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I don't want to be part of your wedding because your mum didn't invite me to hers!

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OH and I flew to London at the weekend only to be greeted with a text from his friend (whom he grew up with) informing us that he nor his partner will be attending our wedding later this year all because OH's mum didn't invite him to her wedding 2 weeks ago!!

His partner was my only bridesmaid (aside from my dd) and he was an usher. Everyone we have spoken to have all said the same thing - that their actions were down to nothing more than jealousy and some think they tried to sabotage our romantic weekend away by informing us of their 'issues' whilst we were 30,00ft in the air!

I text my so called friend and apparently she wasn't happy that I did not invite her to my dress fitting back in November yet all the times I had seen her since not once did she bring it up!

We were both taken aback but did not let it ruin our weekend nor will it ruin our wedding. If anything we've had a lucky escape by not having a couple so spiteful at our big day!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    edited 17 February 2014 at 11:28PM
    nope, i'm lost - and this couple don't sound like particularly good friends of yours (or particularly stable, to be honest) - I think you're better without them in your wedding by the sounds of things!

    eta - although, I think its normal to invite your bridesmaid to your dress fitting - any reason why you didn't do that? Have you involved her in the rest of your wedding plans up to now?
  • DaveTheMus
    DaveTheMus Posts: 2,669 Forumite
    That's some real crazy friends....

    Don't talk to them again, they're probably borderline sociopaths...
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  • Spendless
    Spendless Posts: 25,239 Forumite
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    Seriously - your bridesmaid and usher aren't attending your wedding because your MIL to be didn't invite them to hers?

    Aren't you all adults with your own lives? Some of my friends don't even know what my parents look like, never mind have met them.

    What made them think they warranted an invite?
  • thorsoak
    thorsoak Posts: 7,166 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Name Dropper
    Now you have space for some "normal" friends to attend your wedding!
  • natley
    natley Posts: 106 Forumite
    I didn't invite her as I wanted my mum,daughter and granny there (4 generations) and didn't want anyone apart from them to see my dress until the big day.
    As far as I was aware - she didn't have a problem with this.
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    natley wrote: »
    I didn't invite her as I wanted my mum,daughter and granny there (4 generations) and didn't want anyone apart from them to see my dress until the big day.
    As far as I was aware - she didn't have a problem with this.

    as far as you were aware - so did you not talk about it before the dress fitting?
  • melanzana
    melanzana Posts: 3,953 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker I've been Money Tipped!
    How old are you? 5 or something?

    Bridezilla, darling, you need to grow up.
  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    sorry, but I laughed in disbelief! are they for real? I cant quite get my head round this and had to read three times!
    text back 'Hooray! you have shown your true colours and we are so happy you aren't coming'!
    What a pair of ******s!
  • Kayalana99
    Kayalana99 Posts: 3,626 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker I've been Money Tipped!
    melanzana wrote: »
    How old are you? 5 or something?

    Bridezilla, darling, you need to grow up.

    It's not her that needs to grow up!

    She didn't do anything !
    People don't know what they want until you show them.
  • natley
    natley Posts: 106 Forumite
    Spendless wrote: »
    Seriously - your bridesmaid and usher aren't attending your wedding because your MIL to be didn't invite them to hers?

    Aren't you all adults with your own lives? Some of my friends don't even know what my parents look like, never mind have met them.

    What made them think they warranted an invite?

    Because he has been friends with my OH and his brother since they were little. No other friends have refused to come to our wedding because MIL didn't invite them to hers.

    It's so unbelievably childish and petty.
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