I don't want to be part of your wedding because your mum didn't invite me to hers!

paulineb_2

You find out that people who you thought were friends arent coming to your wedding and in your first post you refer to her as bridezilla, darling?

Seriously? Then you tell her shes being ridiculous? You feel how you feel at the time, once things calm down you might be a bit less upset.

As I said, lots of people post threads on here, Im wondering right now why some people bother commenting on threads if they only wish to insult people, call them names and trivialise how someone is feeling.

Sometimes the end of a friendship can be upsetting, particularly if it comes out of the blue and the people concerned dont even have the balls to tell you to your face that they have an issue with you.

melanzana

We don't know how true this issue is. Do we?

Every post on this site has the potential to be spam.

So a healthy dose of scepticism is always good, until proven otherwise.

There's too much sympathy for easily solved issues like this.

I wouldn't want them there, so I would shrug shoulders and move on.

I can't see why this is such a problem?

paulineb_2

Oh and it might be bad enough to find out that people who you thought were your mates actually arent, but theyve timed their rubbish behaviour to try and ruin a holiday and upset your wedding plans.

Yes in the long run they'll be better off without this pair but getting upset over something like this doesnt make someone a bridezilla darling or 6 years old in my book.

Seriously, what is to be gained by being as rude as this to someone?

melanzana

paulineb wrote: »

Oh and it might be bad enough to find out that people who you thought were your mates actually arent, but theyve timed their rubbish behaviour to try and ruin a holiday and upset your wedding plans.

Yes in the long run they'll be better off without this pair but getting upset over something like this doesnt make someone a bridezilla darling or 6 years old in my book.

Seriously, what is to be gained by being as rude as this to someone?

I'm not rude, I'm calling it as I see it.

I didn't swear, or go totally mad.

Just balancing out the total luuurve for Brides to be, that might need a bit of balance sometimes.

claire16c

I didnt ask my bridesmaids to my dress fittings. I had my mum and for the final fitting my Nan and my sister came, no room for more people! I havent been to the fittings of people Ive been bridesmaid for either. One of my friends wouldnt even give me a hint as to what her dress was like.

marisco_2

meritaten wrote: »

text back 'Hooray! you have shown your true colours and we are so happy you aren't coming'!
What a pair of ******s!

Seriously don't follow the advice above. Sending a nasty retort will just send a clear message to these people, that their actions have had the desired effect of upsetting you. It also gives too much importance to two people who choose to treat others shabbily for no justifiable reason. Stay the bigger person and accept that a dignified silence is more powerful than saying your piece in times like this.

I am sorry that you have been let down in this way. It must hurt very much that people you trusted and were close enough to, that you asked them both to play key roles at your wedding, have turned on yourself and your fiance in this horrible manner. It was not yours or your fiances place to make sure they received invites to his mums wedding. If they are annoyed by being left out they should take this up with her. Not throw their toys out of the pram and wreck long standing friendships. I hope you can put this unfortunate incident behind you and that you both go on to have a really beautiful wedding day.

coolcait

natley wrote: »

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OH and I flew to London at the weekend only to be greeted with a text from his friend (whom he grew up with) informing us that he nor his partner will be attending our wedding later this year all because OH's mum didn't invite him to her wedding 2 weeks ago!!

Interesting reason

His partner was my only bridesmaid (aside from my dd) and he was an usher. Everyone we have spoken to have all said the same thing - that their actions were down to nothing more than jealousy and some think they tried to sabotage our romantic weekend away by informing us of their 'issues' whilst we were 30,00ft in the air!

Are you allowed to have phones switched on in-flight nowadays? If not, then how stupid of them to think that they could sabotage your weekend away while you were a mile high.

I text my so called friend and apparently she wasn't happy that I did not invite her to my dress fitting back in November yet all the times I had seen her since not once did she bring it up!

Another interesting reason. Are there any others to come?

We were both taken aback but did not let it ruin our weekend nor will it ruin our wedding. If anything we've had a lucky escape by not having a couple so spiteful at our big day!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

I've seen a lot of odd situations on wedding threads.

Someone refusing to take a lead supporting role in one wedding, because they weren't cast in a walk-on part in another one, is certainly a new one for me.

sharnad

Tell your frirnds its fine if they do t want to come and thrn invite someone worth inviting. Ignote their petty childush behaviour. Are you having someone else as bridesmaid now

Prothet_of_Doom

thorsoak wrote: »

Now you have space for some "normal" friends to attend your wedding!

We didn't invite my Great Auntie Joy to our wedding, because there wasn't space for people whom I hadn't seen for 10 years. 20 years later, she still gave me an equal 1/45th share of her will, (the same as all her other nephews, nieces and great nephews and nieces)

I don't feel guilty about not inviting her, and she obviously didn't bear any grudges.

Birdie85

How bizarre! I've been a bridesmaid twice and both times only went dress browsing with the bride once, they both chose their dresses on later trips that I hadn't been invited to and their fittings weren't big wedding party affairs either. That's just how it happens sometimes, dress shopping can be over and done with in one shop, or it can take several trips over several weeks and you can't expect bridesmaids to give up that much time!

I think your 'friends' have some other issues going on here, or have had someone winding them up to the point of madness and talking themselves out of coming. Will they have to travel to get to your wedding? Could they be worried about the logistics/cost and coming up with excuses to get out of it?

Glad you didn't let the news ruin your weekend away. At the end of it all, they'll be the ones with regrets, not you.