Depression Support Thread

slowlyfading

razorbladekisses wrote: »

slowlyfading How are you hun? (((HUGS))) Nothing specific has happened to make me feel even more low, I just seem to be this way. People say you're young, go out have fun...yeah right. 1) I have no 'real' friends. 2) I can't go out 'cos I'm too anxious and all I want to do is hide away. It's just a viscious cycle. My head doesn't feel right but it's hard to even describe what I mean by that. It's not a headache although it aches. It feels messed up and not a part of me if that makes any sense

I'm okay thanks. I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to go out - people are always saying to me that I must be having the time of my life at uni, but its not really the case. I wish I lived nearer to you so that I could pop round and see that you're okay.

The blades are clean

Good, I'm glad you're being careful, if you get me. that's the most important thing.

What's been happening with you lately SF?

Not much really, just trying to get through each week at uni. -shrugs- its not what i expected and can't wait to get out of here now. oh well. take care xx

Tulip

:hello: SF,

Hope you are having a great weekend

love and light,

Katie

slowlyfading

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: SF,

Hope you are having a great weekend

love and light,

Katie

Hello Katie
I'm in rehersals all weekend as I'm in a concert tonight, so its going okay so far are you doing much today? x x

Tiff_2

Hi juno!:hello:
I hope you're feeling a bit better than you were yesterday hun. It's obvious you were in a lot of emotional pain juno.
As I've gotten behind with posting replies, I was reading through your posts to catch up with you and I noticed something.
I want to share this with you angel...

quote=juno
I hope everyone is OK. I haven't been around for a while because I've had a crazy few weeks. And I've decided to give up on the NHS and go for private counselling, as the waiting list for the counselling I was referred to by my doctor was over 6 months! quote=juno
This is a juno busy with life, a juno who is actively seeking help for herself.


quote=juno 24-10-2007
Quote:
Originally Posted by feelinggood
Its silly really. I can manage to not drink one day at a time. I can manage to not over-eat one day at a time. I can usually manage to not self-harm one day at a time. Just can't seem to do them all!
That's exactly how I feel!
I've got some friends who tell me not to cut myself, some who tell me not to drink, and I don't think anyone knows about my eating problems yet.
I know I'm really not coping atm, I just don't know what to do about it. I was really down and ended up drinking on Saturday, but then one of my friends said he was disappointed in me (as I've given up drinking) and on Sunday I ended up cutting myself.
I know I should stop, I just can't. I want something to be "less bad" than the rest quote=juno
This is a juno who considers the actions she's taken, who is identifying her issues with somone else's issues - which shows her she's not the only one who feels like this! This is a juno who is still looking for answers, inspite of her pain and experiences.


quote=juno
I'm really not coping atm, and I don't know what to do. I saw my doctor on tuesday, and all i got was a prescription for ibuprofen. and he way im currently feeling, im scared i'll od on it. My friend says if self-harming in a safe way is stopping me from killing myself, it's a bit of a trade off, and I kinda agree with that. but i'm fed up of feeling like this. quote=juno
This is a juno who is frustrated with not having all the answers & can't see a way forward, but who is still communicating her feelings honestly to her friend and to us.

quote=juno
Exactly - you're ill. Would you be so hard on yourself if you had a broken leg (or worse)? You'd still need looking after then, and probably wouldn't be able to do things either. But you'd probably just accept it, and realise that one day you'll be better and able to look after yourself again.
And one day, you will be better! :T
So instead of beating yourself up over the things you can't do, concentrate on what you can. Can you do internet shopping, for example? Then you would still be doing your shopping, but wouldn't have to face crowds or carry it home. I'm doing most of my Christmas shopping online this year, but you could do food shopping etc too if it helps you. And if you go to the discounts board, you'll probably be able to save money too

And maybe try setting yourself small targets. Just say, "today, I'm going to do the washing up", or "i'm going to hoover the living room". You don't have to do the whole house at a time, but if you try and do one thing a week you'll realise you're getting somewhere.
I have a sort of routine with mine. While I boil the kettle for my first coffee of the day, I run some washing up water and put things in to soak. Then 2nd coffee I wash them, and 3rd coffee I dry them. If you break things into smaller steps they're more manageable.

