Depression Support Thread

fantastico_2

Hi to all,

Juno - You are having a really !!!!!! day arent you. All i say to you is to be true to yourself. I hated myself, but now i have a stuff em all attitude. I dont care what weight i am any longer and i know i havent got a fella cause i dont look pretty (besides to man im in love with is wonderfull with a levels and degrees and i have nothing). I except that now as it does me no good getting down about things like that anymore, i have plenty of other things to worry myself silly over. Hope your day gets better luv.

Lots of love

H

xx

shazrobo

big hugs to rbk and juno, you both sound like your having a bad time at the moment.
feeling really tired myself today, and really anxious, always seem to find the weekends hardest, not sure why. but generally feeling better in myself, now i'm back on my meds.
take care everyone, and big hugs
shaz x

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:

Happy Caturday peeps! Better late than never.:o
Sorry guys, I've been poorly the last few days with a cold and bad throat and, as is typical in Tiffworld, the computer is still having tantrums!
I hope we're all feeling the best that we can atm.

Well, time for Tiffy to do some overdue Tiffing - for all the good that will do you! I was chasing my tail this morning as I looked at all the posts I wanted to answer, not knowing quite where to start. I had the same thought yesterday too - and for five days before that! - it lasted for about 5 or 6 hours.

However, I noticed that the volume of posts since I've fallen behind in posting on the thread, has really dropped recently...does that mean I'm the cause of your depression?!

I'm just going to try and reply by date of posting where possible. Trust me, the Tiffster's filing system has to be seen to be believed!

Hopefully by now, everyone will have made a complete recovery and gone on to uni to study psychiatry! In which case, please make sure you shut the catflap on the way out - I always get a terrible chill round my fluffy parts when it's left open in winter.
So, apologies in advance for any Tiffy thoughts that are no longer needed.

So many sincere welcomes I've yet to post as well.:j But if I know the guys here at all, you'll all have been welcomed with open arms and benefitted from their wealth of experience.

I guess I'd better get on with it then guys before someone realises that the power fuelling all my smilies, is being paid for by miro!
With you all in my thoughts.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi rain!:hello:
How are you angel?

quote=rain
Morning guys...
Well i went back to work last Monday, just a little cleaning job to get me back into the swing of things because we are really struggling financially at the moment, but I'm finding it really hard to cope with. I wake up every morning wondering what excuse i can make for not going into work. I'm constantly tired still. My anti-D's don't seem to be doing anything and my desire to start drinking again to blot it all out is rising heavily.
I've spoken to my doctor and he said it was too soon to go back with the extent of my depression, but, I'm falling further and further behind with payments.
It sounds as though the old familiar story of money taking precedence over health is here yet again. That's a really awful thing to face, I know. So before I go any further hun, apart from your mental ill health, you're already under extra stress from your finances.
Huge hugs to you though, for managing to resist the dizzy water!
I'm not saying this lightly hun, but if you don't listen to your dr and look after your health first, then it's going to make your recovery a whole lot harder and longer. If you're too ill to work rain, then you shouldn't go back. Payments can be rearranged sweetie. There are answers to the finances even if they're not the ones we want to take.
At some point, generally speaking, we have to look at our situations and accept that there may be temporary, or long-term, limitations associated with our mental ill health. You could no more go leaping back into full-time work atm than I could become a size 14 overnight! It's not a nice thing to have to do but if we can accept what our situations are, then it's easier to get rid of guilt trips, and the stigmas, concentrate on recovery and what you can do.

My OH seems to be bored of the whole thing now and wants to know why I can't cope, it's hard trying to explain something you can't see with your own eyes.
Forgive me hun, but it seems that you feel almost bullied into having to work. I know how hard it is for our families and friends to understand
what we're going through, but they have to realise that we are actually suffering in all this. It's not a case of feeling down, or a touch of the blues. It's so tempting to say to them when they're impatient for our recovery, ''That's a great idea! I'm wasting time being sent to see all these specialists and given medication they say I need - just tell me how to do it!''
I'm afraid it ticks Tiff off when I hear of employers, families - whoever - feeling like this. Why do they think the seriously over-stretched and much in demand mental health services exist?!
As we know, a lot of chemistry is involved with the meds and with mental ill health. Now this is going to sound silly, but I tried it when some people were just too demanding that I account for my health, too often - and it worked! Instead of telling people that you have depression, tell them you have a chemical imbalance - which is fairly true. You wouldn't believe the shift in people's attitudes and it bought me some time to get myself on my feet a little! They wouldn't tell people with serious physical health issues to account for themselves. For others, I bared my soul and told them that it's a very frightening and lonely situation to be in, that I didn't understand it myself and that I felt so ashamed and embarrassed and I just wanted things back the way they were. But here guys, we have to remember that, for whatever reason, ''the way the things were'' often has some cause for ''how things are.''

