Depression Support Thread

Miroslav

geminilady wrote: »

Hi Miro Nice to see you posting i did read your post before it was edited as i am a night owl,was going to say hi but you were going to bed.If your stomache does not improve go see the doc,i know what you men can be like for not going when you should.If you have been reading the board you will see lots of us are feeling worse i think the weather does have something to do with it and it is worse as we hardly had any summer.I hope you know you are always welcome here no matter how long you leave it between posts.We may not be able to wave a magic wand and find you someone but we can listen and empathise and remember nobody on here even knows what you look like so it is not your body beautiful we like lol its the person you are.I do understand what you were saying and it can work the other way some people can look at a person who is not very attractive and not even bother to look for the person inside,such is life,take care Miro.

:rotfl: I took half my post away as I felt I had moaned too much and didn't want people getting annoyed and it felt better to get it off my chest then delete it when I felt I had.

Life's a bummer and I hate going to the Doc - not because I don't want to find out my issues, but because they never listen to me.

The weather has picked up again the last 2 days :T Still, I think alot of us have S.A.D

It can work both ways for sure. My face lets me down, if not the body I don't get any negative comments, but it's all the negative comments from when younger that still live with me.

Hope you are okay, i'm sure you will be around when the majority are sleeping :rotfl:

Miroslav

BigMummaF wrote: »

Welcome Maisie----hope you've locked up your blue smarties, or Tiff will be after them!

Miro! When Brit phones, can you ask her to bring Kurt Russell for me, & we can do a foursome down to the social club for the bingo:rotfl: :rotfl:

FG.....'people' keep losing my paperwork all the time, especially the benefits section of the local authority. I ask for a receipt now if I give them anything.......Don't let snotty receptionists put you off either--:whistle:--when you think about it, it's the Doctors who have the patients:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: boom boom!

My knees are a bit creaky, the left is definately verging on a twinge. Me muvva's got one of those washer/dryers now, but I remain tumble-less, so the chinese laundry has moved in again for the winter:D It's a real mine field this year, now we have p-u-p taking my :silenced: :shhh: unmentionables from the lower rungs of the airer & running through the house :shocked:with gi-normous barrage balloons trailing from his jowls & billowing like a pair of zeppelins:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Now that I've put you off your dinner... you can imagine the look on the poor milkman's face when p-u-p tried giving him my damp underwear!:eek: Didn't get me pinta any cheaper tho':D

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

I'm so glad you added "down to the social club for the bingo" at the end :rotfl:

I'll ask Britney, but have no idea if she knows him. You may have to do with Kevin Federline (She'll pay well for incriminating photo's to show the courts!)

She's just hit number 3 on the billboard chart with her new song in America, so things are on the up - now all she needs is me

On the subject of receipts........get receipts for everything - amazing how poeple 'lose' things

juno

I need advice. I feel bad asking here, but I don't know where else to go.

I've had a part-time job (12 hours) at a supermarket for about 5 weeks. Before this, I was in and out of work and didn't really stick at anything. But I like my new job, and I'm happy there.
I've done a bit of overtime this week, and am up to 25 hours. Financially, I can pretty much cope on my wages, although it's always nice to have more money. And I find I struggle mentally if I try and do full time, and get really tired etc. I also haven't enjoyed anything else. But here I can walk to work, and everyone is really nice, and I don't spend every second hating it and wanting to go home.
But my sister doesn't approve of me only doing part time. She keeps pointing out new jobs, and saying I should apply for them. But they're all further away (so I'd have to get at least one bus), and are mostly all call centre which I hate, and it would be long hours. But she doesn't get that I like where I am and don't want to change!
I'm pretty much decided that I am sticking with this job for a while. But how can I tell my sister? She doesn't seem to get it. She thinks I should just get a full time job and go out clubbing at the weekends and be "normal" (her words, not mine).

gillette147

Does she know about why you can't do full time?
Is she does she shoud be reminded.

Do what you want. It's your life. Life is more important than work. You said the boss likes you and you like the job.
You are the success.

