ASD / Aspergers Support Thread Part II

Indie_Kid

jack_pott wrote: »

Attwood says that a dislike of being interrupted is characteristic, does that ring any bells with anyone? It makes me furious, even when I hear people on the radio doing it. I'm not sure whether Aspies dislike it more than NTs, or whether they're just less likely to be listened to. I think that interrupting is what bigots do when they've already decided that you haven't got anything to say worth listening to.

Yes. Moreso because I can't remember what I was talking about.

Does anyone else have some slightly innapropriate interests? In my case, one of them is more because it's something children would normally be interested in. I do remember this particular interest being in fashion when I was in primary school.

Own_My_Own

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Yes. Moreso because I can't remember what I was talking about.

Does anyone else have some slightly innapropriate interests? In my case, one of them is more because it's something children would normally be interested in. I do remember this particular interest being in fashion when I was in primary school.

Ds has lots of collections. But when he finds a new one he ignores the old one. At one point he had over 100 clipper lighters.

Indie_Kid

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Ds has lots of collections. But when he finds a new one he ignores the old one. At one point he had over 100 clipper lighters.

I rarely get that. I've had one of my interests for the last 15 years. I'm 25 in 2 weeks time.

Woolwich_Kim

Me too.

Here's one for you, see if you recognise this:

When I'm being introduced to strangers, I'm so preoccupied with trying to act normal that their names just go in one ear and out the other. Ten seconds later I've no idea who they are. I have to grit my teeth when I say 'Nice to meet you', apart from the fact that meeting people is an ordeal, I don't know whether they're nice or not if they're strangers.

- No, can't say I struggle to remember names unless it's a very long or unusual one. Infact, I tend to have a great memory with names. I do most of the time however, struggle to keep track of whatever someone is talking about. I might just be staring in their eyes hoping they think I'm listening & understanding while my mind is drifting off thinking about what I'll have for dinner. This surely comes down to whether whatever they're talking about is boring or not as my mind won't drift if it's interesting.

As I mentioned on another thread, anyone fishing for a complement from me is playing a dangerous game!
"Does my bum look big in this?"
"What do you mean, look big?"

- Isn't this just being honest?

I can't make a complement sound sincere even when I do mean it either.

- That I do struggle with as if someone ask me if something looks nice I'm likely to just say yes and that's it. Some think I'm just saying it. Well if they want to think that then it's their problem. And if they don't believe me they can go and ask someone else.

Does anyone else have difficulty in making eye contact?

- Not when talking to someone, no.

Attwood says that a dislike of being interrupted is characteristic, does that ring any bells with anyone? It makes me furious, even when I hear people on the radio doing it. I'm not sure whether Aspies dislike it more than NTs, or whether they're just less likely to be listened to. I think that interrupting is what bigots do when they've already decided that you haven't got anything to say worth listening to.

Savvy_Sue

Ah, the brutal honesty of the Aspie! :rotfl:

On the plus side, if they DO say something good, you know they mean it.

Would diagnosis help an adult? Well, it might: it certainly helped me to understand WHY the first 12 years of DS1's life had been so 'interesting'.

His brain is wired differently to mine. Kim, sounds like yours is wired more like his than mine. You can call it honesty: it may sound rude to the NT (neurotypical) ear. Who's to say which is best, or right?

FWIW, I do think that your isolation and dysfunctional childhood won't have helped. I've known DH since he was about 7, and he was a very strange child. As a teenager, he was to be avoided because of his obsessions. When he got to Uni, he improved greatly, because suddenly he had a bunch of people around him who really cared about him.

DS1 also found a bunch of friends, some of whom were so odd they made him look normal, whatever THAT is. Now, he seems to function very well with others, but he's still a non-conformist. For example, I won't be getting a card for Mothering Sunday, because he can't see the point of spending money on useless bits of cardboard. I may agree with him, but I can't NOT give my mother a card ...

Indie_Kid

I'm with your son on that Sue - can't see the point of wasting money on cardboard either.

Own_My_Own

I got handed a t-towel with Best Mum on it. Was told ' Here you go, I don't know why I bought you that, but Happy Mothers Day. ' :rotfl:

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Indie_Kid wrote: »

Yes. Moreso because I can't remember what I was talking about.

Does anyone else have some slightly innapropriate interests? In my case, one of them is more because it's something children would normally be interested in. I do remember this particular interest being in fashion when I was in primary school.

I like puns, anagrams, and spoonerisms. I think people sometimes regard the latter as a bit childish. As a child, I was more interested in Meccano, model railways, Airfix models, and pulling old tellys apart than playing football & cricket etc. I was an only child, so most of my toys/interests were solitary ones.

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Heads up BBC2 tomorrow.

ivfmummy

Happy Easter and happy World Autism Month.


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