Leaving this job isn't an option moneywise as the IB i get doesn't cover anything much and they are taking £20 a week off me for an overpayment a few years back. I was in a good job last year so the tax credits are next to nothing too.quote=rain
If you haven't alredy been to CAB since you've been ill angel, that's your next step. You may want to ask CAB or, of course, stop by the MSE Benefits board to check whether they can actually enforce a debt that wasn't your fault. I'm sure I've heard of someone refusing and they weren't having mental ill health issues. I would certainly think that CAB could re-negotiate with them the rate of repayments at least, especially as your income has dropped. It's certainly worth asking hunnie.
Never assume that they will award you the help that you're entitled to guys - always triple check!

I haven't used all these info links myself rain, so can't vouch for them but MIND is a renowned national mental health charity. I gathered some links for understanding mental ill health and for the issues of mental ill health and finances. Hope they help in some way.

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+mental+illness.htm


http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+depression.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Factsheets/Employment+and+benefits/Benefits.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/personalfinance.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/Managing+on+benefits.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/Staying+in+employment.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Mind+guide+to/workinglife.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+cope+as+a+carer.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+assert+yourself.htm

You can only do what you can do sweetie - nothing is worth risking your health even more. Mental ill health affects your whole lifestyle and sometimes, you just have to make allowances for yourself and others.
Thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I had a good day today,saw my family and went for a walk,got a cake on way home and made my lunch of Plaice,Jacket Potatoe,Mushrooms,I got some magazines too

I did some craft and made some homemade christmas cards

I spent the afternoon reading those and I also felt tired.I had a bath and then I had a lie down and had a sleep for an hour to make myself feel better.

I am watching Casualty tonight


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

slowlyfading How are you hun? (((HUGS))) Nothing specific has happened to make me feel even more low, I just seem to be this way. People say you're young, go out have fun...yeah right. 1) I have no 'real' friends. 2) I can't go out 'cos I'm too anxious and all I want to do is hide away. It's just a viscious cycle. My head doesn't feel right but it's hard to even describe what I mean by that. It's not a headache although it aches. It feels messed up and not a part of me if that makes any sense

The blades are clean

What's been happening with you lately SF?

:hello: ElegantlyWasted How are you today? It's strange isn't it. Most people that have never cut themselves cannot understand how it can possibly help but it really does. Sorry to hear that you've had a bad week (((HUGS))) How did you manage to get yourself through it?

Spikey It's good to see you :hello: How are you? (((HUGS)))

Juno You poor thing. It seems like you've got a lot going on in you mind at the moment (((HUGS))) you. All of us on here think you're great as I'm sure your friends do. You come across as such a lovely/caring person. Try not to be so hard on yourself hun. You are a good person.

Tulip How are you? Have you had a nice Saturday? Will you be watching Casualty later? Sending (((HUGS))) your way.

Shazrobo I haven't spoken to you before so HELLO :hello: How has your day been? Glad to hear that you're feeling a little better in yourself.

rose07

hey everyone





xxxxxxx

rose07

dawnylou wrote: »

I can see a few people are having a difficult time at the moment.
I would love to offer my love and support for you all - but unfortunately I feel incapable of this at the presen moment.

And I am sorry for this, I do feel very guilty and selfish, but i just can't find the right words for any of you just now...

But please do believe me when I say that I do love you all, and I am thinking of you - even if it doesn't appear that I am.

Everything seems so dark for me most of the time lately that I just don't feel able to pull myself round and make those positive posts that you all seem to need so much....

So sorry.

hey hun

you dont need to be sorry, bout not givin support and love to us, as low as your feelin there is always someone here to listen, we are a family, a community, that help each other in time of need, to listen, give advice where we can. And you dont need to show love and support, as we know deep down, you do have a heart and soul, your not a bad person, and you are worth it, you have a family, something to keep going for i would say


take care

xxx

rose07

queensway_boy wrote: »

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right back at ya hun

rose07

Tulip wrote: »

Rose07,

So sorry to hear about your mate that was in hospital

*hugs*

Katie

thanks hun

how r u doing? you still going to church and doing ya crafts?
you remind me of a a friend i made in the day centre she was awfully shy, but she is soo creative, bet your a dab hand hun. Hope you also singen that karaoke still

I seen x factor tonight, have to admit, didnt expect bev to go, shes an ace singer,

take care xx