MSE Pregnancy Club 28

lilmissreading

Congrats glimmerofhope! Impressed the birth sounds smooth? I sometimes read the births thread until I freak myself out.

Welcome WTDN! Hope you had a lovely holiday.

Long day (12 hours+ out the house) and should be packing as meant to be driving to meet DH tomorrow for 3 days holiday in Wales with MIL and FIL.

Lemontree - breathe. Hope you find a way to survive MIL.

Sweetpotato - I agree with plantpot. Everyone will be bump focused. I also look wide in a lot of outfits. DH keeps saying I look womanly. I appreciate the effort but it smells like bullsh*t to me!

LailaP_2

Thanks to those who replied RE whooping cough jab. I will have to have a word with the midwife. Apparently the reaction I had is not in my GP notes but my mum said I definitely had one. Apparently it runs in my family and we were told not to have tetanus jabs but mum said my reaction was just a skin thing so can't have been that bad. Just want to do what is best for my baby, so frustrating that half the time things are written in notes!!

skintchick

COngratulations glimmer!

And welcome WhatToDo

I'm 35 weeks today so baby would be able to breathe well if it came (which it bloody well is NOT! not yet!). I also heard from the special MW team today and they will do a home visit next week. I feel a bit better, ironically, now I've asked for help, but it's still good to have some extra TLC.

I am SO hot and tired now. Can;t sleep at night, no time to sleep in the day, and everything is such an effort. How is everyone else doing?

RobotsinDisguse

Many congratulations Glimmer!! :j sounds quick! Hope you and Finlay are doing well. Such a lovely name.

Congratulations Claire!

Welcome WTDN and anyone I've missed.

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Congrats clare.

Robots- I do lazy daisy classes too (though I had to miss last weeks and have a neuro appointment that clashes with tomorrows:( ) I really enjoy them which is weird as I'm not massively into yoga and usually all of the 'hippyish' things make me uncomfortable. My mum reckons I've turned into a hippy though (reusable nappies + wanting to exclusively bf= obvious hippy... Lol) so maybe that's why I love the classes! They're so relaxing- i'm usually in a coma during the relaxation at the end- there's been a few weeks where my instructor has had to poke me awake and i've had to wipe the drool off my chin! The glamour!

I'm going to go to one of the baby shops to see if the joie stages will fit into my car- it's supposed to last until they're 7. Will go with the car seat I have initially (joie gemm) and the belted base until baby too heavy to lift in and out with seat. Definitely want to keep baby rear facing for as long as possible- especially after my driving skills at the weekend!
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Which 'number' weeks did you miss teacake, I might be able to fill you in if you'd like? I think I am a hippy at heart I'm buying old school cloth nappies, prefolds, and hope to breastfeed and baby wear and baby lead weaning, and have delayed cord clamping and skin to skin for as long as possible and all that... and I'm even now reading about elimination communication... that might be a step too far but hey, we will see!

skintchick wrote: »

I'm 35 weeks today so baby would be able to breathe well if it came (which it bloody well is NOT! not yet!). I also heard from the special MW team today and they will do a home visit next week. I feel a bit better, ironically, now I've asked for help, but it's still good to have some extra TLC.

I am SO hot and tired now. Can;t sleep at night, no time to sleep in the day, and everything is such an effort. How is everyone else doing?

Oh skint, well done on reaching out when you did, I'm sure that that's partly why you're feeling better because some of the weight has been lifted. A little bit of extra TLC can't hurt anyone *hugs*.

As for me, im 39+1 (tues)... Doing well, baked vegan apple bran cakes today

But, I had a consultant appointment which Did NOT go well. The last two I've had, in last month and a half, they simply checked my blood pressure and urine and it was really rather pointless, do I didn't take husband with me today... And I really wish I had done so.

*edit* this is long! I'm sorry about that. I'm thankful to this space for letting me get it all out. But don't feel you have to read it!

The consultant came in told me my weight was fine, my blood pressure was fine, I had no signs of gestation diabetes, I had no signs of high blood pressure, none of pre-eclampsia and that everything was fine....

And then he asked me to get on the table for an internal and a stretch and sweep!!! I explained I had a s&s provisionally booked with my mid wife on my due date (Monday) and he was not happy about that.. He said it was "normal" for people with my conditions (he repeated overweight, I'm currently weighing 103kg, was 98kg at booking, plus higher BP, under control with labetalol, was 120/68 today), to have given birth already by 38 weeks and he was surprised I was still here!

So he wanted to do s&s today and possibly one on Monday and then induce me on Tuesday next week... ONE day past my EDD, & still 3 days before my LMP DD. I said that if this was expected you should have told me that my last 2 consultations so I was prepared... My notes clearly say I suffer with anxiety and like to know what's going on.

Luckily I kept my cool and managed to restrain my fight or flight response. I just sat there looking bewildered & feeling rather bullied and then just started crying. I couldn't help it. I was totally overwhelmed.

Consultant left & phoned husband to pick me up, and he came in and consultant did return and told husband everything including that we were risking my life and babies life if I were to get pre-eclampsia. I know how dangerous it is from family history.

If I had/have any indicators that that might be happening I would do all I could but I don't, so I asked if it was possible to have an internal to see how far down the cervix was and he said he would want to do an S&S whether it was or low or not, (eg ready or no where near) because he's 'good like that'.

This goes against everything I've read, and what my midwife says. By which time he'd run out of time anyway. So we left. I feel so out of control, I feel ambushed.

I'd been planning with my midwife to start eviction procedures tomorrow (gym ball, on knees positions, more raspberry leaf tea, dates etc), before a S&S with her on Monday. I now feel undermined, bewildered & very upset with the system if they'd only told me a few weeks ago he didn't want me going over term, I'd have been prepared.

Baby isn't fully dropped yet & I don't quite feel ready - but much more ready than last week - DIY etc that's not done now doesn't matter!

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Sorry for the off-loading.

Scotsbride

lilmissreading wrote: »

OMG I read that you fingered a bowl of angel delight :rotfl:

You get your kicks where you can when you're pg! :rotfl:

probably would of been better if I had seeing as my reading was still 9.9 4hrs later boy I'm going to get a bollocking at next weeks apt can't spell usually but brain is going. I sure you know what I meant

Scotsbride

skintchick wrote: »

COngratulations glimmer!

And welcome WhatToDo

I'm 35 weeks today so baby would be able to breathe well if it came (which it bloody well is NOT! not yet!). I also heard from the special MW team today and they will do a home visit next week. I feel a bit better, ironically, now I've asked for help, but it's still good to have some extra TLC.

I am SO hot and tired now. Can;t sleep at night, no time to sleep in the day, and everything is such an effort. How is everyone else doing?

- snap have found trying to wear myself out till I sleep though exhaustion helps also trying anything that relaxes helps too.

any_name_will_suffice

HI laila,

I had my whooping cough vaccination yesterday- the nurse explained that there isn't a single vaccine (I don't know if that's true) so it is whooping cough, tetanus and polio combined. It has left me with a rather tender arm though, and she was about to try and talk me into another flu jab!

I had a midwife appointment yesterday as well, bump is measuring well, and baby was very active (seemed to be wriggling his or her head against the midwife's hands). She has reassured me that although my bump has dropped over the weekend, baby is not engaged so I can stop panicking about that.

My blood pressure was a little high, but she wasn't worried and said she thought it was to do with the heat- I have been booked back in for an appointment at 34 weeks.

Robots- sorry your consultant was so horrible. Funnily enough, I was talking to my midwife yesterday about the consultant talking to me about elective cesarean due to risk of labour not starting and induction not working. She explained that consultants really only see the deliveries that don't go well, so tend to have quite a negative view. Have you given your midwife a ring to have a moan/ get some reassurance?

Scotsbride

RobotsinDisguse wrote: »

Many congratulations Glimmer!! :j sounds quick! Hope you and Finlay are doing well. Such a lovely name.

Congratulations Claire!

Welcome WTDN and anyone I've missed.



Which 'number' weeks did you miss teacake, I might be able to fill you in if you'd like? I think I am a hippy at heart I'm buying old school cloth nappies, prefolds, and hope to breastfeed and baby wear and baby lead weaning, and have delayed cord clamping and skin to skin for as long as possible and all that... and I'm even now reading about elimination communication... that might be a step too far but hey, we will see!




Oh skint, well done on reaching out when you did, I'm sure that that's partly why you're feeling better because some of the weight has been lifted. A little bit of extra TLC can't hurt anyone *hugs*.

As for me, im 39+1 (tues)... Doing well, baked vegan apple bran cakes today

But, I had a consultant appointment which Did NOT go well. The last two I've had, in last month and a half, they simply checked my blood pressure and urine and it was really rather pointless, do I didn't take husband with me today... And I really wish I had done so.

*edit* this is long! I'm sorry about that. I'm thankful to this space for letting me get it all out. But don't feel you have to read it!

The consultant came in told me my weight was fine, my blood pressure was fine, I had no signs of gestation diabetes, I had no signs of high blood pressure, none of pre-eclampsia and that everything was fine....

And then he asked me to get on the table for an internal and a stretch and sweep!!! I explained I had a s&s provisionally booked with my mid wife on my due date (Monday) and he was not happy about that.. He said it was "normal" for people with my conditions (he repeated overweight, I'm currently weighing 103kg, was 98kg at booking, plus higher BP, under control with labetalol, was 120/68 today), to have given birth already by 38 weeks and he was surprised I was still here!

So he wanted to do s&s today and possibly one on Monday and then induce me on Tuesday next week... ONE day past my EDD, & still 3 days before my LMP DD. I said that if this was expected you should have told me that my last 2 consultations so I was prepared... My notes clearly say I suffer with anxiety and like to know what's going on.

Luckily I kept my cool and managed to restrain my fight or flight response. I just sat there looking bewildered & feeling rather bullied and then just started crying. I couldn't help it. I was totally overwhelmed.

Consultant left & phoned husband to pick me up, and he came in and consultant did return and told husband everything including that we were risking my life and babies life if I were to get pre-eclampsia. I know how dangerous it is from family history.

If I had/have any indicators that that might be happening I would do all I could but I don't, so I asked if it was possible to have an internal to see how far down the cervix was and he said he would want to do an S&S whether it was or low or not, (eg ready or no where near) because he's 'good like that'.

This goes against everything I've read, and what my midwife says. By which time he'd run out of time anyway. So we left. I feel so out of control, I feel ambushed.

I'd been planning with my midwife to start eviction procedures tomorrow (gym ball, on knees positions, more raspberry leaf tea, dates etc), before a S&S with her on Monday. I now feel undermined, bewildered & very upset with the system if they'd only told me a few weeks ago he didn't want me going over term, I'd have been prepared.

Baby isn't fully dropped yet & I don't quite feel ready - but much more ready than last week - DIY etc that's not done now doesn't matter!

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Sorry for the off-loading.

Don't be sorry for off loading that what we're here for! Just found if I go much passed 38wks currently 33+2 I may be induced. I also blowing a sack at my dad for being an insensitive b*******d when I asked about anyone in the family having diabetes and what type. him telling me I only phone him when there's something wrong went down like a lead balloon! as it not true I nearly always phone him and I'm lucky if he phones me 3 times a year! So told a few home truths feel guilty but glad I did it it needed to be said. Is anyone else feeling there attitude towards things changing and becoming less tolerate of things?

any_name_will_suffice

yep, me!

Pregnancy seems to have made me really irritable, and especially at work I just don't have the tolerance I used to have for all the politics. I think my priorities are changing (and I am counting down towards my maternity leave). The girl I share a room with has joked on more than one occasion she wants to be transferred to another office because apparently I am scary these days :rotfl:

daisiegg

I ended up in MAFAU yesterday afternoon after feeling no movements all day. They found the heartbeat ok, all checks on me (including internal exam - getting very used to those!) were fine but she still didn't move even with the Doppler on - she normally kicks at it like crazy. They wanted me to go back in this morning at 8.30am to listen in again. I'm glad I have the appointment as she is STILL not moving - well over 24 hours now without feeling a thing. This is not normal for me....I have been feeling strong, regular movements since around 18 weeks and kicks that can be felt from the outside since 20 weeks. I HATE not feeling her, it feels like I'm empty.

Sure she is ok as the heartbeat was fine but it is just rubbish not feeling anything after feeling so much so regularly. Still, I'll see what they say at the hospital this morning.

I am another struggling with the heat. I sent hubby a grumpy text yesterday saying if we ever have another baby I am NOT being pregnant in the summer again! Hay fever is really bad too.

I have been having really nasty dizzy spells for the last few days. They are different to the dizzy/fainting spells I have had before due to my low blood pressure...it is just the room spinning, without feeling faint too. I suspect it is to do with hay fever and being bunged up and so on but I think I might mention it at the hospital this morning. I didn't say anything about it yesterday because I didn't think it was relevant but I suppose I should let them decide what is relevant!

Sorry to not reply to personals today. As usual I am too obsessed with my own problems! I should get a chance later, but in the meantime, hugs to those who need them and hope people feeling bad (either physically or mentally!) can have a rest today and feel better.