12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

wendz86

Also Dorothy Perkins have up to 30% off online including maternity clothing.

time2deal

There is a part of me that would love a girl, but I think I would project so many years of my own neurosis on the poor mite that she would never recover! I am happy enough now with myself, but I spent the first 20 or 30 years of my life constantly worrying I wasn't pretty or popular or thin or <insert random neurosis here> enough.

But I always knew I was smart, and hopefully I can give that to my child. And somehow boys are allowed to be smart more than girls, terrible thing to say probably, but in my life it has been true.

My nephews make me nervous though. Much as I love them, they are little terrors really. I can only hope that they grow out of it, and will be old enough to not overly torture my little boy when he arrives!

angeltreats

I can't keep up with you lot!! I can't really post at work because my desk is overlooked, and the last few evenings have been busy, so I've got lots of posts to catch up on.

Congrats to all the 20 week scan ladies, wow we have a lot of team pink! How exciting. We are staying team yellow by choice but at the start I was convinced I was having a boy, then I had my 12 week scan and had been lurking on Mumsnet and reading the nub theory threads, going by nub theory and skull theory now I think it looks like a girl. So I really don't know.

TACOD we have the opposite problem to you, we only like boy's names. I think we've only found one girl's name we both like. Shame our surname is so stupid

Mrs C the whole holiday situation is terrible. Of course they would have no qualms with re-selling your holiday as a last minute deal and profiting twice. Really hope your solution works out. Sounds like you all, including your stepson, could really use a nice holiday.

Daisie so glad you have some answers. You've been through the wars lately haven't you? But the good thing is it sounds like the baby is absolutely fine. Fingers crossed the bleeding stops soon for good.

Well my friend gave me a load of baby stuff last night. Her own little baby is only about six weeks old, but she was given so much stuff that she says there's just no way she can ever use all of it. So I have a moses basket (she was given two), a car seat (from her brother but it's never been in an accident - do you think I should use it or get a new one anyway?), loads of clothes, toiletries like nipple cream, baby bath etc, travel changing mat, 'normal' changing mat, baby sleeping bags... so much stuff. Lots of it is brand new. I can't believe I actually have baby stuff already.

I told my husband that my friend had given us a moses basked. He asked "does it have a lid?" :rotfl: I was lost for words! No idea what he thought the lid was for - shutting out crying noise/bad smells maybe? :T

Oh and I'm going to an NCT nearly new sale with some workmates next weekend so might pick up a few bits there, I feel like it's far too early to be buying much stuff though. I don't even have much of a bump yet let alone a baby any time soon!

daisiegg

Argh, getting so hugely annoyed with my hospital!

As I said last night I was told I would to go in for a scan and a doctor appointment today and would get a call about that. Got to 10am and no call and hubby encouraged me to call them as he needs to know what time it is so he can organise meetings/conference calls around it.

I phoned, and was told I have an appointment at the Maternal and Foetal Assessment Unit today at 3pm.... I know where that has come from; it is one that the junior gynae doctor booked in for me before she got more worried and decided that she wanted the senior doctor to see me last night. She was meant to cancel it and I don't even think it is the right type of appointment with the right person, because it is an appointment that assumes I did not get seen by a doctor at all last night.

Anyway, whatever - at least I am in the diary. Then I asked about the scan and the lady said there was nothing about that there and 'I'm not sure why they told you we would call you as we don't follow up from A&E'. Argh! She said she would try and find out what is going on and call me back but if I don't hear from her, it means I can't get scanned today,and I should just come at 3pm. I have zero hope of actually getting a call back!

I am not too bothered as I can feel baby move and I have a scan next Tuesday anyway (my repeat 20 week scan). I did say this to the doctor last night and asked why I couldn't just wait until Tuesday but she said no, it was important that I get scanned today. But apparently that will not happen?!

I just feel really hacked off with the whole thing. I never know who to call if I have a problem. I can't call a midwife. None of the departments in the hospital seem to communicate with each other. No one seems to be able to take responsibility. It just worries me because although I know me and baby are ok, what if we weren't? It makes me terrified that if there was a really bad problem it would not get dealt with properly

Before anyone asks, I can't change hospitals. The only other hospital where I could have gone is over an hour away, up the M11. It would be a nightmare for appointments, never mind actually getting there when in labour. At least, for all its failings, we can be at this hospital in 10 minutes.

Sorry again for ranting and for being so 'me me me' at the moment. Thanks for your kind words. I promise I will do better over the weekend and respond to people and actually engage in conversation rather than just being all about myself!!

monty-doggy

Daisyegg don't worry, this is the right place to vent your frustration. It's awful what's happening to you and it must feel better to get it off your chest xx

wendz86

That is lovely of your friend Angel! Love that your OH thought they had lids!

Had my HR meeting today that was meant to have yesterday. Was all good and found out the company will pay for my childcare vouchers while i am on maternity leave so i can build them up and use them when i go back which will be really helpful. Also can put as much holiday as i want at the beginning and end of leave.

wendz86

That would drive me mad Daisy. Sounds like they are being really incompetent . Next time you see a midwife can you ask for a number from her you can call, they must have some sort of office somewhere.

daisiegg

wendz86 wrote: »

That would drive me mad Daisy. Sounds like they are being really incompetent . Next time you see a midwife can you ask for a number from her you can call, they must have some sort of office somewhere.

No, I can't my midwife is from a completely different hospital (due to the fact that I live in one county,but my nearest hospital,where I will deliver and have all my appointments, is in the next county along. So my midwife comes from a hospital in my county) and she is in what they call the 'rural team' (weird as I do not live in a rural area at all) and they are just roving. There is a number but it is only to arrange/rearrange appointments. I tried to call it once when I wanted to speak to a midwife and was told in no uncertain terms that it is only an appointment line and I can't speak to a midwife as they are always out and about in the villages doing appointments.

Not had a call back about this mythical scan - I phoned an hour ago. Will just go for appointment at 3pm but I bet it will be pointless because they will be thinking I have not seen a gynae doctor at all so they will only do/ask what has already been done by the gynae registrar last night.

wendz86

That is awful. Can't believe how much things differ in different areas.

SewIt_2

That's nuts Daisie - what a pain! I guess that now you are officially 22 weeks, they will at least see you at the MFAU. I too struggle with who to call over things, there seems to be so many numbers! When we had our scare, the mw at the foetal medicine unit took over organising stuff and it was great having one person to call! Now we are 'normal' I have no idea and the last mw I saw was a little dippy! Hope it goes well today!

Wendz - thanks for the tip re 30% off Dot P, my trousers are feeling really snug so I might pop in!

xx