Married but living separately?

madison-nyc

They are living in the same house albeit in separate beds as the marriage has broken down.


I'm not discussing my situation merely pointing out that the rules are not black and white as you first stated.


I know my situation and the many details that you do not. I do not feel the need or have the slightest inclination to explain, justify or inform you of my marital affairs as it has nothing to do with my original post.


This shall be my last post as it went rather downhill when daily mail links appeared ;0)

JIL

I would just add that even HMRC do not think its straightforward.


http://www.revenuebenefits.org.uk/tax-credits/guidance/how-do-tax-credits-work/understanding-living-together/

tinkerbell28

JIL wrote: »

I would just add that even HMRC do not think its straightforward.


http://www.revenuebenefits.org.uk/tax-credits/guidance/how-do-tax-credits-work/understanding-living-together/

Seriously are you trolling? As I can't get how you're not understanding what you're linking. It's VERY clear for married couples which op is! It's exactly as I've quoted above.

It also goes onto clarify how they'd decide if a married couple are permanently seperated or not.

They arent. They are together!

So I'm going to presume you're just not reading properly, or like op have completely misunderstood the guidance, for whatever reason you're intent on doing so. I can't say anymore.

Blimey.

tayforth

madison-nyc wrote: »

Afternoon all,


Just a bit of a nosey post to see if anyone is in a similar position to me....


My husband and I have been together for 9 years and married for 7. We've had a rough couple of years which cumulated in me telling him I didn't love him and we separated and have been now living separately for almost 7 months now.


After marriage guidance, time apart, hours and hours of talking and dating like we did when we first met etc. we took the decision to put our wedding rings on and make another go of it. So we've been on a family holiday, spend a couple of nights a week at each others houses etc. and it's going really well, I've fallen in love with him all over again.


For now we are happy as we are and both enjoying having our own places so we still get to have time on our own. In a way I want him to move back in but I don't want to rock the boat and end up unhappy like I was before we broke up.


So is anyone else married but living separate?

^^^ This sounds rather different to what's written below...

madison-nyc wrote: »

What in your opinion are steps to make separation legal? as I can tell you that in HMRC's view it has nothing to do with court or solicitors. It is the separating of finances, sleeping in separate bedrooms etc.


You keep referring back to holidays, we have taken one weekend away with the children which was our make or break time as a family, I know many separated couples who still holiday as a family for the sake of the children.


We are still at marriage guidance/therapy, many people indeed continue with therapy through divorce proceedings as a means of mediation. We have issues to work though before I commit to him moving back in to the family home, I will not put him, the children or myself through another separation.

OP, everyone is just trying to help you. Your first post sounded as if you were reconciled as a married couple, and the only issue was your future living arrangements.

FWIW, I hope that you can sort out your marital situation in a way that makes you, your husband and your children happy, and that you do not end up in trouble with the law.