Depression Support Thread

Sazbo

*zippy* wrote: »

thank goodness its the weekend tomorrow.

Love to all
zippy x

I'll second that zippy zipster! :T :j Quicky hi to everyone :wave:

Love,
Sazzyxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! thanks for the jokes Tiff I am fine today,got my community nurse coming at 11am this morning,listening to Boyzone by Request at the moment and loving it especially Ronan singing to me,hes lovely

Got a food shop to do today and I am collecting my Carry on dvd from Asda at the same time

Have a lovely day everyone

love and light,

Katie xxx

consnmattsmom

Hello

I dont usually post on here just look but wanted to just chat. I have been a long term anxiety sufferer worry about everything including dying all the time. I know its not normal and think its now making me depressed as the other day I had a horrible feeling that I was actually going to die. I have been referred for counselling and have been told I have to wait 10 weeks still already waited 4 and docs have also offered me some tablets but have always turned them down.

Is it normal to get these type of thoughts with depression. Its horrible. I always think the worst outcome of everything. I am off to London next weekend to see a show and am not even looking forward to it incase something happens and I know I will probably enjoy it once I relax a bit.

What can I do?

gillette147

consnmattsmom wrote: »

Hello

I dont usually post on here just look but wanted to just chat. I have been a long term anxiety sufferer worry about everything including dying all the time. I know its not normal and think its now making me depressed as the other day I had a horrible feeling that I was actually going to die. I have been referred for counselling and have been told I have to wait 10 weeks still already waited 4 and docs have also offered me some tablets but have always turned them down.

Is it normal to get these type of thoughts with depression. Its horrible. I always think the worst outcome of everything. I am off to London next weekend to see a show and am not even looking forward to it incase something happens and I know I will probably enjoy it once I relax a bit.

What can I do?

Hi and welcome,
I'm afraid I can't offer any advice....others and betters will be along soon on here.
But I can offer you a hug
xxxxx

gillette147

BigMummaF wrote: »

Oh I forgot to say....if you break your leg, they put it in plaster to support the healing process.
When you are below par, they give you medication to support the healing process.
Nowt wrong in taking a helping hand when it's offered...........

Gilly Gumdrop...made any decisions yet? I'll be here, whatever you choose.
ILGD, see you soon I hope,x.
AndiPandi; SF; RBK; Milo; all the old favourites.......WHERE ARE YOU! BMFx

TOTALLY P-ed OFF and upset.
The truth of my new job is slowly dawning on me.
I was interviewed for a permanent role. Then kept hearing that it had been delayed due to funding issues. Then told it was 98% certain but they wud take me on for two weeks as a temp to get it underway, b4 the certain job offer came. To look keen and keep it simple, I just asked for the same money per week as I was due to get as an employee...it was only for 2 weeks after all!!

On my 2nd day I was shown an email saying I was to be offered the role permanently - great.

I heard 3 days later that a job from another agency was on offer again. TBH I didnt really want the job. But I met them, asked for more money than getting here partly coz I was already in work and I wasn't that bothered. Today I have heard that that job has fallen through because of my demands mainly.

Tonite the boss where I am (1st job) has said "good news, you will definitely be here til xmas. The contracts will be a rolling one".

So in essence the permanent role is really a possible 4 months contract, at my employee rate!!!!

He comes across as bumbling nice guy. But in reality he has fooled both me and another person to turn down permanent roles for his temp work at a cheap rate. Meanwhile this week he has been promoted to associate in the firm.

Even at low-level he is misleading us.
- The job isn't in London Bridge, it's further away at Stratford.
- The 2 laptops we were going to get are now going to be one desktop between two or at best 2 desktops.
- The hours are now til 5:30pm not 5pm.
- He's never around to help us.
- The job we are on is a total shambles (which ok, I don't mind helping to sort out).

He keeps talking about perks and equipment etc which we will be getting. But this assumes we are taken on - and I now feel that we won't be. So it's total bollox to string us along about this stuff.

From feeling that at last I can relax at last and put my life back together after 10 months on the dole, I now feel unsettled and fooled.

I know I have to calm down (and will) and realise that I have probably 4 months invaluable experience at low wage (but still a wage) while I look for another job.
This is a better situation than I was in this time last month.
It looks good on CV (working on the Olympic site).
So far the chaos means we can't be accused of being rubbish.

Deep breath.
Change my mindset so that I am using them and not the other way round, but based on the facts and not the bulls**t he is spouting.

At least it's friday.

