclusion that we are OK when we go out or in front of other people, it is when we get home, he switches off and stops making the effort.

Seeing as I am going to be leaving this place due to neighbours going to do long term building work, I am going to get a place of my own. Whenever I have lived alone, I have really enjoyed it but couldn't do it before now as I had a child and before that couldn't afford it.

Trouble is I don't know where and I don't know many people or have a job. I feel too depressed to look for work in this deflated state and have to face my OH after a long day at work and start the second shift of running the house alongside his deflating personality.

My mother isn't safe either. She is elevating and caring but she is also very critical and switches without warning which also deflates me.

I don't feel I can trust anyone.

you could do with getting some good, honest, trustworthy folk around you who can support you and be there for you....oooh wait there's loads in this thread :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:.

I have found over last few months that on line chums can be every bit as valuable as any friends you have away from your on line activities. I have found a bunch of folk and they mean so much to me and are so supportive.

You know you can come here anytime and pour out your heart and get unconditional support :grouphug::grouphug:

off to bed shortly - night all :wave: