Depression Support Thread

*zippy*

Morning :hello:

I'm just trying to catch up with the thread i've missed so much in just a few days.

Dawnylou sorry your friends are taking you for granted at the moment :grouphug: i've been through something similar recently and you start to wonder why you bother don't you, not making excuses for them, but it could be that they don't don't know what to say or do so have done nothing. Not nice to have your birthday forgotten though :grouphug: someone said to me recently, we have different friends for different reasons, perhaps you need to look for some close supportive friends now too.

love to all
zippy x

geminilady

dawnylou wrote: »

Geminilady - I do know what you mean.
At work there is bound to be a lot of gossip about why I am on the sick at the moment, and a few people will already know anyway as all the tell tale signs were there for some time.
However I am feeling a bit let down that the few people I work with that I class as real friends have not really been in contact at all.
Not even a birthday text.
So not only was my birthday not remembered but also they don't seem to care about how I'm getting on.

Also an old friend from college who I don't see much of any more hardly ever replies to my texts and always turns down invitaions by me and she also forgot my birthday. Do I mean nothing to her anymore?

But I'm trying hard not to let it get to me.

I have been washed, brushed my teeth and dressed today - but am going to concentrate on Ebay as much as I can today.

Hi Dawney,Yes i think you do understand what i mean.If one of your friends at work was off sick i am sure you would have text to see how they were but it is sad when it does not work both ways.I have one good friend who i have know from schooldays and she does keep in touch.When my mum and husband died she was great came up for the day for the funerals ect even though she had to take time off work and obviously i will do the same for her when she needs me.Unfortuanetly we don't get to meet very often as she has a partner and they go away somewhere everytime they are of work on holiday including weekends.I have been invited to go with them on weekends but i don't really like playing goosberry and finances won't allow it very often.The only downside of our friendship is she does not understand depression she has always been happy and seems to think it is something you can just snap out of not something you cannot control.
Well done in managing to get washed and dressed even small steps are an achievment when you are really ill.I can relate to a lot in your previous posts,i have always found it hard to motivate myself the only time it really improved was when i was on medication for depression so maybe i have been depressed most of my life lol.I work 6hrs a day as an office cleaner and do my job well its just at home i have trouble.I am up an hour or so before i get washed and dressed then i usualy go to the post office(i ebay too) and that s about it come on line,have my lunch and go to work and i spend most of my evenings on line.Luckily my son only works 3hrs a day so he does most of the housework except the ironing which is sometimes left for weeks lol.
Do you buy or sell on ebay? i mostly sell things that i get cheep from bootsing.It is half price listing today so i will be putting a few things on to sell tonight.By the way if you sell don't forget there is a postage strike.I am going to pm my buyers to remind them goods may be late.

dawnylou

Omigod - Sorry Before I Read Your Posts Zippy - What Is That Smiley Doing???

dawnylou

Now that I have calmed down a little...
Morning Zippy & Geminilady
I am just unsure how to find new friends that may be a bit more supportive. I feel bad even saying that as I am sure that they do care - but I guess I feel let down that I need them most now and am not really hearing from them.
If it was one of them I would at least text to see how they are and see if I could do anything - maybe even offer to pop over for a coffee and a shoulder if need be?
Never mind.
Though I did wonder if maybe they felt awkward and didn't know what to say so I will probably give them the benefit of the doubt.

I also do not feel comfortable in that situation, 3s a crowd and all. However we do have a couple of friends who sometimes pop over and it doesn't bother them to play gooseberry. I don't mind a third person in our company - but I feel I am intruding if I am the third person, if you know what I mean?

I am dreading going back to work. I am getting so used to sleeping all of the time, I don't know if I will be able to cope being out and having to concentrate full time! lol
Wish I could afford to cut back to part time, I'm sure that would make things so much easier!

I mostly sell on Ebay. I sometimes buy if I have some spare money in paypal. Most of the time I do it for fun though and not to make money.

I tend to sell things that I own but no longer use, or clothes I no longer wear. I often have brand new clothes too as I sometimes go out and buy pretty clothes and underwear to make me feel better about myself - but then I feel too ugly in them or they don't fit and I never get round to taking them back so they get sold! lol
I also sell things for friends because I enjoy doing it friends come to me if they have something to sell.

My wonderful sister-in-law (to be!) emailed me yesterday to remind me of strikes, but they should have settled by time I get round to posting.

Ok I haven't even started yet and now the pups want to play! Argh!
Better be off!

Hugs to you all!
x

Tee hee.....
I'm sorry - I'm still giggling at your smiley!!

ilovegreatdanes

hi,
real quik one as dh is on hols so im off the comp, not ignoring you lot.
rose....saw your doggy, is gorgious, looks very mischevious and ful of energy!!!
sf...sorry you been in a bad way.x
ethel...am thinking about you and your dd.xx
katie...well done re the courses and turning the negative into a positive.x
pills....am so glad that things worked out for you and your friend.x
have tried to catch up best i cud but sorry to miss anyone out.will do proper catch up wen i get rid of dh(sounds ominous that!!!)
look after yourselves.god bless.
love ilgd xx

feelinggood_2

Hi ilgd! Hope that as DH is on holiday you are busy doing nice interesting things! Its really lovely weather here today, hope you are enjoying it there.

Good afternoon dawnylou. Well done on being washed and dressed today! Do you find its made a difference to how you are feeling? I've been on eBay today, but I've been spending money, not making it. Doing a bit of housework every day is a good idea. I've done some washing up today, and I might do some vacuuming later.

Hi geminilady and zippy - its nice to read that others have had problems with friends. I've only ever had a couple of friends, and the relationships have broken down over time. Now I know that others have been through similar, I won't blame myself so much.

Katie! Hope you enjoyed your lunch at your parents. Are you going to play your game this evening? Hope you are having a nice day

EthelBloggs, thinking of you and yours at the moment. I hope things get sorted soon, must be very stressful for you all. Hope you aren't too tired after your early start. I find the Radox 'Sleep Easy' bubble bath helps to relax me, but sometimes sleep just ain't gonna happen is it?

slowlyfading, how are you this afternoon? I hope you are feeling okay xx

juno - glad to hear you've be really happy lately! Did they say how long the wait for the counsellor will be? Will keep my fingers crossed that it isn't too long.

BigMummaF - hows things with you? I see you are a marmite lover too! I've given up bread and I miss my marmite on toast. I'm trying to find some other recipes so I can get my marmite fix!

Rose - I think of you often, and I'm sorry that I find it hard to be there for you. I hope you are okay and getting through this difficult time. We've been through a few similar things, and sometimes I find it hurts a little when you mention certain things, does that make sense? I find it so hard to trust people and let people in, seeing as everyone always ends up hurting me. Hope you understand.

Tiff - hope you are having a nice day and that we will have another lively tiff post with lots of pictures and smilies soon - it really brightens things up.

Apologies for such a short message thats probably left a lot of people out. I'm so self centred and self absorbed, but I'm working on it.

Off to another meeting tonight, luckily there are lots near me, I need them right now. Its scary that its been 10 months and I still think of drinking. A few people have said that as I start to really recover, the obsession will leave. I hope so! Its not sitting down with a glass of wine and a nice meal that I miss, its the drinking till I can't stand up and can't remember who I am. I miss the oblivion.

Still no word from the CMHT. I might try and phone them, just to put myself out of my misery. Suppose I need to accept that the NHS just isn't going to help me. Seems everyone else can get help but me

Anyways, hope all is well.

feelinggood_2

Hows everyone doing this evening? I'm feeling a little down. I thought I was used to being down, but this feels different. Was wondering if anyone else had any ideas on help and support. If the CMHT do say they can't help, is there anyone else who I can turn to?

juno

I've just got back from work. I think my life revolves around there atm! And my supervisor said nice things about me. He thinks I'm great *blushes*

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok Had a nice lunch at my parents today,I felt tired again so had to have a lie down.I then went for a walk and I then felt so tired again so had to go home and have a lie down there It is my meds making me feel this way I think.I will sleep well tonight though all snuggled up under my duvet I also have felt low today and before I left Mum and Dad,Mum said I looked pale.I had a good cry as I find it helps me

I have been on my new game tonight,still not getting anywhere with it but I will do eventually


Have a lovely evening everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

feelinggood wrote: »

Hows everyone doing this evening? I'm feeling a little down. I thought I was used to being down, but this feels different. Was wondering if anyone else had any ideas on help and support. If the CMHT do say they can't help, is there anyone else who I can turn to?

Do you have a CPN (Community Practice Nurse) ? I have one and shes great and she helps to support me and make sure my health is ok etc

Can the Doctor help you also in some way,can you arrange to see a pyschologist? they usually put you on a waiting list which can take a while until a physcologist is found,sometimes its a year you have to wait I think,I am sure someone else on here can tell you more as I am not really sure

Hope you can get the help you need Feelinggood


love and light,

Katie xxx