Love to you all
xxxxx

dithedancer

thanks feelinggood
i feel a lot better today specially now its friday and ive got the weekend off yipeee!!
yes i have been offered another counciling( can never think how to spell that word) session and accepted through macmillan support. my husbands died of cancer recently so im finding it impossible to turn down. i found the sessions i did have with the others helpful but i couldn't bring my self to mention the real reason i was down, which was debt. but now im working my way out of that with help from the other posts in the main forum.
di. xx

BigMummaF

I keep writing exciting & interesting posts, & the Post Pincher keeps taking them! It's happening with pms & e-mails too, so if I'm around less than usual, it's because by the time I've read through the modem has had enough!
I'm here in spirit tho, if not on the page.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

geminilady

consnmattsmom wrote: »

Hello

I dont usually post on here just look but wanted to just chat. I have been a long term anxiety sufferer worry about everything including dying all the time. I know its not normal and think its now making me depressed as the other day I had a horrible feeling that I was actually going to die. I have been referred for counselling and have been told I have to wait 10 weeks still already waited 4 and docs have also offered me some tablets but have always turned them down.

Is it normal to get these type of thoughts with depression. Its horrible. I always think the worst outcome of everything. I am off to London next weekend to see a show and am not even looking forward to it incase something happens and I know I will probably enjoy it once I relax a bit.

What can I do?

Hi and welcome to the board sorry it is a bit quiet on here but hopefuly Tiff will be along later,she gives great advise.I will just give her a shout as she is very fond of taking catnaps.TIFF WAKEY WAKEY.
Sorry you are going through such a hard time at the moment but hang in there,things WILL get better.I can empathise with the worrying about dying,went through a similar thing myself not sure if it is connected to depression or not but i am sure we all worry about it at some time in our lives.It is the one thing which we cannot control and cannot escape.I suppose the answer is to LIVE your life instead of dwelling on it.It is good news that you have been refered for counselling and 10 weeks must seem like a long time to you but it will pass.I have heard some people have had to wait a lot longer than that so you are quite lucky really.If you feel you cannot cope until then go back to your gp,not sure which tablets you were offered but anti depressants have been a great help to many on here and do not think you would be in anyway week for accepting them.If you broke a leg you would take tablets for the pain,anti depressants are no differant they help people cope with mental pain.I wonder if the "horrible fealing you were going to die" was a panic attack?i have heard people who have them say they feel like that.I would mention it to the gp and see what he says.There are various medications for anxiety/panic attacks and they too will help until you start the councelling.I do not know what to say about your trip to the show other than the odds are nothing is going to happen it is just your anxiety making you think like that,you say you will proberly enjoy it if you could relax so try your best to do that,take things easy for a few days before you go,plan what you are going to wear ect and make sure you are organised so you are not rushing on the day.Just a thought but there are some herbal tablets called kalms that you can get from most chemists and superdrug they might be worth a try.

Tiff_2

geminilady wrote: »

Hi and welcome to the board sorry it is a bit quiet on here but hopefuly Tiff will be along later,she gives great advise.I will just give her a shout as she is very fond of taking catnaps.TIFF WAKEY WAKEY.

Hi gem!:hello:
Huh?...What?...Where am?.....I didn't do it!...saz...ethel...
*yawn*.....
.....Who shouting for Tiff?



You know me too well gem!:D

Hope you're well angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi cnmm!
I'm sorry there weren't many of us around yesterday hun.
I think everyone was hit by the rain & wanted to get supplies in.:o Oh and don't listen to gem hun - made me blush, bless her! - it's only because if it all goes pear-shaped, she can blame me!:D She's a sweetheart really as you'll already know.:T Yesterday must have been one of the quietest days we've had - mind you, it's been a looooooong week for many of us!
I'm sure you'll be inundated with welcomes angel and become subject to the experiences and compassion of all the guys here.:T :A
Thanks for having the courage to share with us cnmm.:T
We get lots of lurkers I suspect.;) I'm sorry you're having such a hard time sweetie - let's have a look...


quote=consnmattsmom;6342730
Hello
I dont usually post on here just look but wanted to just chat. I have been a long term anxiety sufferer worry about everything including dying all the time. I know its not normal and think its now making me depressed as the other day I had a horrible feeling that I was actually going to die. I have been referred for counselling and have been told I have to wait 10 weeks still already waited 4 and docs have also offered me some tablets but have always turned them down.

May I suggest firstly hun, that instead of thinking yourself as ''not normal'', that you change it to being ''someone who is unwell.'' This would be more accurate. You're already having a hard enough time as it is, without this self-image.;)
Well done for going and seeing your gp cnmm!:T The first step is always the hardest. I hope the gp was sympathetic angel? Is the counselling at your gp's surgery hun? Have you had an assessment by the mental health team and will be having counselling with them?

