Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Hope everyone is safe and sound this a.m.?;)

I thought I'd give you an alarm call this morning to get you up & on your way to work etc. :rolleyes: .....

The Magician and the Parrot

A young magician started to work on a cruise ship with his pet parrot. The parrot would always ruin his act by saying things like, "He has a card up his sleeve" or "He has a dove in his pocket." One day the ship sank and the magician and the parrot found themselves alone on a lifeboat. For a couple of days, they just sat there looking at each other. Finally, the parrot broke the silence and said, "Okay, I give up. What did you do with the ship?"

:rolleyes:
Have a wonderful Wednesday guys!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

JennyW wrote: »

Hi tiff and thank you so, so much for your reply. It made me cry - but in a nice way because what you said was so true and touched me. You have made me feel "sort of" normal, in a way that what I'm feeling is natural.

I'm reluctant to go back to the GP because I always feel that I must be strong and 3 years on, I don't want to feel as if I'm "going back" - if that makes sense? Perhaps I could PM you?

Hi jenny!:hello:
How are you hun?
What a lovely reply to wake up to - thank you hun and you are more than welcome to anything that helped. Bless your heart, of course you're 'normal'!;)

Just a Tiffy opinion hun, :rolleyes: , but it's a common thought that sometimes, something we're feeling is abnormal, but I think it's more often because it's a brand new huge emotion and that's what's scary, because we haven't felt it before and don't know how to deal with it.

I waited years before I got help hun. I had to manage you see. I had to be everything that people needed me to be. I had to be strong because that's what I'd always been. But you see angel, the longer problems are left, the more that gets added on with time because you're being so strong, the longer it might take to resolve issues.;)

There's only so much you can put into a barrel before it overflows. Wouldn't it make more sense to see your dr now after 3 years,than to do it after 5 or 10?
Your issue now seems to be the fear and panic you feel hun and you've got nothing to lose by seeking professional advice jenny.;)

You going back to your dr after 3 years to address your issues wouldn't be 'going back', imho hun, but I do
understand what you mean though.

But if your life is still being affected jenny, as you described in your first post, then seeing your gp would be absolutely the smartest thing you could do angel! It would likely be very much the way to go forward.:T
And having a plan to follow can make you feel much better than you were.;)

I won't lie to you hun, it is very hard work - but it's the end result that's important.
You don't mention hubby's reaction or if he's aware of any of this. So you might want to have a heart to heart with hubby hun and tell him you're struggling a bit. Some moral support can be really helpful.;)

You can post here angel, (someone alway leaves the catflap open for me ), or pm me. The wonderful people here have a vast range of experience and compassion to share. :T :A
I hope you're feeling better jenny. You should feel proud of yourself - it takes a lot to reach out for support.:T
Be kind to yourself angel & take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote: »

evening everyone :hello:

Sorry Im not around much.. got a lot on at the moment and I'm not feeling too good physically either so it all feels like a big uphill struggle :eek: sometimes I wonder why I'm even thinking about going back to uni again cos I'm not sure I'm going to be well enough to finish.

On the plus side, daughter starts college tomorrow I'm astonished and amazed and dead chuffed for her.. never thought we'd get here but she seems well on the mend and she's raring to go.

Hope you're all fine, take care,

lots of love xxxxxxxxxxx

ps.. stenny can you text me your new number pleaaaaaaaase??!!

Hi ethel!:hello:
It's lovely to hear from you sweetie.:j
Oh hun, I'm sorry you're not well. You really are an inspiration sweetheart.:A

I'm so happy for your DD and for you angel. That's fantastic news!
She wouldn't have made it this far if it hadn't been for you. I hope she loves it ethel and that this is the start of the good times you've all been waiting for.:T
You're a real fighter hun and I think Uni had better watch out!:A
We miss you - that sazzy is getting away with all kinds of stuff!:eek:
Hope you feel better soon ethel hun. Thinking of you and wishing you well.
PS.....and me too stenny pleeeeeeeez!:D :j
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

MMMMMoNNinG. I'm HAvinGa bIT of TrOUbLE.....Hang on.........hah that's better. I was trying to pat myself on the back:p cuz I've actually got 90% of tonight's dinner ready BEFORE coming to see whose awake:D And yes, I do feel pretty smug about it:rotfl:

I just want to know why I can't get on with things every day----other women are fine for three weeks & blubbering jelly for a couple of days. Me? Of course! Why ask? Completely fri88in8 opposite---I used to look forward:eek: to the couple of days before you know what & to feeling & acting like a normal human being! Granpops knew what he was talking about, when he told folk that I "allers adder be baccuds"[always have to be the reverse of everyone else!]:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Usually it doesn't bother me, but when you have a family there are things that must be done. I really do want to change my life & be more on top of things---at least I would be able to FIND the things to get on top of:rotfl: At the moment, pup is the only one in control

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he sits on top of the piles:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
In a 'down' moment the other day I apologised to No1 offspring for having to cope with me not being a normal mum. Bless'em---the reply was "anyone can do normal--but you're special"....."especially your roasts!" You knew there was a catch didn't you!:rotfl:

Have a good one if at all possible. Left knee alert.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

learning_to_drive

Its amazing to see how many people are giving up the booze, is it the high prices? it cant be doubted how much people spend on booze, is the worryng health consequences, I mean how much do we know about binge drinking? We all know what happens to alcoholics, but what effect does bingeing have?

My last major day out was Easter Sunday, where I drunk to excess as I like to call it, I had a few drinks at my baby's christening (you may remember me mentioning my girlfriend's baby and how I was her father from January onwards!) only around 3 pints or so.

Since then nothing, dry, and you know what? I dont miss it a jot, naturally I couldnt afford to drink now with my money situation, but even if I could, I would rather work at clearing my debts than doing anything else. I dont miss hangovers, my new tablets (Citralopram) mean that I cannot drink alcohol as it says on the instructions clearly not to, plus the tablets were playing havoc with my system, after booze etc.

Its refreshing to see so many people kicking it for good,

dawnylou

learning_to_drive wrote: »

I dont miss hangovers, my new tablets (Citralopram) mean that I cannot drink alcohol as it says on the instructions clearly not to, plus the tablets were playing havoc with my system, after booze etc.

Its refreshing to see so many people kicking it for good,

Exactly why I have had to quit too.

feelinggood_2

I refused to take antidepressants for a couple of months, as I knew I couldn't stop drinking. I drank whilst taking citalopram, and I'll tell you that the results weren't pretty.

In 6 days, I'll be 10 months sober. I'm also 83 days binge free. I dreamt last night that I ate a tiramisu, which not only is a banned food, its got alcohol in it. Even though it was a dream, the cravings that it trigger were horrible. I felt pretty rotten when I woke up and it took me a few minutes to realise that I've not thrown everything away.

I've relapsed with the drink once, after 17 weeks sober. I thought that as I'd done so well, that maybe I didn't have a problem. All it took was one drink, and I was back to square one, exactly where I started. It was as if I'd never had a break from it.

Glad to hear you don't miss it LTD. For the most part I don't, but I do occasionally miss having something to do to numb the pain. Its still pretty weird to be living and feeling. For so long, I've used alcohol (and food and various other things) to block out feelings and pain. They feel so strong now.

Went to a meeting last night, it was really nice. I read part of the book for the first time, and actually chatted a bit!

Horasio

I would like to add something to the drinking issue.

I have a problem with feeling under the weather or ill or tired.

This week, I have felt low with a cold and the colder weather. I feel my family and any so called friends turn on me when I don't feel on top form. I feel under huge pressure to be in the 'right' mood, else I get hassled.

It makes me feel really abandoned and alone when I feel ill. I have felt this for years. It is like everyone friendship is conditional. I had the whatever got me down to deal with plus feeling vulnerable and hurt on top.

It is at those times I turn to something to make me feel better. I have had bouts of drinking to help me but like anything, it stops working, so I stop doing it. The main crutch I use is food. I feel so good when I eat - yes we need to eat to stay alive and when I feel hungry, I feel vulnerable again, so I probably eat too much.

