What would be fair amount for a 21 year old to pay?

Clowance

girlycara wrote: »

ok lets put it this way, son moves out.....
you choose to have kids you choose to provide, end of

notice the KIDS not adults.

I have two teens and myself and partner have sacrificed a lot to help them and will continue to do so until they leave uni.
If they wish they can continue to live at home after that but will be expected to contribute a fair amount (actually the above calculation of their share of bills and food excluding mortgage sounds fair).
The parents have the right to a life too when kids become adults.
Wonder what sort of parents the ones which don't pay their way will become?

FBaby

I might be naive, but I can't imagine why my children would want to stay living at home if they could afford to move out? The only circumstances I can think of is them earning money, but seriously saving to be able to afford to buy, or for another worthy reason. I am bringing them up to be ambitious, and being able to move to their own place is a big part of it.

I am not a nice accommodating mummy like many. As soon as they've known to do something themselves, I expect them to do so within reason of course. By the time they are sixteen, they wil do their own washing, ironing, will expect clean bedrooms, no friend other unless asked, no noise above what I can cope with etc... It is and always will be their home, but I expect never be as nice as them getting their own home.

janiebquick

pippinpuss wrote: »

A 1/3rd is a normal amount to expect.

When I started work in 1976 I was earning £100pm, I paid my parents £30pm. I got my food, electricity & laundry washed, but did my own ironing. I also had to pay for my toiletries & clothes too.

What I didn't know at the time was that my mum was putting all my keep into a seperate account & it went towards paying for my wedding :-) 6 years later.

If your son moved out he would be paying a lot more than he pays you right now.

You have a lovely mum!

Shoshannah

Read the first post and thought: '!!!!!!?'

I don't earn as much as the OP's son, but I have lived independently of my parents since I was 19 - ten years ago.

Some people are just wrapped up in cotton wool, aren't they?

ETA: And just wanted to add, my parents are awesome.

bertiewhite

Just as an update to this - I had a chat with my stepson and he reckons £230 is a reasonable amount to pay each month and I had £200 in mind so don't know if this helps the OP?

Tiggy10

When I was 18 my mum charged me £200 a month for the year that i worked before uni. I paid for all my toiletries, breakfast and lunches. I could eat dinner with my mum but if the time didnt suit then i got my own. My mum did my washing but only because she said it suited her to make a full load as a single parent. At the time i wasnt sure if this was fair, (but it was my mums house, if i wanted to live there then you respect what ur parents say) then i went to uni and moved into my own place after Nd realised i definately had it sweet!

National_Debtline

Hello all,

I absolutely appreciate that this isn't an exact science but most people who have children working full time charge somewhere between £50-£100 per week depending on how much they earn - and, of course, the circumstances of the child in question. In addition, most usually make a further contribution towards food. Everyone's situation is very different, I can appreciate that, and I would imagine that only those in the household will truly know what's best for their own situation.

All that said, I come across many callers that are struggle with very serious debt problems (mortgage arrears, council tax arrears, significant credit debts etc.) yet charge their working children very little in the grand scheme of things. I can imagine that it's a very difficult thing to do asking for more money, luckily I'm a few years away from that point.

Very best wishes,

David @ National Debtline.