And do try not to worry about your dad. It's not your fault he can't sleep, and feeling bad won't help except to make things worse. Maybe advise him to go and see his doctor etc and see what they can do for him, or print out something like this for him to read. quote=juno
This is a juno being caring and compassionate and giving great advice and reassurance to someone who's struggling. This juno is relating to the poster with her own issues which is reassuring and she is looking at things from a good perspective. This intelligent juno has managed to bring practical and helpful tips to the poster and has put them across in easy steps with sincerity.

quote=juno
Quote:
Originally Posted by dawnylou
No I have really tried Juno.
I tried targets such as washing the dishes just to start me off. After just a couple of days I lost the motivation again.

I really don't know what to do, or where to go from here.

but you're still going from nothing to "I must wash the dishes every day, and if I don't I'm a bad person". And then you make yourself feel worse and are even less motivated etc.

How about trying to do it 3 times a week, on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays? That's half (everyone has sundays off), and if you miss one day you can do it another when you feel better. quote=juno
This is a juno who is determined to help someone by returning to address their issues, wanting to reach this same poster and not giving up.


quote=juno
OK, I've just spent the last hour crying because I got some medication from the doctor today, and I've realised I can't take it. I'm allergic to the ingredients. I spose it's a good thing I read the leaflet, but I'm just so upset because I can't take it quote=juno
This is a juno who has been frustrated by not being able to take a med due to allergic reactions. This sensible juno went to the dr for help when she needed it and was able to reason that although it was upsetting not being able to take the med, it was for the best.


quote=juno 19-11-2007
Amy's hurt I think she's sprained her ankle. She's not a very happy bird today. quote=juno
This is a juno who nurtures her feathered friends, no matter how she's feeling. This juno finds beauty and comfort in her birds and is devoted to their welfare.


quote=juno 21-11-2007
I spent all day being sick, and then work rang me and wanted me to go in. They sounded desperate, so I went. Luckily I wasn#'t sick over any of the customers! quote=juno
This is a juno with a strong sense of duty and dedication by going into work to help them when she was so ill. This juno is also showing her sense of humour in the last line.


quote=juno 24-11-07
I have deep routed blame issues. I think everything's all my fault, and this is reinforced by my sister and my daddy's actions. Conversely, I tend to go along with things and do as everyone else wants. But then that's kinda because if I do whatever other people want then hopefully things won't go wrong and it won't be my fault. And if they do go wrong, I feel worse because it wasn't what I wanted anyway, and I should be a stronger person and not just go along with things.
I'm still putting myself at risk. I put everyone else above my mental and physical well-being, and this could lead to some bad situations. It has already, kinda minor ones, and that's not right. I just don't know how to get out of it yet. It's hard, because he's family. And that scared me a bit, coz I never thought he'd do it again. But then I never thought he'd do it the first time, either. So maybe he could.

And I've got a lot of uncertainty in my life. I never know when anybody's going to be around, and all I've got to rely on is me. But because of this I'm very isolated, and haven't really got anyone to help, either.

I spend my whole life being scared of doing things wrong. I want to be perfect, and I'm not and i hate it. I'd rather not do something coz that way I've deliberately done it wrong than have everyone see how stupid i am. and i think that's why i self harm too, because i'm bad and evil and must be punished, although I think it's partly for control too. nothing i ever do is good enough. and i know it's crazy, which is why I've never told anyone. i tell myself I'm rubbish a million times a day because I honestly believe that. and i cant see why anyone wants to be my friend because i don't think I'm nice. And everyone says im clever with my A levels but all i think is that I !!!!!! them up, and I'm fat and ugly and horrible.
I just wish everyone could see what a bad person I am and then I could stop pretending. quote=juno
This is an intelligent juno who's evaluating her feelings about others and their treatment of her. This juno is feeling sad, lonely, scared and a little bit lost in this post, but she is opening up her heart and telling us about her pain. This juno is vulnerable but very brave. This is juno is being very harsh with herself and, because of her nature, she'd rather hurt herself than hurt or upset anyone else. This juno just wants to be loved for herself.
This is a juno who is looking at herself as the guilty party when actually, she is innocent of all she accuses herself of being.



I don't know if I'm making any sense sweetheart, but what I wanted to show you here was that you have been all of these different things on here.

I wanted to prove to you, that there are so many different aspects to you juno, and by reading back your words to you, you will be able to see that it's not all completely downhill for you by any means.
You do have ups as well hun - we all lose sight of that when the lows hit us.
If we can just remember that the low points do go, it gives us strength and hope.


