Ex Partner wanting Parental Responsibility 10 years after split

GeraldineA

Just had a really stroppy email from my exes wife. She says that I expected them to drive all this way in the bad weather, they have apparently been advised not to make any contact arrangements until after mediation and they won't be suggesting any dates for future visits. Not sure what she expects me to do - bad weather in the winter, who would have thought it!

I do expect them to travel here to see my daughter. They've chosen to live where they live, I don't see what we can do about it. Maybe she thinks we should also chuck in our jobs to live near them in the middle of nowhere.

She also says my ex is too ill to travel, which is funny as his Mum mentioned yesterday that he was going to her house at the weekend, almost twice as far as where we live.

Surely no-one would advise that whilst trying to negotiate more contact, you must ensure you have no contact?

Mojisola

GeraldineA wrote: »

Just had a really stroppy email from my exes wife. She says that I expected them to drive all this way in the bad weather, they have apparently been advised not to make any contact arrangements until after mediation and they won't be suggesting any dates for future visits. Not sure what she expects me to do - bad weather in the winter, who would have thought it!

I do expect them to travel here to see my daughter. They've chosen to live where they live, I don't see what we can do about it. Maybe she thinks we should also chuck in our jobs to live near them in the middle of nowhere.

She also says my ex is too ill to travel, which is funny as his Mum mentioned yesterday that he was going to her house at the weekend, almost twice as far as where we live.

Surely no-one would advise that whilst trying to negotiate more contact, you must ensure you have no contact?

No and it will go against them that they haven't made the effort to have contact so file the email away and relax.

theoretica

GeraldineA wrote: »

She says that I expected them to drive all this way in the bad weather,

Surely that is better than expecting the child, for whose benefit all this should be, to travel in bad weather? Or good for that matter!

GeraldineA

theoretica wrote: »

Surely that is better than expecting the child, for whose benefit all this should be, to travel in bad weather? Or good for that matter!

Well yes, I don't think I'm going to feel guilty for putting my child's welfare over their convenience. She specifically says that they are not going to suggest any dates for future visits but mysteriously is not prepared to discuss why. It will make for interesting mediation sessions in that case really.

mum2one

Keep the email, I know it may feel like a kids playground at times, she said this, he said that, - but its a case of protecting yourself and looking at fault from the others.

My thoughts are there going to expect you to panic and go running to them, I dont see them being told to not have contact - but they di say the law is an a s s xx