Bulying on school bus

SuzieSue

fivetide wrote: »

The school is where to start though, especially if they did try to get her phone off her. Might be an idea to think about a self defence class just in case. Not only for bullying but for anything else, you never know when something like that will come in handy.

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I agree with this. My OH ensured that his children all took karate lessons and it was the best thing he did for them as they all now have the confidence to deal with difficult situations.

Colin2511

hi, my daughter has suffered from bus bullies as well - the girl was a loud gobby girl who knew my daughter from primary school (year above my DD) , so when my daughter joined secondary school it started, - my daughter can normally stand up for herself, but for some reason this girl really got to her, and she would not answer back - we had a few weeks of bag getting tipped up, physically stopping her getting off at her stop, taking her phone off her etc before she finally told me.


I did know where the girl lived and despite my daughter begging me not do, I went to see the parents - if the roles were reversed I would like someone to tell me my daughter was the bully - the parents were not surprised (and said she is headstrong),. but were sympathetic, and promised to have a word with her (they are nice people).


I said I would leave it this time, as long as it stopped - the following day it did not stop and escalated, and another girl on the bus reported it to the teacher - as she thought it was getting out of hand (they do have Y11 bus monitors, but not much good) - both kids were hauled in, (and as this girl has done this before to other kids in the school and was already on a warning for something), was told she was not allowed on a school trip and one more would result in bus pass being suspended - meaning the parents would have to take her each day - There have been no more incidents.

teawithmilk

I had left a message for school on Friday and the teacher who deals with pastoral care was trying to phone me back but we kept missing each others calls!

DD said yesterday that this teacher had spoken to her and asked what had happened. Silly DD didn't tell her the full story- she left out some of the nastier names as she was too embarrassed to say them in front of teacher! Anyway the teacher said to DD that she could either go and have a word with the girls right now (in their form registration) or just log it for DD and if anything happened again she could take it further. DD opted for just logging it for now. I guess it is her decision but I just know it will happen again. I'm quite satisfied with what school did- for now- and DD is trying to put a brave face on. Im tryng to get her to avoid these girls as i can see it is getting out of hand at school- DD's best friend is now getting involved and saying that they should get these girls back somehow. I don't want this escalating into war! So i have told her categorically NOT to bait these girls when she is at school, even if she feels braver with friends around.

That other girls mum never bothered answering my e mail so she either never got it or didn't want to answer for whatever reason. I wont contact her again.

Thanks for all help and advice so far, I don't think this will go away just yet but at least it has not been quite so bad on the bus for her for the past 2 days....but its only Wednesday yet!

RAS

You still need to speak to the pastoral care tutor and advise her exactly what names have been called.

SmallL

I suffered from bullies when i was in sixth form, I was bullied by a group of year 8-10 lads on the bus.

What made me most upset was I had no trouble on the bus before hitting sixth form, then suddenly I got a tonne of grief (Pulling my hair, taunting etc). It was the total lack of respect for 'elders' that floored me, one day I shouted back to a bully then got off the bus (way before my stop)and sat on a bench and cried.

I never went on the bus again, I was too humiliated at my own outburst and 'weakness' to be forced off the bus. The school said they punished the offenders but I'm not sure what the punishment was.

I hope your DD is ok x

Lily-Rose_3

SmallL wrote: »

I suffered from bullies when i was in sixth form, I was bullied by a group of year 8-10 lads on the bus.

What made me most upset was I had no trouble on the bus before hitting sixth form, then suddenly I got a tonne of grief (Pulling my hair, taunting etc). It was the total lack of respect for 'elders' that floored me, one day I shouted back to a bully then got off the bus (way before my stop)and sat on a bench and cried.

I never went on the bus again, I was too humiliated at my own outburst and 'weakness' to be forced off the bus. The school said they punished the offenders but I'm not sure what the punishment was.

I hope your DD is ok x

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I hope life is better now.

Hope things get better for the OP too.

preciousillusions

Your poor DD . I am glad she has such a protective mother looking out for her, I am sure your support makes a difference. I really hope that the situation improves now that the school are getting involved. Just keep telling her that she doesn't deserve this and that the bullies are the weak ones for picking on people to try and make themselves feel better.

JIL

teawithmilk wrote: »

And DD was really upset that they had called her "Gay" as an insult- because her uncle is gay and she is really close to him. My DD has a real "rounded" view of the world and these two are just so small minded. Pathetic Pathetic Pathetic.

Please don't think I am condoning the behaviour of these bullies. I am not. But when teenagers today refer to someone being gay. More often than not they are not referring to a persons sexuality. They say gay as another word for stupid. A bit like when they say something is sick. They mean its good.
I totally agree with a previous poster most older children or the sixth form won't stand for bullying. Talk to your daughter about staying out of their firing line. I would bet that if the bullies are only saying the things they do to show off to each other.
I remember the school bullies. They are the ones who go into adulthood with no friends.
Is it a long bus journey? Can you pick her up now and again to break the cycle?
You are very lucky that your daughter tells you what's going on not many children tell their parents.