What would be fair amount for a 21 year old to pay?

Person_one

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

See, this is what I find shocking about parents charging their kids keep! :eek: If someone is in a position like the OP where every penny counts, the son is on a better wage than his parents etc, then yes, I agree, they should be charged a fair amount for their keep....but, I'll just point out, if the parents are finically comfortable then they don't have to charge 'keep' to teach the kids a valuable lesson in money, there are other ways.

My parents were no way near millionaires, no way near....but even from when I was little, I was brought up to understand the value of money, and how to save etc, they didn't have to charge me keep just for me to learn that., there are other ways and means you know.

The wealthiest people are often the stingiest. You don't get rich by being generous.

KxMx

It does amuse me when laundry comes up the parent doing it for their adult offspring always justifies themselves by stating they don't want the machine used for a bit here and a few things there.

How do they think single people manage

I live with my mother (I am 26) and we don't have a problem sharing the machine and drying space by doing separate full loads. If one is short we just ask the other if they've got anything (or leave it out by the machine), failing that sheets and towels always need cleaning and make up a load nicely.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

The wealthiest people are often the stingiest. You don't get rich by being generous.

The two don't necessarily follow on.
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I am REALLY stingy. And we've done ok out of it. But the stinginess doesn't mean we haven't been able to be generous. In fact, I'd rather say its been by having stuff in reserve and by being ok doing without we've been able to help others in other situations.


Of course, inversely, those who are over generous can become able to help noone when they most want and need to.

Person_one

KxMx wrote: »

It does amuse me when laundry comes up the parent doing it for their adult offspring always justifies themselves by stating they don't want the machine used for a bit here and a few things there.

How do they think single people manage

I live with my mother (I am 26) and we don't have a problem sharing the machine and drying space by doing separate full loads. If one is short we just ask the other if they've got anything (or leave it out by the machine), failing that sheets and towels always need cleaning and make up a load nicely.

I've lived alone, with partners, with friends, with housemates and of course with family/parents.

My mum is completely unable to relinquish control of her washer and dryer. When I moved back home for a few months after a break up I was desperate to do my own washing, but she wasn't having any of it!

Cloudydaze

My mum refuses help in 'her' kitchen. She'd much rather be left in peace to listen to Radio 4 than have me help her peel potatoes!

supersaver2

Person_one wrote: »

The wealthiest people are often the stingiest. You don't get rich by being generous.

Too bloody true, my own Mum is a good example! Not short of a bob or two yet when she meets my wife weekly for a coffee and cake not once does she offer to pay, she always conveniently needs the loo when it comes to ordering and paying! :rotfl:

Mojisola

supersaver2 wrote: »

Agree with your last paragraph and know somebody in that situation at the moment. He feels he can't move out as his Mum and Dad simply could not afford to run the house without his contribution, 3 people really don't cost more than 2 people, yet when he leaves and his contribution is no longer coming in they will be in dire straights.

If he leaves, they'll have a vacant room just right for a lodger.

supersaver2

KxMx wrote: »

It does amuse me when laundry comes up the parent doing it for their adult offspring always justifies themselves by stating they don't want the machine used for a bit here and a few things there.

How do they think single people manage

I live with my mother (I am 26) and we don't have a problem sharing the machine and drying space by doing separate full loads. If one is short we just ask the other if they've got anything (or leave it out by the machine), failing that sheets and towels always need cleaning and make up a load nicely.

Sure single people manage fine, but it's wasteful to not do a full load if you don't have enough to fill it yet another person in the house has dirty washing. How hard is it putting washing in a machine anyway, only takes a sec and not exactly rocket science!

Mojisola

KxMx wrote: »

I live with my mother (I am 26) and we don't have a problem sharing the machine and drying space by doing separate full loads. If one is short we just ask the other if they've got anything (or leave it out by the machine), failing that sheets and towels always need cleaning and make up a load nicely.

This is what we do - it's not hard to live co-operatively.

supersaver2

Mojisola wrote: »

If he leaves, they'll have a vacant room just right for a lodger.

Problem is they don't want to live with a stranger, or to downsize, this has been going on for nearly a year. They want their son to keep living with them and contributing, understandably people don't like change but they are putting him in a difficult position and have got used to his money in the household pot. It's much the same as you see on here when child related benefits stop, money the children are bringing into the house, in whatever means, is supporting the whole household and not just the child.