MSE Pregnancy Club 28

time2deal

Stealing a comment from the 12-24 week thread, how are people dealing with gifts? Is there any kind of polite way to tell people what you need/want (like a wedding list) or is it just not possible.

I feel like I'm going to get lots of 0-3m clothing (of which I already have lots), when I'd rather people get some other specific things. I know I have lots of family around the world who would love to help out, but I feel bad asking for stuff. How does anyone else deal with it?

LailaP_2

Welcome beckyandjack

teaandcakeordeath

I have no idea t2d. I'm hoping that people will ask. I think work will do a collection for me so am hoping that my close friend asks me if there's anything we need. I've got pretty much everything I think we'll need so would rather have cash to do things with baby but daren't ask for that as it's a bit rude! I'd also rather they bought second hand so that I can get more value for money.... OH family hasn't bought anything yet so am dreading them buying things that we don't need as I know they don't have money to spare....

ema_o

T2d I don't know about having a wedding list type of list, but if people ask you may as well give them options of things you need. I'd always prefer to give a present that will be used, normally if I get clothes I'd include a gift reciept.
For my big boy people mainly bought outfits in bigger sizes, but there was the odd thing I exchanged.

AquamarineMonkey

wow not posted for a couple of days and the thread has certainly moved fast.

Congratulations glimmer, sounds like everything went well except for the merconium.

really feel for you sunshine you must be so frustrated but at least it won't be much longer now.

happy due date firey.

Hugs to all of you (robots, skintchick, T2D, daisie and anyone I've missed) going through a bad time and those of you who have had rubbish hospital and doctors appointments.

Re being short tempered, I have zero tolerance at the moment and it gets worse the more pregnant (and less able to do stuff myself) I get. I don't think there's been a day when I've not had cause to shout at DS at the top of my voice, poor boy is only 3 but keeps winding me up. And if OH doesn't do what I ask within about a minute of asking I go in to full on shouting mode.

I'd say going away at 32/33 weeks only a couple of hours from home should be fine if you take your notes. We went to a beach just over an hour away yesterday to let DS burn off some energy and I took my notes but as I still haven't packed my hospital bag didn't take that (I'm 37+5). OH will be packing it once I've gone into labour at this rate!

Saw the midwife today, blood pressure and urine fine, baby's heartbeat a bit fast but as she'd been jumping about a few minutes prior that's fine. What I thought was a body part sticking out the bottom of my bump is actually edema, so the bottom of my bump is all swollen, but midwife said given the heat and the size of my bump it's nothing to worry about.
The car seat has finally arrived so once I've packed my hospital bag I'm ready (I think). Although it turns out that even though she's very low, she isn't actually engaged, but apparently 2nd babies sometimes don't bother engaging until you go into labour and also they can engage and disengage several times before labour too. Midwife has said if baby is in the same position next week they won't do a sweep, so I'm hoping she's in a good position next week as once I'm 40 weeks I'm being induced (and I only get one attempt at that, if it doesn't work it's straight to c-section) as it's too risky for both me and for baby for me to go overdue as the pregnancy is high risk for a variety of reasons.

For those worrying about gestational diabetes, I've not found it too bad. I'm no good with needles but I've been fine doing the finger pricks 4 times a day as you have a pen thing and you don't see it go in, and I've been watching what I eat for 10 weeks now and it's gone really fast. I'm on the maximum dose of metformin (had no side effects) and that combined with eating carefully has meant I haven't had to go on to insulin, although if you do have to have insulin it's not because you're doing anything wrong it's just that you're body is unable to produce enough insulin itself. There is one plus side, I've continued to lose weight even in the last few weeks of pregnancy (my pre pregnancy diet was shocking) so it's not all bad. I had a BMI of 39 at booking in, it's now about 36 so will drop even lower once I've had baby.
At the hospital they told me it's actually got nothing to do with BMI, it's actually something to do with the placenta that causes it. I was really upset for the first couple of days after finding out, especially as they run through all the worst case scenarios with you, which is quite terrifying, but now I feel perfectly calm, and am looking forward to stuffing my face with chocolate and cake once I've given birth (not everyday, just a bit of a celebratory binge). They did struggle to get blood out of me for the 3 blood tests (one after starvation, and then two after the sugary solution) but I've always had difficult veins and it seems like a distant memory now. Another plus is that you get extra scans so you get to see baby is OK, and I've felt very well looked after. Also, my baby is apparently average size so it doesn't nessecarily mean you're going to have a whopper. I hope that helps to set your minds at rest a little.

