What would be fair amount for a 21 year old to pay?

tomonthebus

I live with my mom at home and I give my mom 60% (just short of £300pcm) of my pay leaving me with the rest for my own use. Tbh I think it's fair (as it also puts my share of food, any staycations, etc.)

Domayne

Gawd im so glad some of you aren't my parent!! 50/60%?! :rotfl:
I still live at home with my mum and dad, when I first started working I was paying her £200 a month. A few years later I increased this to £250 since I more than doubled what I was making, I have since tried to increase it to £300 but she won't take it, I do pay for stuff like her dogs insurance and grooming visits, I top up the electric key when I see its low and buy food for the house like bread, milk, eggs etc.
reading through here though I see how incredibly lucky I am because my mum does do my washing/ironing and my dad prepares all the meals, including my lunches for work - though I do cook on weekends when I'm at home and bake cakes/bread etc
My parents seem to like having me stay on there and I'm happy to stay there a few more years yet (even tho im 30 this year )

Mojisola

Domayne wrote: »

Gawd im so glad some of you aren't my parent!! 50/60%?! :rotfl:

I still live at home with my mum and dad, when I first started working I was paying her £200 a month. A few years later I increased this to £250 since I more than doubled what I was making, I have since tried to increase it to £300 but she won't take it, I do pay for stuff like her dogs insurance and grooming visits, I top up the electric key when I see its low and buy food for the house like bread, milk, eggs etc.
reading through here though I see how incredibly lucky I am because my mum does do my washing/ironing and my dad prepares all the meals, including my lunches for work - though I do cook on weekends when I'm at home and bake cakes/bread etc
My parents seem to like having me stay on there and I'm happy to stay there a few more years yet (even tho im 30 this year )

That's a lovely arrangement for both sides. It can work well as long as everyone involved is pulling together and mutually respectful.

Curious about your reaction to the percentages - if 30% of your salary didn't cover your living costs, would you object to paying 50% or 60% or want your parents to make up the difference?

cabm4n

Hi, just do what I do with my son, we have always charged him 25% of whatever he earns. So when he brought home £40 a week we charged him £10, etc . And as his money went up so did his board. If he thinks he can live on his own cheaper then good look to him.

Domayne

Mojisola wrote: »

That's a lovely arrangement for both sides. It can work well as long as everyone involved is pulling together and mutually respectful.

Curious about your reaction to the percentages - if 30% of your salary didn't cover your living costs, would you object to paying 50% or 60% or want your parents to make up the difference?

I guess that question very much depends on how much you make and also your parents situation? For me 50/60% would be over 1k and as I'm at work for 12 hours a day and away at least 1-2 weekends of the month, I don't think my food/electric/water etc amount to that? I could probably get my own place for less than that? If she wanted 30% now, I would give it to her...probably quite grudgingly, but if she suddenly decided she wanted 50/60% quite honestly id tell her to jog on :rotfl:

Mojisola

Domayne wrote: »

I guess that question very much depends on how much you make and also your parents situation? For me 50/60% would be over 1k and as I'm at work for 12 hours a day and away at least 1-2 weekends of the month, I don't think my food/electric/water etc amount to that? I could probably get my own place for less than that? If she wanted 30% now, I would give it to her...probably quite grudgingly, but if she suddenly decided she wanted 50/60% quite honestly id tell her to jog on :rotfl:

Exactly. 50% of one person's salary wouldn't even cover the costs of all the basic bills. 25% of another person's salary would cover the costs and more.

What really matters is the actual cost of the bills. If an adult living with their parents is being subsidised by their parents' wages (or pensions!), the "child" needs to increase their contribution to the household.

I don't think there are many parents who want to make a profit out of their children although some take more and save it for their adult child.

duchy

Isn't this the point though....you are an adult living with other adults -and everyone contributes ...and importantly appreciates the contributions of others. What I find so sad and a bit incredible is the resentment *some* people have expressed at the expectation that their needs come before every one else in the house (although I do think some parents...and mothers in particular may have contributed to creating a situation they now aren't happy with )

Your situation works because you all benefit and there's obvious mutual respect.

Domayne wrote: »

Gawd im so glad some of you aren't my parent!! 50/60%?! :rotfl:
I still live at home with my mum and dad, when I first started working I was paying her £200 a month. A few years later I increased this to £250 since I more than doubled what I was making, I have since tried to increase it to £300 but she won't take it, I do pay for stuff like her dogs insurance and grooming visits, I top up the electric key when I see its low and buy food for the house like bread, milk, eggs etc.
reading through here though I see how incredibly lucky I am because my mum does do my washing/ironing and my dad prepares all the meals, including my lunches for work - though I do cook on weekends when I'm at home and bake cakes/bread etc
My parents seem to like having me stay on there and I'm happy to stay there a few more years yet (even tho im 30 this year )

pippinpuss

A 1/3rd is a normal amount to expect.

When I started work in 1976 I was earning £100pm, I paid my parents £30pm. I got my food, electricity & laundry washed, but did my own ironing. I also had to pay for my toiletries & clothes too.

What I didn't know at the time was that my mum was putting all my keep into a seperate account & it went towards paying for my wedding :-) 6 years later.

If your son moved out he would be paying a lot more than he pays you right now.

balletshoes

happyinflorida wrote: »

So what total amount are you expecting your son to now pay - as this is not put in the question by MSE so it's not possible to answer the question.

The OP does say in her opening posts that she currently asks £250 a month from him, and wants to put that up to £300 per month.

potbelly

I assume that your son will be providing free care to his parents when they are in need of care later on in life. I would like to see his face when they turn up on his doorstep many years from now.