Tiff_2

maisie!
Thanks for posting hun. Let's have a look...

quote=maisy-mai;
Hi Have been lurking on this board for while but havent plucked up courage to post my situation and problems .
That's how most of us find our way here angel. I know it took a lot for you to post so you should feel proud for reaching out. :T If we had half as many posters as we do lurkers, mental ill health probably wouldn't be quite so taboo.;) You're more than welcome here hun.

Have had family problems for the past year and have carried on being strong and holding it all together .
Hubby has had depression for last 3 years and on meds . Had another major op in July .
I carried on working fulltime ( got turned down for family friendly leave when he came home he was touch weight bearing for 3 months !!! really unable to do anything ) .
As always hun, I suggest breaking it all down into Tiff-size pieces.;) If you look at all your problems all in one go, you're going to feel overwhelmed before you even start. The issues seem to be:
- family problems
- DH's depression
- DH's physical health
- your work
- your mental ill health
- managing work while being a carer, wife and mother.

You've been through an awful lot sweetie.
There are always solutions to practical problems hun - we just gotta find the right ones for you ok?
You'll not be too happy with Tiffy when you read the questions I have,:o, as I'm sure all you want right now is answers. Please don't be offended if I ask you any personal questions hun - I'm just trying to make sure I understand angel.;) That way,I may be able to answer more in depth and not go sending you off on a wild goose chase.
Has DH been off work for 3 years? Does DH work? If not, how long has it been & what benefits does he get?
If you're up to it, try and stop by the Benefits board as they have a checking system to see what benefits you might be entitled to.
Were the 'family problems' the ones you listed hun?

Has DH applied for DLA? From what you say, he'd qualify imho.
It has nothing to do with anything else other than how severely his physical and/or his mental health is affecting his life. If he's not, phone the DLA office and ask for an application form. When it comes hun, please don't try to fill it in yourself - it can take very particular wording and the best people to help you with are either CAB or DIAL. It really can mean all the difference between success and failure.;)

Have you applied for a carer's allowance? What benefits are you receiving?
Here's a link for some direct information on possible benefits maisie:
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/DG_10011731

Do you & DH have any support at all hun?
Again imho, - & I'm not a professional at all angel - Social Services Adult Team should be helping you and DH.
Also, they can possibly help DD if they're running a befriending scheme; a police-checked volunteer might take DD to the movies or skating or swimming an hour or two a week.

Can you explain to me exactly what you meant by DH being 'touch weight bearing'? I have an idea but want to get a clearer picture. Depending on his health situation, there are various charities offering help and advice.

Also hun, it may be a good idea for you to contact a carers' group for support. Here's a national link for when you feel up to it angel:
http://www.carelineuk.org/

Basically I crumbled 7 weeks ago but if I'm honest this has been coming on a while have had kick in the teeth from life one after the other never ending problems.
went into work one day couldnt stop crying sent home went to drs that day diagnosed depression brought on from stress.
Well maisie, if it's any comfort, you're a real survivor or you'd have crumbled long ago. :T
This is how it tends to happen hun - drop by drop until the barrel overflows. What is your job hun?
You did really well sweetheart in going to the drs and being honest. This was your first step to help.;) Please don't feel bad about needing help hun. And it's more than ok to feel a little resentful too when all you seem to do is struggle on your own!

Since then have gone down hill did pick up last week but now back to square one -work made me go to occupational health tues which opened up a can of worms explanning everything havent stopped crying since.!!! they said I'm in no fit state to work at mo.
Dr signed me off another 6 weeks today. Been on citalopram a month now.
Ok sweetheart, I know how hard this is but this is how people can see how you're struggling. You've co-operated with work sending you to an OT and they have backed up what you're saying. Take as much time as you need hun.
As for the meds, they do take a while to get into your system and you're probably on one of the lowest doses until the drs see how it's working. It doesn't feel like it yet angel, but you are starting to get some help.