It's hard to hear about having to go on a waiting list angel - after all, you've finally gone to the dr, poured your heart out then get told a counsellor will see you in 'x' amount of weeks. The very fact that there are waiting lists shows sadly, just how common mental ill health is.


So, you're nearly halfway there hun. However, if you are on a list and you feel even worse, please guys, go back and bring your gp up to date with how you're feeling. There's nothing wrong with that and it may get you moved up the list, if the dr thinks it necessary. So don't wait until your x amount of weeks or months goes by, before you see the dr if you're feeling worse.;)


Anxiety is a cruel companion angel I know.:o It's so hard with mental ill health imho, because it feels like it's the very core of us that is wrong - and that's much harder to cope with than say a broken leg. With the anxious thoughts you describe, it's no wonder you're feeling low. I can reassure you though hun, that you're not the only one to have had those thoughts.


May I ask why you've refused the ads hun? You say you 'have always turned them down.' If they've been suggested before angel, they may be a good idea. You could discuss the issue you have with ads with your gp, and maybe they could give you answers that would put your mind at ease.

No-one wants to go on ads and they're not like all the horror stories of days gone by. There are many ads available. Drs tend to start you on the smallest doseage and monitor your progress. If ads didn't work sweetheart, they wouldn't be used by anyone.

I know that you want to fight back without meds hun, but what about if the meds gave you the strength to be able to fight back? Talking to your gp about this can't hurt.

Is it normal to get these type of thoughts with depression. Its horrible. I always think the worst outcome of everything. I am off to London next weekend to see a show and am not even looking forward to it incase something happens and I know I will probably enjoy it once I relax a bit.
What can I do?/quote
I can understand exactly how tormented you're feeling sweetheart. These feelings could well be associated with depression (there are different kinds of that too!), but only your dr can diagnose that. When your anxiety reaches the point where your daily life and special occasions are affected, it's time to get help. You're not the only one who feels like this angel.;)


One thing that is really helpful with many for anxiety is deep relaxation. It doesn't sound as if it would be helpful does it? Until I tried it myself, I didn't think it would do anything for me and I was amazed by the results. The fact is angel, that you can't be two opposite emotions at the same time, eg. hungry and full, awake and asleep, and the same goes for anxious and relaxed.;)
I posted an example of it a few weeks ago. It's on this page if you want to read it:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=491054&page=71
The key to its success, is lots of practice hun.;)

Something else you can try is to do something that requires concentration. Do the crossword/ sudoko/ art/ gardening/ jigsaws/ reading - whatever. You'll find that because you're concentrating, the anxiety goes.

As for your trip hun, write down what you're worried about & then make little plans for each worry.

eg. - I'm afraid that I'll become unwell.
Answers:
- I will have people around me who will help me if I
need it. People can be very kind.
- I know where the toilets are - if I become unwell, I
can go in there & cool down & start to relax.
- I have my mobile phone with me if I need to call
someone for help.
- I will take a bottle of water with me - it gives me
something to hold onto and will be useful if my mouth
gets very dry due to being anxious.

By making plans, you'll feel safer and less anxious. For every worry there's an answer. You could always ask your dr too, if there's anything he can suggest to enable you to manage your anxiety that day to see the show.

This show is a treat for you hun!:T Make a list of all the positive things about you going. On the day before, pamper yourself - manicure? haircut? long soak in the bath? All the things you enjoy. Then take time to choose what you're going to wear, your perfume etc. - make it feel as positive as you can.

And be kind to yourself too hun. If anxiety rears it's ugly head, tell yourself, 'Oh, it's you again', that yes, you've felt this before, you know what it is and it can't hurt you, that you've gotten through it before, that you're going to have the good time you deserve. :T

Believe that it'll go away if you ignore it & relax. Don't pay it too much attention angel and concentrate on the fact that this is something you want to do and you're not going to let it spoil your show!;) Tell yourself that you're not going to worry about it now until the day itself.
If you find yourself thinking negatively, actually tell yourself to stop.
If you can't stop, turn those thoughts into a cartoon or make fun of them! This can lessen the strength of the anxious thought, until it becomes funny and not scary.;)

It all sounds easier said than done I know, cnmm, but start doing it all today.;) I hope there's something helpful somewhere in this post angel and I know the guys here will give you great advice.:A
Keep us posted and let us know how you get on angel. Post whenever you need to ok? I'll be thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx