I don't want to be part of your wedding because your mum didn't invite me to hers!

sassyblue

Pollycat wrote: »

This sounds a truly bizarre reason not to attend a wedding - especially a wedding where they both seemed scheduled to play an important part.

If any of my old friends' Mum's got married (presumably your partner's Mum is approaching late 30s at the very least) I wouldn't expect an invite.

So why did he (your partner's long-time friend) expect an invite to your partner's Mum's wedding?
Did they see each other on a regular basis?
Was he led to believe he's get an invite to that wedding?

This ^^

They seem to think they were very close to you and the fact that they were going to be an usher and bridesmaid shows that. If they've been good friends for years l can understand them being upset about not being invited to MILs wedding, but only if relations and/or others in your circle of friends were invited?

Tbh l can't understand why they'd be unreasonable over this without a good reason yet you've dismissed them out of hand, speak to 'everyone', you all dismiss them as 'jealous' and out to sabotage you. (can't see why they'd be jealous but there you go).

I think you sound as immature as they do.

**professor~yaffle**

natley wrote: »

:mad:

OH and I flew to London at the weekend only to be greeted with a text from his friend (whom he grew up with) informing us that he nor his partner will be attending our wedding later this year all because OH's mum didn't invite him to her wedding 2 weeks ago!!

His partner was my only bridesmaid (aside from my dd) and he was an usher. Everyone we have spoken to have all said the same thing - that their actions were down to nothing more than jealousy and some think they tried to sabotage our romantic weekend away by informing us of their 'issues' whilst we were 30,00ft in the air!

I text my so called friend and apparently she wasn't happy that I did not invite her to my dress fitting back in November yet all the times I had seen her since not once did she bring it up!

We were both taken aback but did not let it ruin our weekend nor will it ruin our wedding. If anything we've had a lucky escape by not having a couple so spiteful at our big day!

Liz3yy

This thread is soooooo bizarre. I got married last year, when dress shopping during the first visit I took my future MIL and my fianc!....next trip my fiance only, we got some very odd looks from other brides! LOL - see it didn't matter to us that he would see my dress before the big day, not important to us.

After choosing my dress I went to all the fittings alone, did anyone including my bridesmaids have hissy fits over this? no because they are all grown ups!

Liz3yy

I would also add that 4 years ago one of my closest friends (one of my two bridesmaids last year) got married, she didn't choose me as bridesmaid instead having another close friend and her cousin, was I offended? no, it was her choice and I respected that. Hubby and I attended their big day and had a wonderful time.

redcard

This is what happens when you organise your wedding on WhatsApp

sacha28

melanzana wrote: »

I'm just posting a balancing opinion.

Weddings just seem to bring out the worst in people IMV. And that is on both sides of any argument.

Time to gird the loins, and enjoy the day. With or without those who seemingly have offended you.

It is not something that can be solved easily. You think one way, they think the other,

They may have valid issues.

Have you actually spoken to them face to face? If not, and if that is not an option, then shrug the shoulders and get on with it.

Or get married in Gretna Green with two unknown witnesses.

I'm not sure I would describe your points as 'balanced'. I'm guessing you've been jilted at the alter, based on your obvious hatred for anything wedding based!!!

I can see how the OP could be upset, if my closest friend of many years suddenly decided she wasn't going to attend due to not being invited to my MIL's wedding I would be livid. She's never met her.

My guess is that there is something far deeper going on here that she is unable to talk to you about.

meritaten

at a wedding I attended last year the bridesmaid went home halfway through. The Bride was furious and no longer speaks to her. What happened was, that the bridesmaids husband threw a hissy fit and left with the kids giving her the ultimatum 'You stay or come with us'. I overheard all this and the bridesmaid left with her husband and kids.
I later explained what had happened between them to the bride - and she still thinks that her bridesmaid should have stayed. having witnessed the bridesmaids husband in full hissy fit - she was right to go. He was definitely unstable mentally. and the kids needed her.
But the BRIDE apparently should have come FIRST!

jaylee3

OP, you are well rid of this 'friend' and her husband. What a childish and petty pair! And no, the OP is NOT a bridezilla. LOL, people do say such silly things!

Hermia

meritaten wrote: »

at a wedding I attended last year the bridesmaid went home halfway through. The Bride was furious and no longer speaks to her. What happened was, that the bridesmaids husband threw a hissy fit and left with the kids giving her the ultimatum 'You stay or come with us'. I overheard all this and the bridesmaid left with her husband and kids.
I later explained what had happened between them to the bride - and she still thinks that her bridesmaid should have stayed. having witnessed the bridesmaids husband in full hissy fit - she was right to go. He was definitely unstable mentally. and the kids needed her.
But the BRIDE apparently should have come FIRST!

I hope the bridesmaid insisted that her husband get some help!

MothballsWallet

My responses in red.

coolcait wrote: »

I've seen a lot of odd situations on wedding threads.

Someone refusing to take a lead supporting role in one wedding, because they weren't cast in a walk-on part in another one, is certainly a new one for me.

You can have your phone switched on during a flight within Europe, as long as it's in "flight safe" mode - the antenna and transceiver are switched off.

So, I doubt the text was actually received and read while in flight, but probably sent to their number at that time and actually received and read after landing.