By giving you back your own words like this, I wanted to show you how other people really see you angel. And you can't argue with the evidence sweetie - it's all there, in black and white.
Give yourself a break juno and be kinder to yourself hun because - as they say in the advert - you're worth it, you really are.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

loopy_lass

dont want to steal your thread, but im sat here with tears rolling down my face, i am so fed up, i really cant be bothered trying to get better, i drag myself from one hour to the next, to and from work, see to the dogs, the kids, the house and repeat. I have felt like this for the last 20yrs and its not lifting.

I dont cut myself, but i do scratch myself so hard i scar, i really dont want to be here anymore, but nothing has happened yet to change that..

sorry ill shut up now. this is supposed to be a helpful thread and im not doing that..

laters.

Loops

Sugar_Coated_Owl

loopy_lass (((HUGS))) this thread is here for everyone to say exactly how they are feeling. Please feel free to say whatever you want. We welcome everyone here.

Are you receiving any kind of support at the moment?

BigMummaF

In no particular order other than when I remember what I want to say:D :

:j Rose--good to see you back. I understand what you mean about the funeral; there's been times when I've questioned whether to attend, but guess I always come back to thinking it's a way of saying 'goodbye'. Sometimes we need the 'officialness' of a ceromony to help us let go.....

Juno--how's Amy?....when you are down, have a look at those luvverly feathered friends & ask yourself who would love them as much as you do......Tiff has taken all the things I wanted to say, so let's just have a Tiff+BMF dubble-bubble-blast of :grouphug: sandwich served with a little Juno on the side:)

:whistle: Nice to see you've found your voice Tiff:D Has been rather quiet without you... beginning to think you'd got locked in a shed:eek: I was about to open a tin of sardines to see if that would tempt you out of hiding so you've posted just in time:rotfl: :rotfl:

:hello: Tulip ...I really do not like the way they are filming Casualty & Holby now....the way they kept going round in a circle last night made me feel quite _pale_ I'm following your example by trying to get a pattern to make me muvva a nice woolie hat for xmas. It's nice to make things isn't it!

To all our new friends, Welcome & join in whenever you feel the urge. Everyone has something that helps someone else, so keep posting cuz you have more to give than you realise. That goes for the oldies too!

BTW, QWB has been a bit quiet..:rolleyes: ..guess he's researching those fantastic graphics he does so well....wish he'd tell me how to do them...people have tried to help me get an avi & do strike thru, but I just can't get it I get confused with the tecckie bits & this week managed to wipe all the numbers & messages from my mobile:embarasse

I hope today brings you Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

fantastico_2

Loopy -Lass

If you want to get it all off your chest by writing it all down on here then please do. Dont feel you are all alone with no-one to listen. We are all here and only to pleased to be able to give some comfort and help to everyone who needs it luv.

Big hugs to you

H

xx

queensway_boy

BigMummaF wrote: »

In no particular order other than when I remember what I want to say:D :

:j Rose--good to see you back. I understand what you mean about the funeral; there's been times when I've questioned whether to attend, but guess I always come back to thinking it's a way of saying 'goodbye'. Sometimes we need the 'officialness' of a ceromony to help us let go.....

Juno--how's Amy?....when you are down, have a look at those luvverly feathered friends & ask yourself who would love them as much as you do......Tiff has taken all the things I wanted to say, so let's just have a Tiff+BMF dubble-bubble-blast of :grouphug: sandwich served with a little Juno on the side:)

:whistle: Nice to see you've found your voice Tiff:D Has been rather quiet without you... beginning to think you'd got locked in a shed:eek: I was about to open a tin of sardines to see if that would tempt you out of hiding so you've posted just in time:rotfl: :rotfl:

:hello: Tulip ...I really do not like the way they are filming Casualty & Holby now....the way they kept going round in a circle last night made me feel quite _pale_ I'm following your example by trying to get a pattern to make me muvva a nice woolie hat for xmas. It's nice to make things isn't it!

To all our new friends, Welcome & join in whenever you feel the urge. Everyone has something that helps someone else, so keep posting cuz you have more to give than you realise. That goes for the oldies too!

BTW, QWB has been a bit quiet..:rolleyes: ..guess he's researching those fantastic graphics he does so well....wish he'd tell me how to do them...people have tried to help me get an avi & do strike thru, but I just can't get it I get confused with the tecckie bits & this week managed to wipe all the numbers & messages from my mobile:embarasse

I hope today brings you Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

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It just does'nt look right at all:o

meyore

Hi everyone hope you're all feeling ok today. I'm a bit down and feel like just staying here in bed. So I've decided I'm going to force myself to go out and do something, just to try and break the cycle.
Xx