What would be fair amount for a 21 year old to pay?

sooty&sweep

Hi
On £31 k per annum his take home pay is £1,800 - £2,000 per month ? Does he have any other big bills ?
£300 per month is not an unreasonable amount to contribute. He's not a child he's an adult who is earning a good income !
It's alright for some to say you shouldn't take money off your children but you can't support them indefinately !
To be honest if he doesn't like it then I'd get him the details for some properties he might like to consider renting and let him see how much he'd be paying in the real world for rent + bills.
Jen

Indie_Kid

But it's not just bills. If he wasn't there, his spare room could be rented out, which would bring in some money.

It's nothing to do with jealousy. It's about him paying his own way.

SingleSue

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I'm with the 'don't agree with parents charging' point of view.

My parents were of the same view, and the only thing I really paid for was food that I wanted that was different to what was being made for the family meal.

As post no:41 states, costs more or less stay the same, so my point of view is that I'd rather the money go towards a deposit for a flat or a house.

Since my eldest son went to uni, my electricity, water and food bill has reduced, the food bill drastically!

I certainly notice the difference when he comes home for the holidays, the food bill goes through the roof (he does help towards it from his uni grants/loans while he is here) and as for my fuel bill? Less said the better!

nickj_2

tell him he can live there for free , but you will charge £10 p/h for cooking, cleaning,shopping etc , that should bring you in £2-300 p/w
if he doesn't like it , tell him to try renting , he probably won't last a week

silvercar

Indie_Kid wrote: »

But it's not just bills. If he wasn't there, his spare room could be rented out, which would bring in some money.

It's nothing to do with jealousy. It's about him paying his own way.

I would guess that in the majority of cases the spare room wouldn't be rented out. Having a stranger living in your home is very different to having a family member.

heartbreak_star

I could, easily. If you couldn't there's something wrong. It's easily possible to be perfectly comfortable on a far lower wage than that.

HBS x

Georgiegirl256

Indie_Kid wrote: »

But it's not just bills. If he wasn't there, his spare room could be rented out, which would bring in some money.

How many people realistically would actually rent their spare room out? A stranger living in your house is dramatically different from one of your own living there.

Mojisola

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

How many people realistically would actually rent their spare room out? A stranger living in your house is dramatically different from one of your own living there.

If it's a choice of having to sell up and you hate the idea of doing that or having a lodger, the lodger is the only way to go.

lostinrates

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

How many people realistically would actually rent their spare room out? A stranger living in your house is dramatically different from one of your own living there.

I think few would, but not sure that's a good thing.

Interestingly, interesting to think of a lodger as a 'stranger' particularly after the conversation about generosity. Two of dh's ex landlords have become good friends of his. While they certainly aren't family its not necessarily 'strangers' either.

Just as I think its a good experience for all young people to live with people not their family for a while for reasons both of fun and personal development i find it odd people who have financial difficulty and space wouldn't consider this option if their area merited it. There are areas where demand might not be there or times in life where it might not be the most preferred option, but it IS an option.

Mojisola

lostinrates wrote: »

There are areas where demand might not be there or times in life where it might not be the most preferred option, but it IS an option.

I think it's another sign that we are a wealthy nation with high expectations.

Looking back through my family history, it was quite normal for them to either live at times as boarders/lodgers or to have boarders in their homes to help pay the bills.

My grandparents had lodgers for years - it was the only way they could buy a property. As you say, many became family friends. My Dad lived as a boarder (three young men in one bedroom!). I lived as a Mon-Fri lodger for some time when I was young.

It's isn't ideal - it takes compromise on both parts - but many people now have expectations that exceed their finances.