Potential new opportunity - causing problems!

pops5588

Well, I had the interview. I think it went well, they're interviewing someone else this afternoon and I should hear from them in the next couple of days.

To his credit OH was lovely last night and helped me out with some interview questions and wished me luck when I went off this morning.

I think he's only attached to his car because it's the first one he bought for himself after passing his test, it's a sentimental value thing which unfortunately is hard to combat!

I do appreciate everyone's responses, but OH isn't trying to control me or anything like that. He is a wonderful man, and there will be no slinging of hooks! Though I wholly understand that these comments are based on limited information of who were are and what our relationship is like

I am confident that once we sit down and go over some firm figures that aren't completely based on speculation that we will be able to come to a compromise. They seems to be a good company that are confident in expanding and investing in their staff, they do annual reviews every October and for the last 3 years have given all staff a pay increase above the 1% of inflation. All sounds positive stuff to me eek.

ETA: OH has actually been texting me his whole lunch break asking me about it and saying he's glad it went well and that he's happy to sit and talk figures when they come back to me with a definitive salary. What's going on?...did he......did he actually listen to me the last time we spoke about it....?! :eek:

Gigervamp

Maybe he saw this thread!

Mattygroves2

Maybe he's one of those people who needs to go away and think about things ? If so then he probably did listen and has realised you've got a point now he's had a chance to review the issues.

Glad it went well and hope Thursday goes as well so you've got a choice.

pops5588

As long as it continues, I'm happy!

Bennifred

Good luck pops! :beer:

Slinky

Glad to hear it went well and that he's coming round to your point of view.

Counting_Pennies_2

pops5588 wrote: »

I am one of the many people who went off to uni in 2007 believing I had the luxury of choosing any subject I wanted and being ok, but by the time I came out the other end we were in a recession. I could only get my old holiday job back on 12 hours a week. Believe me no one is sadder about that than me, but it's the hand I've been dealt and I've done the best I can with it. I managed to get out of retail and get a few more skills and jobs are definitely easier to get and find now than they were for me then, but the fact of the matter is unless I go back to studying something else my earning potential will always be relatively limited. This just isn't true of my OH. He chose a different path and hopefully will reap the rewards financially in the future. He will probably always offer us more security financially than I can. Just the way it is.

How would you and he feel if you got a local job to you and studied for something more suitable?


I ask this as I too ended up with different prospects than I had intended. I was ill when it came to my exams and instead of being able to take the path to uni I was encouraged by my family to go out to work as soon as I came out of hospital, blowing my dreams of progressing further with qualifications.


The job I fell into through hard graft then processed me through some professional qualifications. For me I went down that route as I saw it as my only option to getting a degree. However, if I had thought about it long and hard I would have realised the line of work I had flopped into was not a dream. I guess I had accepted my lot and just went down that path.


I slogged for 4 years working full time and studying two evenings a week and one weekend day. I now am a stay at home mum, and those qualifications are useless to me as I get absolutely no enjoyment out of the work and if I went back in to this role 10 years after leaving it I would have to retake the qualifications all over again.


I would suggest if the long term earnings potential is limited, and your income is not a big contributor to the family pot, that you could get a local job and find something that floats your boat and train for it.


I feel trapped by the circumstances I find myself in and wish I had found a role for myself that I could have enjoyed and had the option to return to part time after having the children


The world is your oyster, don't accept your lot so early on in your life.

pops5588

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

How would you and he feel if you got a local job to you and studied for something more suitable?

I ask this as I too ended up with different prospects than I had intended. I was ill when it came to my exams and instead of being able to take the path to uni I was encouraged by my family to go out to work as soon as I came out of hospital, blowing my dreams of progressing further with qualifications.

The job I fell into through hard graft then processed me through some professional qualifications. For me I went down that route as I saw it as my only option to getting a degree. However, if I had thought about it long and hard I would have realised the line of work I had flopped into was not a dream. I guess I had accepted my lot and just went down that path.

I slogged for 4 years working full time and studying two evenings a week and one weekend day. I now am a stay at home mum, and those qualifications are useless to me as I get absolutely no enjoyment out of the work and if I went back in to this role 10 years after leaving it I would have to retake the qualifications all over again.

I would suggest if the long term earnings potential is limited, and your income is not a big contributor to the family pot, that you could get a local job and find something that floats your boat and train for it.

I feel trapped by the circumstances I find myself in and wish I had found a role for myself that I could have enjoyed and had the option to return to part time after having the children

The world is your oyster, don't accept your lot so early on in your life.

The problem for me is the degree I did really is my passion I love sociology. I loved my dissertation. What I really wanted to do was to stay in academia and get a PhD and maybe become a lecturer or further some of my research independently. The recession unfortunately meant that all universities had their funding cut and if you got anything less than a first (which unfortunately included me) they wouldn't take you on for a masters.

I may go back to it one day. But for now I want to focus on building a home and finding a job that makes me happy, even if it isn't what I had originally hoped I would have

OH is being much more supportive tonight. He suggested off his own back that he start cycling into work to cut down petrol expense if that would help :beer:

marisco_2

Thank you for updating us. I am glad to hear that your interview went well today. It is also good that your OH is being supportive and is willing to look at your job prospects with an open mind. Maybe some time and space to think things over has helped him. Good luck for the interview on Thursday too.

RedBern

And if you do get offered the job look at a lift share scheme, there's bound to be someone you could share the journey with and only need to use a car every other week?