I don't want to be part of your wedding because your mum didn't invite me to hers!

Goldiegirl

Bella73 wrote: »

Well if everyone didn't attend weddings over a dress fitting nobody would have come to mine! Didn't invite anyone to my dress fittings, just me and the lovely ladies in the shop. There is no law that you have to have anyone. I don't get on with my Mother and my husbands Mother had sadly passed away.

Yes I had bridesmaids but two of them were little children and to be honest it didn't occur to me to invite my grown up one, I mean I chose my dress, honestly didn't care if anyone other than my husband liked my choice so why did I need an audience? It's a personal choice and something nobody should get upset about.

Your "friends" sound a bit odd. Sorry.

It didn't even cross my mind that The Dress Fitting, was an occasion to which people were invited.

In the dim and distant past when my dress was bought, my mum went with me, but that was because we tended to go shopping together at that time, so it just seemed natural.

bagpussbear

These 'friends' sound very strange folk indeed, lol!

To pull out, without any good reason, so close to your wedding is downright nasty.

Agree with others, a dignified silence is the best retort here.

pinkshoes

Fate!

Good thing you found out they were loons now rather than them sabotage your big day!

I wish you a wonderful wedding!

bylromarha

OP - that's just hilarious!!!!!

Thanks for putting a smile on my face today. Love it when grown adults behave like petulant children and don't realise how stupid they look!!!!!

Gloomendoom

Goldiegirl wrote: »

It didn't even cross my mind that The Dress Fitting, was an occasion to which people were invited.

My wife went out and bought her dress on her own and my mum did the fitting... so I suppose she was invited.

Pollycat

natley wrote: »

OH and I flew to London at the weekend only to be greeted with a text from his friend (whom he grew up with) informing us that he nor his partner will be attending our wedding later this year all because OH's mum didn't invite him to her wedding 2 weeks ago!!

His partner was my only bridesmaid (aside from my dd) and he was an usher.

This sounds a truly bizarre reason not to attend a wedding - especially a wedding where they both seemed scheduled to play an important part.

If any of my old friends' Mum's got married (presumably your partner's Mum is approaching late 30s at the very least) I wouldn't expect an invite.

So why did he (your partner's long-time friend) expect an invite to your partner's Mum's wedding?
Did they see each other on a regular basis?
Was he led to believe he's get an invite to that wedding?

TBH, it really hacks me off all this fuss about who should be invited to weddings.

I hope you've not been put in a financially disadvantaged position by this e.g. bridesmaid dress costs, suit costs.

It all sounds like a poor excuse to get out of attending your wedding.
I wonder if there is some underlying financial reason for this.
Maybe they can't afford to buy your a gift or pay for their own outfits (if they are paying).

natley wrote: »

Everyone we have spoken to have all said the same thing - that their actions were down to nothing more than jealousy and some think they tried to sabotage our romantic weekend away by informing us of their 'issues' whilst we were 30,00ft in the air!

I text my so called friend and apparently she wasn't happy that I did not invite her to my dress fitting back in November yet all the times I had seen her since not once did she bring it up!

We were both taken aback but did not let it ruin our weekend nor will it ruin our wedding. If anything we've had a lucky escape by not having a couple so spiteful at our big day!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

I wouldn't get too hung up on what other people think or say.
If 2 (so-called) friends of mine acted like this, they would be ex-friends.

Mrs_Imp

OP, a friend of mine did something similar. She was a bridesmaid, and then at the very last minute (30 mins before the wedding) she texted to give some spurious reason as to why she couldn't come. It upset me, but then I got on with having a lovely day and forgot about it until after the honeymoon. I've tried to let it go, but I'd be wrong if I said it hadn't affected our friendship, especially as she's been a bridesmaid to someone else since then.

Just get on with enjoying your wedding.

duchy

melanzana wrote: »

Now now. Personal insults are not good unless I say so!

Can't you see that this issue will not be resolved, unless the B and G build that bridge and get over it?

Otherwise, what will happen? Falling out all round and a tearful
Wedding Day. For what and for whom?

Posting after a few drinks is rarely a good idea :rotfl:

OP there's obviously more going on than you are aware if this is out of character behaviour but if they can't talk about what is really wrong be bit something you've done, them feeling over shadowed by the wedding, GF not wanting BF to go on the stag night etc or if it's something more basic like his Mum wasn't invited to your Mums wedding if they are old friends or just wedding costs they don't want to admit they can't afford.........then you have no choice but to take their reason at face value and move on. Whatever the reason and even if you've become wedding bores of the year a friendship that old deserves honesty or a better excuse from them.

Georgiegirl256

melanzana wrote: »

How old are you? 5 or something?

Bridezilla, darling, you need to grow up.

I think it's you that 5 "or something" with that post.

What exactly has the OP done to warrant being called a Bridezilla? It's the friends who are in the wrong, who've thrown their toys out of the pram.

I can totally understand the OP just wanting the 4 generations of her family to be at her dress fitting.

Georgiegirl256

Pollycat wrote: »

TBH, it really hacks me off all this fuss about who should be invited to weddings.

Me too. :mad: I wish more people would realise it's the bride and grooms day and that it's up to them who they invite.