Hope everyone is doing OK, and not struggling too much in the heat, so glad I can rest when I want now, don't think I'd have coped at work in this heat!

daisiegg

Ladies I have received a few more PMs asking about the FB group, I will need to invite you to it later when I get home from work (am on iPad at the moment and I can't figure out how to invite members using an email address on the iPad)

Alternatively, Time2deal, tcod and sunshine are also admins so if you want adding before this evening I'm sure they won't mind if you PM them instead!

RobotsinDisguse

Hi everyone, well that was a lot to catch up!

- thanks for the shocked comments! it meant an awful lot to know that I wasn't completely overreacting that horrid consultant visit.
I'm afraid I've forgotten who said what... yes I rang my mid wife and luckily got an appointment yesterday lunchtime to talk things through. I took a screenshot from here which meant I didn't waffle or get too emotional, that helped. she was equally dumbfounded as to why this has come out of the blue since I'm presenting as healthy.

I just wish I'd been told in advance he doesn't want me going "over" like aqua. Anyway the Midwife agrees that dating isn't full proof and as my LMP date is later, as it'll make me more comfortable, we are looking to move the prospective induction back a few days.

I do not want to be induced I don't really want to stretch and sweep.. But sigh... what do you do... I can't risk getting pre-E, & rates rise after 40 weeks... But if you've no indicators yet, do they actually??

So the midwife is coming this morning :eek: to check me over and see if the cervix is favourable… At least she acknowledges that if it's not then a S&S can't or shouldn't be done (but the poking around will have a small impact anyway), not like the consultant who he said he'd "just get it done" either way ( serious cringe).

I read a lot about S&S yesterday and it seems to be if it's favourable you don't know if you'd have gone into labour anyway.

... Thinking what some of you have said recently that GGD & BMI etc & consultant expectations it does fit... he thought I'd have delivered already because he thought I'd of had problems. So he pigeon-holed me. But other than the excruciating tiredness, morning sickness & losing a lot of weight, amniocentesis and having a suspected appendicitis I've been fine - I've actually been happily pregnant and I'm still feeling really happy at 39+ (sorry girls, i'm not gloating just happy to acknowledge that).

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Sunshine - hope you're okay today? - just know that I totally relate to feeling useless.

Skintchick - how are you today?

- who had the hip/pelvis pain? Do def mention it to Midwife when you see her, it can't hurt (no pun intended!)

*hugs to anyone that would like one.

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Re. Facebook I got the link to the last group - clicked it & it was told it had been de-activated. Nice. it's a shame, as like someone else said I would like to have kept up with recent ladies like mary, never despair & samtoby, but I known when im not wanted!
I'll send a PM to whoever it was for the new group - well done - proactive -rah!!

time2deal

As Daisie said, im at home today so if you want to be added to the fb group than PM me your email.

teabag29

Well i've finally reached 30 weeks today and have my 1st consultant appointment later (I'm consultant lead due to 4 previous c-sections). I wonder if they will give me a date for my c-section today

time2deal

I think my body is in training for lack of sleep! Terrible insomnia last night. Went to bed about 12, eventually got at up 1.30 and lay on the sofa for a chance of scenery (I read once if you take more than 30 minutes to fall asleep then do something else for a bit). Sort of drifted then came back to bed. Can't get to sleep again... Back to sofa. Finally got to sleep around three and then woke up at 6.30.

What's that about!?! Now I'll be tired all day again, nap in the afternoon I won't be able to resist and the cycle starts again. Not happy.