Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Well I am off now,found an online walkthrough for my new game tonight as finding it hard to play,going to try not to refer to it if I can,but I might have to,if I dont get anywhere so I printed off 13 pages

Anyway I am off now

Chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx

feelinggood_2

Anyone around?

I don't have a CPN, and I don't actually know if I'm on any waiting lists.

I've decided that I'm going to go to the doctor tomorrow, and check that there are no physical complications if I stop taking the antidepressants. I'm going to stop, and hopefully persuade her to give me something, anything.

I've got the number of the crisis team, but don't really want to phone them. I'm not really at crisis point, just about as damn close as I can be though.

Ahhh well. Hopefully OH will come home soon so he can keep an eye on me.

BigMummaF

Evening...
I really blew my stack in a post I thought I'd done, but I've now realised it didn't work:o Still, made me feel better for getting it off my chest;)
FG, I think you're right to go see your gp...even if the only help you get is that you're on the list, that will be something. I wondered if your AA meetings were helping you identify situations within other areas of your life too?

I'm not staying long tonight, cuz I've got a late one tomorrow.....I need all the beauty sleep I can cram in between now & 6pm tomorrow night:eek:
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

geminilady

feelinggood wrote: »

Anyone around?

I don't have a CPN, and I don't actually know if I'm on any waiting lists.

I've decided that I'm going to go to the doctor tomorrow, and check that there are no physical complications if I stop taking the antidepressants. I'm going to stop, and hopefully persuade her to give me something, anything.

I've got the number of the crisis team, but don't really want to phone them. I'm not really at crisis point, just about as damn close as I can be though.

Ahhh well. Hopefully OH will come home soon so he can keep an eye on me.

Hang in there Feely ((((hug)))) its a good idea to go back to the doctors seen as you are feeling so bad be sure to tell her exactly how you feel and that the antidepressants don't seem to be helping maybe she will suggest you try another brand sometimes people have to try a feww before they find one that works for them.

Miroslav

Quick hello :wave:

I hope everyone is getting by, at the very least.

I'm still breathing.

I'm not feeling too great at the moment - mentally and physically.

As the summer disappears I tend to get down even more, not that I like summer. I'm just miserable and don't like anything - well virtually anything.

Been feeling ill and bad stomach for a few days now.

I'm waiting for Britney to call. Y'know, so we can live happily ever after and both of us forget all our troubles and be great together, la-de-da.

If only she knew what she was missing in her life - ME!!!!!!

:wave:

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
And how are my little passion fruits this a.m.?;)

Tough time in Tiff town right now.:rolleyes: But I'm fine though.;)
Just a couple of Tiffbits.....

fg - well done for seeing the dr before stopping any meds hun.:T We should never just stop a med without checking. As for the CPN situation angel, ask your dr to jot down everyone who is involved in looking after you, and their phone numbers.;)

sazzy - have you read juno's post about her boss praising her and making her blush? You don't think we'll have to start another hat fund for juno do you?!:eek:
Hope all is well angel. Don't forget to take a break - your fur will go flat if you don't take care of yourself!

blinky - talking of hat funds...are you out there blinky hun? hope all is going well with you and r!:T Keeping you in my thoughts ...*and on my hit list*

ethel - I'm sorry things have been so rough hun. Hope you managed to get DD sorted. Thinking of you as always sweetheart.

bmf - how's you angel? Exciting plans for the weekend?
How are the knees? What were you going to rant about hunnie? Should I hide?:eek:

miro - welcome home hun. And just what kind of thread do you think this is, young man?! Coming in here all hours, as and when you feel like it! Sorry you've been low angel. Take care - oh and bmf will explain about her knees!

To the rest of the family, please know that I'm thinking of you all.

Please look after yourselves - you're the only you you've got!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi dawny!:hello:
How are you today dawny? Sorry for the delay.
Please excuse me while I go foraging through your post hun.

quote=dawnylou;Morning - first of all I want to apologise fornot being around so much!
I do care about you all and I have been thinking about you all & I have been popping on in between naps.
However I have been slowly getting a little bit worse each day and have therefore not really felt up to replying. Sowwy! x
Firstly - - that's for apologising for not being well!

I haven't been posting as I have been feeling very low. I was prescribed Citalopram and given a 2 week sicknote to let them take effect.
Unfortunately it looks as if this was not the best medication for me. Not only did I sleep constantly but I got the most terrible headaches - it literally felt as if my brain was being crushed!
Sorry you've felt so poorly angel. Not all drugs work for everyone, that's why there's a wide range of them hun. It's a frustrating process at times, but hang in there because when you get the right one, it'll make all this hassle so worth it.

I have now been off for 3 weeks as I had a weeks holiday booked in too for my birthday. In those 3 weeks I have tried as hard as possible to not leave the house. I just feel so anxious about seeing people, having to talk to people etc. I don't know if this is because I am not able to control my emotions and so am afraid of an outburst? I am not sure.
I went back to the doctors on Friday and felt so panicky waiting to be seen. My heart was racing and I felt I would burst into tears at any moment - I nearly ran out!
I'm sooooo glad you didn't run out hunnie. I know you say you've avoided going out dawny, but think of it like this - because you went out, you got help!
Have you told your dr about this avoidance angel? I can understand why you don't want to leave the house angel. I understand that you're worried about not being able to control your emotions in public. There again angel, there are others who can't and they don't have mental ill health issues!

IMH-Tiffy-O, , some reasons you may feel so anxious about seeing people are, that you're still poorly so everything physical and mental is all over the place, everything is really hard to manage right now, this is a new situation and you're worried, you're unsure of how people may react even the closest ones, you don't know how to explain to people how you're feeling and you probably don't want to, getting involved with people means having to be in control and you don't feel that you can be, it would create everyday situations that really stress you out by trying to prepare for every possibility, you don't know yourself how you're feeling half the time so how could you explain it to others, and you probably feel quite lost and vulnerable and confused.

Staying home is safe. You're in control of what happens there. It's the only place you don't have to worry about putting up a front. You can get all the help you need there, you don't need to stress yourself out by dealing with unknown quantities. You can be left alone to heal. No-one is making demands on you. You need the rest. Am I close?

All of this is quite natural sweetheart.

However hun, I urge caution in restricting yourself too much. It really can be a false sense of security and not a good habit to have. Instead of limiting yourself to the house angel, it would be a really good idea to regularly go out just into the garden. You'll feel the benefit of the fresh air and it somehow distracts you from everything by being outside with nature. Do not go out if there's 5ft of snow or a gale force wind - I don't want you coming back saying, 'Tiff told me to do it!'

If you're going out somewhere and you're anxious about it, ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? And then answer yourself. I've said this in other posts, eg. I'll find the toilets and go and cool off and calm down; I'll carry a bottle of water with me; if I need help, someone will help me; there are some really good people out there; staff in shops will help me if I tell them I'm not feeling very well; I can always get a taxi home. Having a plan like this will reassure you hun.

Anyway she said the headaches sound like stress headaches, but could be a side effect and so she advised she would prefer to try me on fluoxetine (sp?) instead.
I started these on Saturday and so far am unable to tell if these pills will help. I also have been given another 2 week sicknote. I am glad as I seriously don't feel as if I can cope at work just now.
It's best not to go back until you are well enough. You don't want the two steps forward, one step back situation. Your health is precious and without it you can't work. It's better to take a shorter time off now, than months off later because you're even poorlier due to the stress of working. Things have a way of sorting themselves out hun. Don't let fretting about work disract you and affect your health even more. It sounds like you've got an understanding gp hun - keep communicating with them.


