What would be fair amount for a 21 year old to pay?

pajama

Our daughter is 19 years old and works part-time ( not through choice, no job in this area seems to offer full-time work now) We ask her to pay £120 a month. She doesn't like it but pays it. She moans occasionally but knows she won't get anywhere moaning about it to us. We reply, go and get yourself a flat for £120 a month with packed lunches included, cleaning, washing of your clothes included in the price plus all her meals and utility bills etc, etc.... she soon shuts up.

She is going abroad for a weeks holiday with friends this year (just about paid for). She pays her car insurance monthly and has the cost of petrol to pay. She does 2 girls nights out a month and does buy clothes. She only comes out with about £650 a month wages (we live up north) and has a good life if you ask me.

If my daughter can do all this on her crap wage I think you should just wave goodbye to your lad and let him live in the real world and work it out for himself.

Don't think it will take him too long to realise he was onto a good deal with you

Hermia

bestpud wrote: »

Our 21 year old pays around a third of her income and doesn't begrudge it.

She wanted to pay and she is good with money - I don't think you are doing your son any favours OP.

I was talking to a colleague a while back who threatens to move out whenever her mum puts her foot down about contributing financially or helping around the house and her mum gives in every time! This woman is in her late 20s and working full time but thinks it's ok to manipulate her parents and be proud of it! I can see your son going the same way.

Do yourself a favour and ask him if he wants a list of estate agents!

I know a fair few 20somethings who live with their parents and have absolutely no idea of how much rent and bills cost. One friend (who is in her early 30s) recently revealed that she thought you could rent a one bedroom flat in our town for £200 a month! It's more like £500-700. I am looking forward to what is going to happen when they move out and god knows what will happen if they move in with someone else!

j73

When living at home, my parents asked for 25% of what ever my brother and I earned. He was on YTS, I was in full time employment. To me I thought that was very fair.

ERICS_MUM

When I was working but still at home, I split my net income 3 ways:

25% rent etc to Mum. 25% savings (mortgage deposit, new car, holidays etc) 50% spending money to include clothes, running a car, social life etc.

izzyuk59

I think he should start paying your psychiatrist bills because I think you need to see one to realise how little you value your own condition. He's a spoiled little boy..... let go.

izzyuk59

My last remark may appear rude, trust me it comes from the heart. I am having a similar issue myself except my child earns a mere £500 pcm (and her employer is late paying her!!) and I need every penny.

brewerdave

When my kids lived at home AFTER graduating whilst working, we "charged" them ~20% of their take home wage -that covered their share of utility bills/council tax and general household shopping. They then had to pay for clothes/cosmetics and transport themselves.
On that basis the OP's son should be paying ~ £400pm as a minimum.
Now they are married and living in their own homes they have a MUCH greater appreciation of real world costs!:rotfl:

Missthingrae

After I left education (so from 17) I was required to pay 10% of my income as board so when I was working that could be about 120 a month or like now I'm on JSA it's about a fiver a week. We share communal food ie potatoes veg milk and bread etcetera but if I want anything specific I get that myself. I do all my own laundry and help out with the housework daily.

I did have my own place for 3 years and I loved it yes it was more expensive but you can't put a price on freedom.

Is he actually putting anything away to save to move out?? If he is the it could be a bit harsh, if not I'd come to an agreement ok pay x as long as you put x away and then agree on a timescale for moving out

janiebquick

In my day, it was generally accepted that a working child paid 50% of his/her salary/wages (however small or large) as board and lodging.

happyinflorida

So what total amount are you expecting your son to now pay - as this is not put in the question by MSE so it's not possible to answer the question.