Occup health on about phasing me back to work then maybe 1/2 day a week. they have also organised me councelling sessions. although after this week dont feel ready to go and chat yet.
Do you work in health care hun? Sorry if I'm wrong.
Don't wory about the phasing in - it won't happen until you're well enough. You've got 6 weeks off now to concentrate on getting yourself well. And if you're not ready in 6 weeks, then they will have to wait until you are. Going to counselling is hard work angel, but so worth it. Apart from anything else, it can show them that you might need even more support. Time is very new hun and it must seem like targets are being set in stone for you, but they're really not.;)

Today is a really bad day cant stop crying , friends want to take me out but cant face anyone or even chat to them still. Cant stand crowded areas.
This is all a natural reaction maisie. Your friends will see how you're feeling angel and they'll understand that you need to do whatever feels right for you right now.
No comfort again I know hun, but crying is actually good for you as stress creates negative chemicals and it's your body's way of getting rid of them. Don't push yourself to do anything hun. You're feeling very raw right now and you need to be kind to yourself.

Hubby no support so far although after a chat he seems to be better towards me. Trying to keep this all from my 8 year old you get very good at hiding how you feel .
Dont know what else to say.
Maisy-mai/quote
The first thing we do is hide everything from our children naturally. Just try and remember that no matter how good you are at hiding things, there may be times when she picks up on something. Children are good at that!:rolleyes:
She may fret about it, but if you have a chat, saying mum's just feeling a bit poorly right now, that it's nothing serious and you just have to rest sometimes, it may reassure her. Only you know your DD hun and when or if you want to take that approach.;)

I'm sorry for this jumble of an answer and all the questions maisie. But there will be answers. I'm sure you must be feeling as if the sky's falling in but just as you've come down, so will you rise again.
I'm sure you're doing a great job the best way you can!:T
Be a little patient with yourself hun and don't worry about 6 weeks away. Take it hour by hour and day by day ok? The guys here are fantastic and I'm sure have given you all the support you need, :T :A , so don't feel alone angel.;) Keep us posted hun. Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

gillette147

I've had a stressful week...TGI friday.
Although I need to run out to dry cleaner before I can consider this to be the weakend.

Work is a mess. I feel unmotivated and depressed at the state of it and my fragile position there. I had a telephone interview for a job in Southampton. I passed it (lots of others haven't) but I have told agency that in reality I don't see myself wanting to take it. I may regret that.
I have another interview next week as a salesman for H&S software. I'm not a salesman but well, I dunno.....

I had a bad day today. Almost wished I was on the dole again.

I haven't posted much but I always catch-up on the thread.
I was really sad to read your trauma SF xxx
I care about you all and hope you get out and absorb some sun over the weakend. I will try to.

Hugs and Handshakes
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok *hugs* to those that need one right now tonight I am going to watch The Tudors on BBC2 at 9pm its a 10 part drama

I hope you will all have a lovely evening


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
You've all done this deliberately haven't you?! Everyone's got Post Fever! I don't know who to reply to first!
It reminds me of how the daleks felt in Dr.Who years ago ''...danger...danger...does not compute...does not compute!'' and then it blew up.

I have to go and feed DS before he starts chewing the furniture again,, and I must get some lunch! Don't worry - I'm hardly anorexic.

fg - please don't stop your meds now! Wait until Monday. Is 2 days too long to wait for professional advice hun? Better safe than sorry.

miro! - right young man, it's the naughty corner for you!
1 minute for every year of your age...let's see...yep, I'll see you on Sunday morning!!!


Loves you really miro.

Got to go guys - I really want to stay. Promise I'll hot-paw it back here in the a.m.

There's always more than one answer guys - please remember that.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

well I am off

Chat tomorrow everyone

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx

feelinggood_2

After a few desperate and sobbing phone calls, I got to see an emergency doctor at my surgery. She prescribed me enough diazepam to get me through until Wednesday, when my GP is back. She also said that I'm okay to start tapering of my antidepressants. Seeing as I got every side effect going, chances are I'll get every discontinuation effect going too. Ah well.

I'm just back from an AA meeting, and I feel a little better. I just don't know how to cope. Hopefully I'll learn eventually. I don't really want another addiction, but hopefully a few days of diazepam will be okay. Got more than enough addictions as it is.

She gave me the number for the crisis team, so I will phone them if I need to.

Its just a shame that there aren't 24 hour AA meetings, I really don't know how to live outside of them at the moment.

On a positive note, tomorrow is my 100th day without binge eating. Today is day 314 without a drink. Two addictions under control, one more to go.