My typical day now seems to be wake up, have breakfast, nap. Wake up browse forums, drink my slimfast, nap. Wake up, browse forums again, maybe nap - make tea, watch TV with Fiance, bed.
This is basically it every day. I know it sounds disgusting and pathetic but I don't wash, I don't go out. I don't do anything. I just lie here all day like some pathetic, lazy cow. And yet I don't feel able to change that.
I sit in silence every day - no TV or radio. Fiance puts TV on when he gets in from work. I dread that the doorbell might go, or the phone might ring and I have to actually deal with someone.
Right now angel, you're running on your reserves - don't be too hard on yourself ok? You're allowed some recovery time dawny.
This might possibly be down partly to the medications getting into your system. And depression can be extremely exhausting hun, even if you feel you do nothing. What you've listed here angel, is again very common and most of us will have been there.
I know others have said it, but I always suggest making a list of things each day - just the basics you mention - and try and fit them all in. It does help. Make little steps in achieving your jobs - not dirty great thumping Tiffy ones - you don't have to do everything every day and you must remember you are still poorly hun, and if you want a catnap... :whistle: ..., then you have one!


Setting up a structure or routine will help keep you in the swim of things and give you a feeling of achievement. Having a routine will prove to yourself that you can do it, which will make you feel good and then you can add other things in one by one. And if you miss a couple of things - so what? It's not the end of the world. You'll feel better after a nice shower, and putting on something nice. Nothing is simple when you're very poorly with mental ill health, so for everything you manage angel, praise yourself because it is an achievement!

Your diet will also affect your mood hun. I hope there's more besides dieting drinks aids going into you dawny. I know when we get low, we reach for the most convenient things. Please remember to drink lots of water - getting dehydrated will make you feel worse angel.

It is ridiculous - but I feel as if I can't do anything unless my Fiance is holding my hand!
We went out on Saturday - just to a friends. I felt like I was freaking out. I couldn't relax or enjoy myself and my heart kept going dead fast. I couldn't wait to get home. I just don't know what on earth is happening to me - or what I can do to fix it?
It is not ridiculous angel - you're just overloaded right now. As hard as it is angel, don't put any stress on yourself to fix everything all at once. It took time for you to get how you feel and it will take time to put things right. That's just being realistic. I won't feed you fairy tales hunnie.

What you're missing here is the praise you should be giving yourself for managing to go!
Considering how you were feeling, this was a really positive achievement. Tell your dr about these feelings hun. It was probably because you hadn't been out and weren't feeling 100%. It sounds like you were anxious. But as bad as anxiety can be, it can't hurt you angel. It always goes away. When you start to feel like this, deep breathing, hold onto something physical (keeps you 'grounded'), talk reassuringly to yourself in your mind and see if you can sit it out.

And just because you felt anxious sometimes, it doesn't necessarily mean that this will happen every time. Relaxation is a key skill hun. Just because you're sitting/lying down all day, it doesn't mean you're resting because your mind is going on overtime. Dig out the deep relaxation sheet I posted. Make it a deliberate part of your day and practice it as much as you can.

I am on a waiting list to see a psychologist - but that could take up to a year I have been warned.
It's always hard when you hear you're on a list, I know hun. But they said ''up to'' a year. However, if your health needs increase, you will be seen sooner.


Is anybody here on fluoxetine? If so is it helpful? Would you recommend it?
Can you drink on these? It doesn't mention it on the leaflet, but want to be sure....
NEVER drink alcohol with any ads hunnie - it's like Russian Roulette.
Don't forget, both are all chemicals and some chemicals should never be mixed together. And if this is an issue angel - surely it's better to get well than to be able to drink?
As for the meds hun, it's very much an individual thing - not what you want to hear I know. It's only natural to wonder, but what if someone told you an ad was awful and you stopped taking it because of that? You could have just bypassed the right meds for you.

Also those of you seeing a psychologist at the moment - is this helpful? Would you recommend it? Do you feel as if you are betraying those closest to you by going elsewhere to chat? What sort of things are you expected to chat about? What happens with all of the info that you do chat about? Is it passed onto anyone else? Will a psychologist maybe contact police or other officials if they feel they should without your permission?
Sorry to suddently through all of this at you all, but I am turmoil at the moment and very confused.
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Again, it's a case of different things work for different people angel. They can do great work or they wouldn't exist. It's always a good idea to give something a try before you make any judgements hun. You've nothing to lose.

You're not betraying anyone dawny. You might talk about your life and people and what you see your problems as being and how it affects you. You can talk about anything dawny. It may show you that someone is taking advantage, give you new ways of looking at things, teach you coping skills. A good psychologist will not put you through anything that they can't help you with. You are perfectly free to say, 'I don't think I'd like to talk about this area right now.'

You'll go there not knowing what to expect or what you're going to say, but you'll usually find that you are opening up and the time flies by. You'll possibly leave with a bag of wet tissues and a headache because you may get emotional, but that's fine hun. You may find at first that you can't remember much of what was said by you both, but it'll come back to you angel.


The dr will make notes of what you're saying for your medical records. They are very strictly guarded and locked away. They can't tell anyone without your permission hun, not even DH. Only you can say who you want to know & if there is anyone that you do want to know, you'll probably tell them yourself.

Medical professionals have standards that they must comply with. They'll probably keep your gp generally informed as you'd expect and a CPN, if you have one. They take patient confidentiality very seriously and there are very strict laws protecting your information and records.

But, (there's always one, isn't there?!:rolleyes: ), any medical professional is bound by law to tell your gp or police if you are a real danger to yourself or anyone else. I believe they will explain all this to you. It would only ever be for safety reasons hun, to protect you.

You can ask your psychologist to explain to someone if you want someone to know -eg. your employer. They won't contact work etc., at all without your permission. These days, it's very much encouraged that the 'client' has an active part of any decision-making process. It's natural to worry about these things hun.

I'd just like to say here that it'll only really help if you're completely honest about everything. Honestly, they'll have seen it all before hun and will do all they can to put you at ease. If you don't tell them everything, then you may miss out on some important help angel.


I hope this has helped a little dawny. These people want to help - they're not monsters and they can make a real difference. This is offered as a support for you hun so why not give it a try for a few weeks? Don't make your decision based on just one or two sessions.
I hope you're feeing a bit better sweetie. If you're worried about anything angel, please go back to your gp. Sorry for the length of this reply.
Thinking of you angel - be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Been a very busy and tired Tiff...

:rolleyes:

Much Love,
Tiff zzz xxx

maisy-mai

Hi Have been lurking on this board for while but havent plucked up courage to post my situation and problems .

Have had family problems for the past year and have carried on being strong and holding it all together .
Hubby has had depression for last 3 years and on meds . Had another major op in July .
I carried on working fulltime ( got turned down for family friendly leave when he came home he was touch weight bearing for 3 months !!! really unable to do anything ) .

Basically I crumbled 7 weeks ago but if I'm honest this has been coming on a while have had kick in the teeth from life one after the other never ending problems.

went into work one day couldnt stop crying sent home went to drs that day diagnosed depression brought on from stress .

Since then have gone down hill did pick up last week but now back to square one -work made me go to occupational health tues which opened up a can of worms explanning everything havent stopped crying since.!!! they said I'm in no fit state to work at mo.
Dr signed me off another 6 weeks today. Been on citalopram a month now.

Occup health on about phasing me back to work then maybe 1/2 day a week. they have also organised me councelling sessions. although after this week dont feel ready to go and chat yet.

Today is a really bad day cant stop crying , friends want to take me out but cant face anyone or even chat to them still. Cant stand crowded areas.

Hubby no support so far although after a chat he seems to be better towards me. Trying to keep this all from my 8 year old you get very good at hiding how you feel .

Dont know what else to say.

Maisy-mai

*zippy*

Welcome to thread maisy mai, sorry you are having such a tough day and things have been so stressful for you Well done for plucking up the courage to post everyone is very supportive and friendly here so don't be afraid to join in.