The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jammy26

Congratulations PM, it's weird when people I know in RL get pregnant it upsets me that they have been lucky and I have not, but when it's one of you ladies I am just delighted :-D

chickpea

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Chickpea I'm going to call my gp on Monday.i didn't get an appt today when I asked.im not really sure what happens once I let me gp know?.

Not much tbh - he or she will say congratulations and get you an early midwife appointment - that's when you push for an early scan because of uncertainty over dates.

Carrot34

Congratulations PM! Fantastic news. You have been through such a journey and its great that you are where we all want to be!

We have moved into our new home this last week so been really busy. But I love being in our own home. It's so fantastic to own somewhere - feels completely different to when you rent.

I had a few girlfriends over today to celebrate the new home. It was lovely to have them here and they loved the place. I had bottles of bubbles in the fridge but ..... We didn't have any.

But now I just feel awful. They are all pregnant, except 1 who has a new baby. 1 of them is also pregnant at the stage that I should be at. I am really happy for them all but it just hurts so much and I feel worse now than I usually do. I really don't want to become bitter but I feel that it's happening.

I feel that our one chance is over now.

Sorry to be so negative but I feel so alone. I feel there is noone to talk to because my friends haven't had a miscarriage before and all of them fell pregnant easily. And I don't want to talk to my partner about it because I think he is struggling a lot and he has been fantastic to me the whole time - I need to give him a chance of not hearing about it all the time.

So sorry ladies. I've not been posting because we haven't been able to start trying again so haven't had anything to contribute but do read all the time.
Sorry to be such a downer.

I hope you've all had a lovely weekend - even though the weather was awful!

Part_Mouse

Chickpea thanks so the info.

Carrot I'm so sorry to hear your struggling, not having had a mc I can only imagine how you feel. I've got everything crossed that you get your sticky bfp again.glad to hear you've moved and are liking your new place.

Afm I was in quite a lot of pain last night so spoke to the in all dr from my fertility clinic how said to go to a&e. the did a test and still positive, it looks like I've got a water infection and the dr wasn't sure whats caused the pain. It might be the adhesions from my burst appendix or something different but of to the epu tommorow eek.

codemonkey

Oh no! PM - hope everything is ok with you.

Anyone else hating stupid Hallmark make an infertile feel crap day?

Part_Mouse

Code grrr I've not seen that

I should really move on to the other thread as I'm sure its not very helpful me still posting on here.

Fairy_dust

Not been on here in ages as been quite busy but so pleased that I have checked in today to see that you are pregnant PM!! Congratulations xx

Not much happening at this end, I go in for my endo scratch in a few weeks and start my ivf beginning of August. I'm starting to clear out stuff in the house in the hope that if it is third time lucky I won't have to do it while pregnant!! Well that's the plan anyway.

Frozen I see you are doing a fet in Oct/Nov, will you be having an endo scratch too?

Hugs to anyone that needs them & also to their OH's who may need them today xx

Wonder_Woman

Ooh PM, congratulations!! I had a feeling about this cycle If anyone deserves it its you honey after everything you have put up with. I agree with Jammy, when friends in RL are falling pregnant I feel upset but genuinely over the moon for you. Does you iui cycle maybe include an early pregnancy scan at 6-7 weeks? I think our IVF did had we gotten to that point.

Carrot, I know exactly what you mean - in our friendships group there are also not many of us left without children and one of my biggest fears is *whispers* that if we never have children (adopted or otherwise) I will end up a miserable bitter old woman. As you say, sometimes I feel its already starting.


ETA: Good luck today PM xx

Part_Mouse

WW thanks Im going to try and get hold of my FS again tommorow, the nurse I spooke to on Friday said they didnt have any apptts for a month for a scan.Knowing I had 2 follies does make a little worried but what will be will be.

Iv'e got everything crossed for each and everyone of you for the best outcome.

Floaty

Hi all, hope everyone's having a good weekend. I'm feeling really frustrated. Been on Clomid for 3 cycles now. Currently on cd15 of the third and have been having ov pains this morning (I think). Sadly I'm on a train to Scotland for the night on a work trip, without dh. We dtd yesterday morning, but probably won't again till Tuesdays evening. I'm just feeling like this month was a good chance and we're wasting it Damnit.

Ho hum, can't be helped today. IVF appt on 31.07 feels like an age away but it'll come...

Hugs to all xxxx