I feel with any addiction to any crutch, you have address what drove you to it in the first place. Mine is keeping in the right mood so they don't get at you.

Big hugs to everyone:)

EthelBloggs

Tiff wrote: »

Hi ethel!:hello:
It's lovely to hear from you sweetie.:j
Oh hun, I'm sorry you're not well. You really are an inspiration sweetheart.:A

I'm so happy for your DD and for you angel. That's fantastic news!
She wouldn't have made it this far if it hadn't been for you. I hope she loves it ethel and that this is the start of the good times you've all been waiting for.:T
You're a real fighter hun and I think Uni had better watch out!:A
We miss you - that sazzy is getting away with all kinds of stuff!:eek:
Hope you feel better soon ethel hun. Thinking of you and wishing you well.
PS.....and me too stenny pleeeeeeeez!:D :j
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Hiya tiffy...

I hope she keeps at it too.. she's a bit hyped up and thinks she can take on the world now.. she's going for an interview later today to be a waitress in a Chinese restaurant and I'm really hoping she doesn't get it

As for me, I'm really tired today... still in my nightie at 2pm :eek: but I've had a couple of busy days so that's probably why.

I'm not strong at all Tiffy.. when I read your story I was hugely impressed and inspired, my thing tends to be to hide from problems until they reach crisis point and then deal with them as best I can, I'm not good at recognising things when they're minor and easily sorted I also have a weird thing where when things get really stressful I get really sleepy.. sounds funny but it's bad cos I just fall asleep... wherever I am :eek: Therapist thinks its a defence mechanism, protecting myself from the nasty stuff by taking myself out of it but it's really difficult to deal with.

On a more positive note, if you live in London and are on income support you can get half price travel on buses and trams, see here for more info

Think I'm gonna go and have a nap before all hell lets loose (ie the beasties get home)

laters guys :wave: xxxxxxxxx

Horasio

BigMummaF wrote: »

MMMMMoNNinG. I'm HAvinGa bIT of TrOUbLE.....Hang on.........hah that's better. I was trying to pat myself on the back:p cuz I've actually got 90% of tonight's dinner ready BEFORE coming to see whose awake:D And yes, I do feel pretty smug about it:rotfl:

I just want to know why I can't get on with things every day----other women are fine for three weeks & blubbering jelly for a couple of days. Me? Of course! Why ask? Completely fri88in8 opposite---I used to look forward:eek: to the couple of days before you know what & to feeling & acting like a normal human being! Granpops knew what he was talking about, when he told folk that I "allers adder be baccuds"[always have to be the reverse of everyone else!]:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Usually it doesn't bother me, but when you have a family there are things that must be done. I really do want to change my life & be more on top of things---at least I would be able to FIND the things to get on top of:rotfl: At the moment, pup is the only one in control

---

he sits on top of the piles:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
In a 'down' moment the other day I apologised to No1 offspring for having to cope with me not being a normal mum. Bless'em---the reply was "anyone can do normal--but you're special"....."especially your roasts!" You knew there was a catch didn't you!:rotfl:

Have a good one if at all possible. Left knee alert.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

First of all, Hi - I don't think we have met before.

As a fellow woman who runs a house and had hormonal troubles big time, I can relate to how you feel.

Sometimes it is great, it all goes well, you feel on top, then you lose some of the enthusiasm, and it builds it. Perfectly OK, but you feel pressured to keep the level up.

Running a house is repetitive and can get boring. It is at that time it gets on top of you. Do you get any help from family members? I would get them to lighten the load at the times you find it difficult. Or take shortcuts or simply leave the non-essential jobs till you feel on form. You don't have to do the roast if you don't have to or get someone else to do it!

Think of it this way. Men who go out to work go for 5 days out of the 7. They tend to do less around the house, so get more rest on the other 2 days, plus they get paid more than we do compared to other working women.

Running a house is a 7 DAY a week job. Are are meant to keep upbeat for that length of time? I don't think so, can you imagine anyone going out to work for 7 days and being upbeat without a day off? Even working a 5 days week, there will be times you can't be so efficient, leave alone 7 days!